are there any nice guys left out there?

Question

im not a man hater i dont mean to offend but im about to be single after a 6 year relationship and im real worried about the dating game again.i have a son aged 8 and im wondering are there decent guys out there who arent just after one thing?

hi thanks for all your answers! Im not looking to rush into anything my son has to come first im just worried about the future as i dont want to be left on the shelf! lol but thankyou all for the answers you gave :)

Answer 1

Yes of course there are. Won't be easy finding them, you just have to be honest about yourself and what you're really looking for and make that clear from the outset. Most men, the ones who like the chase, the challenge and getting their leg over, will give up after a period of time if you stick to your values.

It's difficult when you have kids but generally those men already with kids will have more understanding and connect with you.

My partner had an 8 year old and 6 year old when we got together. 9 years on they have a 6 year old sister and we have a great time together.

Good luck, don't try too hard, it'll happen one day soon!

Answer 2

It isn't that there aren't any nice guys out there and it's not even an unreasonable request; it's just that the things you want are for silly little girls not a grown woman raising a child. I assume the "one thing" you're referring to is sex. Well, all guys are after that even the decent ones. Good luck finding a guy that isn't. Why would any women want a man that's not sexually attracted to her? Nice guys don't get laid quick or often because they're not going to pressure you for sex that's why they're nice but that's what you'd want and thinking about if your not getting any. Ladies do the nice guys you know out there a solid and have sex with them. God knows they need it. They'll be grateful as hell and follow you around like a love sick puppy dog. Don't women feel empowered when they ultimately decide which guy get sex? Any woman that doesn't employ all her sexual powers to get the man she wants is a damn fool. You should be flattered that guys are after you for just one thing. I promise you sometime in the not so distant future you won't be able to give it away.

Answer 3

Not too many anymore. The problem is where to find them. Be selective, use your "gut" instinct ALOT and put your son FIRST, he has just lost a "Dad", he is grieving, too.

Take some time off for YOU, a year or so...your son needs you now, another man coming into your lives is a very bad idea right now.. Get to know your child again and just as important, get to know yourself.

Set some goals for the 2 of you, you are ALL he has. Tender age, needs his Mom more than another man in his life right now. He can find positive role models in other places than in his Mom's bedroom.

You won't be sorry, he'll grow up to be a great person.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Depending on why you split, your self confidence could be really low. Wait until it is back on track and then dont settle for second best. You could be looking for a long time, but it will be worth it. You dont want to get a reputation while you are sampling, which is very easy with gossipers, or rebuffed men to put it about that they have scored with you. So, take yopur time so that it isnt a rebound situation and learn to enjoy your own company in the meantime. Just think, no more smelly socks to wash, and bath to wash out after a man. LOL. Take care of yourself and your child.

Answer 5

Cheryl, I know for a fact that there ARE nice guys left, and they're like you...looking for someone who will treat them like something more than a wallet and a ride. I have a 33 year old nephew who's still looking for a wife. He says all they want is money and a party. He wants someone who wants to be a wife, a mom, and someone who's a homebody. He's looking to open his own Dojo (karate studio) and is intelligent, sensitive, polite, gentle, and very handsome. Every time he gets involved with a gal, she turns out to be after money & a good time...not at all what he wants. He knows that, at his age, most of the women have kids & have been married. He's okay with that. But try to find one who wants to be a homemaker? Very tough. So, I hope you find Mr. Right. They're out there...somewhere. <*)))><

Answer 6

There are loads, you just have to look in right types of places. A Saterday night out in the town isnt goint to uncover many. I know how you feel though, seems a lot of emphasis is on a quick one night, not so much on that little bit more. Personally I would prefer a longer term, indepth relationship as oppose to the quick in out off you go. But hey thats just me!

Answer 7

I've been told I'm a nice guy....by women I've dated. On many first (and last) dates, they've expressed to me that a 'nice guy' is not what they're after. Maybe other guys have had this experience and aren't so nice anymore. However, I'm too set in my ways to be anything other that what I've been all along, a nice guy looking for a nice girl.

Answer 8

I just recently brok off my 7 yr relationship too.Im really hurt right now but i KNOW theres someone out there that will be good to me.Im not ganna go looking right now.I think if you jump into one relationship to another and the prior one was bad then you take all them insecurities and anger out on the next relationship.Keep your eyes open and really look at and get to know guys.I know i wont be ready for another relationship for at least a year if not more.

Answer 9

I hear ya sister :) Don't want to put you off or scare you before you even start dating again...but I'm fresh out of 5 years of solid relationship and I was horrified with the state of the dating scene! full of dweebs freaks and weirdos! But alas I have not given up hope!! There HAVE to be some decent guys left (will the last few decent guys please stand up, please stand up ...)

all the best - and no matter how hard it gets...keep reminding yourself about the bad things in your last relationship - dont go running back to it just cos you're scared or lonely. and don't under estimate the power of girl friends!!!!!!

Answer 10

Love 101! Love is from the heart. Don't Date! Think, lead, follow your Heart. It's not gonna lie to you. You can be social with others. But don't fool yourself. It's a Zoo out there. We men, get to seeing that Values are more important at some time. when that happens is up to the individual. Respect yourself. Trust Your Heart. He's out there!