my best friend is in love with some idiot .im caling him a idiot cauz i have seen the same guy with some other gal in a restaurent and when enquired bout him she was his girl friend, and my friend does not believe this . i really dont know what to do.she would be broken if she will know the truth as she trusts him more then me.(we r friends from 7yrs). plzzzzzzzzz help.
2007-01-15 23:42:03 · 33 answers · asked by alekhya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you can't help somebody who doesn't want to listen and see things. when she sees him with another girl, she'll believe. love is blind
2007-01-15 23:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by deana m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have good intentions but your best friend may think that you are trying to break up the relationship if you were to say anything negative about the boy. Just act cool and mention just as a matter of fact that you happened to see the boy with a girl at the restaurant. Your best friend will take the lead to find out for herself. Avoid adding in the fire.
2007-01-15 23:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is to catch him in the act!find out when he is goin out again with his girlfriend and arrange an outing with your frnd . show her that you are right!frankly you have done your part by warning her and your friend is really gullible not to accept your warning!she will only learn when she falls. it really hurts when the closest of your friends dont believe you. i know the feeling. the only thing you can do is to show her that you were right!or else she will learn it on her own. tell her how ypou feel about that idiot with all the drastic details and tell her to accept it. give her a tough decision to make that may help!and do ask your friend whether she believes a bond 7yr old or a stupid crush thats hardly anything but a bond
2007-01-16 00:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by s4e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prepare your friend gently to take the blow that she is about to get. If you tell or do anything more,she may become suspicious with you and show you the door. Moreover, these relationships are all personal matters and you should not interfere. But be there with the handkerchief when she needs you.
Logically, your friend has to suffer pain once, immediately if you say it, or later when she finds it out. It is better to suffer later. And anything can happen, he may dump the other girl. There are many possibilities for the future, why suffer now ??
2007-01-15 23:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Option 1: The next time you see the jerk, call your best friend and tell her to meet you in front of whereever the guy is, but don't let him see you around. When she shows up, tell her "let's go into this pretty restaurant" and let her see with her own two eyes what is going on.
Option 2: Tell your best friend that since she doesn't want to listen to your warnings, you will tell her nothing more about it. But if the jerk breaks her heart. You, as the great friend you are, will be there to confort her. THAT'S what friends are for.
Best wishes.
2007-01-15 23:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she takes the word of some guy over the word of her friend of 7 yrs then she deserves her heart broken. No guy is worth more than a good friend. Just be honest with her and tell her what you know then help and support her when she needs you to.
2007-01-16 00:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she really wants to go out with that guy i am afraid u cannot
do anything about that... but hope u will still be with her if ever
she gets any sort of deception... as a friend try to explain to her
why that guy is not worth her... or may be u could spy on him if
possible for u and take his photos with other girls and show those to
ur friend but dont let him or anyone else or even ur best friend u r doing so
n be very careful... all the best...
2007-01-15 23:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what u know, talk to her about the guy, show her; if possible how he has effected the life of other girls. she might realize her mistake.even if she doesn't, don't just leave her alone. this is the time she needs u the most.be with her. listen to her experiences of love. may be she is first time in the experience. she must be enthusiastuc about her affairs. your sermonizing won't help her much. but once when she is out in the real world she will realize your efforts.
2007-01-16 00:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by word4all w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ure enquired source may not be right. u cant judge a guy and a gurl going to a restuarant as lovers or any thing u want. figure out the truth and then think of helping ure freind.
2007-01-16 03:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are calling idiot to the Boy I think idiot is your friend as she is not believing you or you r having jealous with her as she has found some idiot guy ? Let them find right solution them self.
2007-01-15 23:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by deepaklbhatia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth but if she doesn't believe u don't bring it up again. just forget about it. She'll know u were telling the truth later by herself. She has to believe u if she really is ur friend.
2007-01-16 00:36:04 · answer #11 · answered by Rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋