2007-01-15 23:42:45 · 16 answers · asked by mekusa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well understandably you have to work to provide for your family....BUT you also have a major obligation to your family....therefore you have to give them adequate time as well.
And remember jobs come and go....family is for ever!
2007-01-15 23:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one, your wife should be a higher priority than your wife. Tell your employer that your family comes first. Also I know your wife would deffinatly appriciate it. I know what you mean though, I work construction and come summer time, my hours go up and I don't get much time to spend with my wife and kids. Alot of times I get home and get to spend an hour or 2 with the kids till bedtime, and have dinner, even if I have to heat it up.
But I have told employers that my family ALWAYS comes before my job. Hope that this helps.
2007-01-16 00:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you married your wife and stated vows in the process, your job you signed an agreement of sort which I am sure was done far less lovingly as your vows. Which one means more to you? Why is your time limited, millions of people juggle both including kids. Time to talk and negotiate your needs with both your wife and employer. A healthy balance can be found
2007-01-16 00:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had this happen to me, and it really got to be a big issue in our relationship. He was chosing the job over me & his baby boy. You should cut back on work as much as your boss will allow, and when you are with her VALUE that time.
Part of my reason for being so mad at him was because when he finally DID spend time "with" us, it was by him watching tv or doing his own thing. (Of course he would spend 10 minutes with us before going to do his own thing..)
So.. when you are at home, with her, actually pay attention to her... she's only competing because she wants to be with you.
Good Luck!!
2007-01-15 23:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by natalie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your wife comes first - you can always find another job, but a good relationship is worth a million times more.
2007-01-15 23:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
have you ever spoken on your husband about it? it truly is of route the first step. tell him that you're quite fascinated in the placement too, and also you've gotten realized about it in the different case besides. you could't only bounce into competition with him like that. i'm a photo dressmaker and that i understand how cut back -throat it would want to quite be, yet your husband has to go back first. it truly is no longer about dressmaker vs dressmaker once you're married. it truly is about compromise. also, even with the reality that you've gotten a extra useful portfolio, do not anticipate they're going to employ you in accordance with that. you would possibly want to easily no longer be what they are searching for. It quite gained't be properly worth taking that possibility. many times, husbands experience (deep down interior) like they ought to grant for his or her better halves. i'm no longer holding this in the former-formed experience like you should stay at homestead or some thing, yet many men only experience like a lot less of a guy in the journey that they are no longer operating. (fairly if the spouse is employed) attempt to contemplate how that would want to result his self-worth and your courting. It relies upon on the guy, yet search for suggestion from with him about it. on the different hand, assuming you want the money because you're both unemployed, does no longer it would want to the most experience that you'll both interview for the placement? Why no longer? What might want to it harm? Neither of you would possibly want to get it. you in reality ought to practice yourselves if one in all you does. There can't and may no longer be any puzzling thoughts about it both way. If some thing, inspire him and help him if he's attracted to going to the interview and settle for his selection if he doesn't opt for you to bypass for it. i'd imagine that he might want to opt for to assist you to boot once you've an activity interior of a similar job, yet you should split your competitiveness out of your marriage. i'm aggressive too and that i understand the way it truly is, besides the undeniable fact that it truly is no longer continually healthful once you've a similar occupation route. attempt to placed your self in his shoes. If he were extra useful at designing than you, how might want to you experience? Being a sturdy spouse comes previously being a sturdy dressmaker. sturdy success! i wish you both get a job quickly :)
2016-11-24 20:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to compromise
we both work long hard hrs and we know it thats one thing communicate
we have a 2 night min where at 630 we do our thing no kids no phone just our thing most of the time its just snuggling and talking about what is going on in our life
2007-01-15 23:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only work when u have to and dont volunteer to work when u dont, or spend more time then necessary at work.. she also needs to understand that ur job is important and that u need ur job to survive..but dont put your job ahead of her, try to keep work at work, and your time at home devoted to her..
2007-01-15 23:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remind yourself that you took marriage vows with your wife and not with your job. Do not pretend to be married to your job.
2007-01-15 23:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Always make time for your wife - she defines you, your job doesn't.
2007-01-16 00:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋