Help with getting my 3yo out of our bed.?

Question

14 months ago my partner and i had separated. When we were apart, when my son stayed with his father they shared a bed, so when we got back together my son began to wake in the night and climbs into our bed, returning him to his atleast 3 to 4 times a night. It then ot to the point where I didn't even notice him climb in for I couldn't wake up, so i I've tried locking him out but he just bangs on the door untill we open it and insists that we leave it open. I have even tried making his bed more comfortable, no change. Nothing seems to work, any suggestions...???

Answer 1

I have a three year old. My husband and I were separated for a year and when she was at her fathers, she slept with him. At my house she slept in her own room. Now we are back together and no matter where she is put to bed, she ends up in bed with us. The problem for us is that I'm the only one who has a problem with this, so my husband wont let me move her. You and your partner need to agree and maybe put the child in his own bed together. explain the boundaries of the parents room. when we were growing up, we never even stepped foot into our parents room. It was a sacred place. that's the way it should be now. good luck with your quest for an answer to this dilemma and I'll be checking answers to find a good idea for myself.

Answer 2

Make up a bed on the floor next to yours with a pillow and blanket and tell him if he wants to sleep in your room that is where he has to sleep. Eventually he'll like his own bed better then the floor. He will have the comfort of being in your room but not in your bed. I would also try to figure out why he is waking up so often.

Answer 3

I dont think it has anything to do with him sleeping in the same bed as his dad when you were apart. i think it has to do with the fact that he remembers you two being apart and hes not sure whether or not it will happen again. he may feel comfort when he sleeps in the same bed as you.
i would try ( if you have the room) bringing his bed into your room and making him sleep in it. after hes adjusted to sleeping in his own bed again then try slowly moving him back into his room. you should make sure he falls asleep before you leave him in the room alone. and if that means that every time he gets up you go in and make sure hes sleeping then so be it but eventually he will learn to stay in bed when he gets up in the middle of the night.
i think once he gets into the habit of sleeping in his own bed he should be fine

Answer 4

I agree with Betsy, our 7 year old girl,5 year old girl and 3 year old boy creep into our room at night still from time to time. I think it helps to reassure them, I work midnights some times and I think they feel a little separation anxiety sometimes when they see me get ready for work, we usually just make sure we tuck them in at night maybe read a book or throw a Disney movie in and watch it with them. Just so they feel safe and know you'll be there in the morning.

Answer 5

let him sleep on a sleeping bag on your floor for awhile, but make the bed strictly off limits. perhaps your seperation was more traumatic on him than you thought.

Answer 6

bering him to his bed wit a teddy bear.Or ask him if he want you to sleep wit him in his bed and when he falls a sleep go to your bed and go to sleep.