My bestfriend and I have been friends for just under a year (we've known each other since school, but lost contact for a while). My boyfriend and I have been together three years. My bestfriend has been single a long time and spends alot of her time at mine and my boyfriends house (which is fine). She went xmas shopping with my boyfriend to help him with my presents and a mutual friend saw them and asked her if they were having an affair, she laughed it off. Since then though, she keeps telling the story over & over about that time someone thought they were having an affair and has also said that wouldn't it be hurtful to me if she fancied my boyfriend.
I have asked my boyfriend about this and he thinks she doesn't and says not to worry.
I am a little worried because she does get pretty depressed that she can't find the right bloke. Not much to go on, but any ideas?
2007-01-15 23:33:37 · 11 answers · asked by 26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think she may just really want a partner and she must be a lonely girl deep down. She may see how great you and your partner get along and want the same kind of relationship with a guy but they may not measure up in her mind. Anyway, how were the guys she has been dating (in your opinion)? If they are not up to scratch, she may be looking in the wrong places. Does your partner or yourself know of any decent blokes she may get a long with? Maybe someone you haven't even thought of before, at your work etc. I think you and your partner will be ok. I really just think she is lonely.
2007-01-15 23:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by sydney77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the possibility is making you uncomfortable, then bring it up with her. Otherwise I would just leave it be. She's not doing any harm and as long as any feelings she may have are not reciprocated by your boyfriend, there should be no problem. Hopefully you have a close enough friendship that you can speak openly with her about your concerns and I'm sure she'll just tell you not to be silly. You live with your boyfriend so you must have a very strong relationship - keep that in mind.
If you do think this could become a problem, see her outside of your home and hopefully the issue will just sort itself out.
2007-01-15 23:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a serious conversation with her because it all might be a misunderstanding and an over-reaction on your part. Also, the bit about her being depressed because she doesn't have a mate is easy to solve. Set her up with a date or ask your boyfriend if he knows anyone that would be attracted to her?
I would tell her how you feel. Talk to her, not your boyfriend. Tell her you have some concerns about it all. If necessary, I would even ask your boyfriend to join in on the conversation, if necessary. She may be putting the cart before the horses. Explain to her that you are friends and that you don't want anything to spoil that part of your relationship. Set her up with a date as soon as possible. That may solve everything!
2007-01-15 23:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Watch your back. Sounds like something could be troublesome sooner or later. The fact that you have nothing to "put your finger" on right now means that your guts are sending you a red flag. Heed it.
2007-01-15 23:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just come right out and ask her. if she is a true friend she will say no and that it is just a joke if she isnt then she is after him. you decide. do you trust your boyfriend to begin with. trust is a major foundation in any relationship think how much you trust either if the answer is yes then dont worry if no seek out why you dont trust either.
2007-01-15 23:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to be worried. your gf and bf cannot force love. It happens if it is meant to be. In that case, you can't do much. If it is not meant to be, your bf will come back to you, as if nothing happened.
2007-01-15 23:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's desperate for attention--- let her be. If you truly trust your bf then it doesn't matter if she has this facination over him... nothing you can really do about it anyhow, it's not like you can hypnotize her not to do it.
2007-01-15 23:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by erotikos_stratiotis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he would stop shacking up with you and put a ring on your finger that may take care of your insecurities. If he'll do you with out marrying you why wouldn't he do her?
2007-01-15 23:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by xfbstar96 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe you should tell her that the story was funny when it happned but it isnt funny know and you really wish she wouldnt talk about it nemore
2007-01-15 23:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by yours truly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well sounds like she do but just ask her do she and talk to her bout it
2007-01-15 23:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by miscraterr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋