im really upset need advice!!!!!!?

Question

right about now im crying! (seriously) cuz im 14 and me and my family just got done moving. my parents are alot older than an average 14 year olds parents so i tend to think about what would happen to them when i leave to go to school, or leave with one to go somewhere and leave the other one at home..... im so afraid that something would happen to them i get really scared and get butterflies in my stomach. also since we moved i go to a new school. at this school people don't talk to me at all!!!!! i know what your thinking oh its a new school you need to adjust,,, this school is so screwed up i don't even wanna talk about it! and then i hate the school now i wish that these 4 years of high school was over and get on with my life.. and i understand how hard it is in the real world! i feel like time is running out for ME! why do i fell this way? no stupid answers, you will get REPORTED!!!!!!

i really wish that i could pick all of you as best answer but i can only choose one..... :)

Answer 1

I felt the same way in High School. I absolutely hated it, and moving to a new school makes it so much harder. You will survive, and if you have problems look for help, your parents, counselers, teachers. As far as worrying about when you will lose your parents, that is something that you have no control over. But I would be willing to bet they aren't in their 80s or 90s, so that fear is probably not something that you need to carry.

Answer 2

I sympathized. You have a lot of tough things going on. Talk to your parents about your concern for them. And talk to someone, your parents or a counselor, about your feelings about the move and the new school and the intense loneliness you're feeling. Just talking will help get your feelings back on track. And sometimes just hearing yourself talk will bring a solution. Then see if there is anything you can get involved in at the new school or in the area that would interest you. This would give you more opportunity to meet people that you might enjoy being with and who will enjoy you. Maybe you could volunteer somewhere or join a club. I know this is hard with how unhappy you are, but try to keep a pleasant expression on your face. People may not be approaching you because you unconsciously have a scowl on your face. If you smile, people will find you more approachable.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Talk to the school counsellor or one of the more approachable teachers about your problems. Join some clubs or do some sport - you can usually talk to the captains and coaches. Pick a good time and tell your parents about your difficulties. Or see a doctor and ask to be referred for professional counselling. Are there any other schools in the area? But be prepared to stick it out if you have to: it will get easier with the passing of time as you adjust. Be prepared for rejection: keep trying; remember that they know everyone else, you are an outsider and an unknown, so they are naturally a bit wary of you. You give the impression of great insecurity: address this problem through counselling.

Answer 4

Wow ... oh man ... I am soooo sorry. You know, I sooooo want to give you some comfort, but I never experienced what you're experiencing. I know that as an adult that I will still need a rubber room for a while when my parents die. I can't imagine my pain. I think I will be so immobilized that I won't be able to breath, so I guess I know a little of what you're talking about.

Advice? I think you need to find one friend - just one to help your spirits a little. Someone to laugh with, joke with, and have some fun. Look around your classes, a class that you really like (art, music ...) and watch for someone that you think is like you, and see if you can plug in with him. This life is better if you have someone to share it with - the good and the bad. Be careful in choosing this person, make sure they will be a positive addition to your life. Pick someone that will fit with your family, one that your parents will like, so you don't add any pressure at home. You three are already dealing with a lot of stress with the move.

Good luck, my man, hang in there!! Check back and let us know how things go for you.

Answer 5

I do have a niece going to high school.
My advice to you is my advice to her.
Get your GED ASAP and be done with their B.S.
You are smart enough to pass your GED right now if you wanted to. All human beings everywhere are innately intelligent no matter what experts say!The barriers to escaping (high school or anywhere) are mostly mental.
High School was a horrid time for me when I was there. I hated it. But I got through it. If I had it to do over again, I'd just take the test and move on. I don't consider the lessons learned worthwhile (most of it was human obedience training) and I work with higher math every day at work.

Suffer as best you can. Have zero patience or tolerance of idiots. And when you're ready to escape their clutches- TAKE THE TEST AND BE DONE WITH THEM!

High School is a miserable hell for A LOT of people- You are not as alone as you might think you are right now. There are probably people around you that are just as alienated. Don't be afraid to connect with them. Who knows you might be able to help each other.
Best of luck. (BTW Google John Taylor Gatto if you are interested in just why high school is the way it is)

Answer 6

Because you are 14-Unfortunately when you are younger EVERYTHING feels like a really big deal...and for you it really is however with more life experience you will be better able to sort out the stuff that you need to "breathe " on...that is stuff that if its as bad as you tink you will be able to understand that this too shall pass...I'm a lot older than my kids friends parents, we have a plan for the children if something should happen to us, I'm guessing your parents have the same. Nobody likes highschool, its entirely overrated however do well in high school in order to go to college BECAUSE I kid you not-college is BIG FUN! Get some sleep.

Answer 7

well, if u're worried abt leaving ur parents alone at home when u're out, u can always call home when u're free to check them out...u know, like just call to ask what they're doing and stuff...then u would know they're fine, and u won't worry so much...

As for going to a new school...i guess it's normal to feel this way...like feeling really left-out and stuff...but i think u should try to talk to people in your class. look for those people who are alone like u are, and introduce urself to them...if it works, u guys can probably become friends..=)

hmm...i've been through stuff like this in school last year too, cuz it was my first yr there...One thing u can maybe try is to just pretend that u are a really confident person and start talking to people...coz even though you are pretending, people normally don't see it, and may start to feel that u're a really cool or confident person and u can start making friends...=)

i tried that and it works for me, so i'm hoping that it can help u too..i understand how tough it can be to be in a new place and have to start learning how to adjust and all... but everyone will have to go through this some time in their life...so just take this as an opportunity to learn people skill and stuff....

good luck with school, and i hope what i've said would help...=)

Answer 8

My first advice to you is to head down to the counselor's office at your new school and tell them how you feel about the new school. They've heard it before and can come up suggestions for you that might make it easier.

Secondly, I am an "older" Mom. I am single, raising my son myself, but am the age of most of his friend's grandmothers! He was my first-born at the age of 43. He's now a high school Junior. I can understand your concerns about your older parents...younger or older, we don't know what's in our futures. Worrying about them right now is only complicating your life, you are worrying about something that is beyond your control. (....learn to accept the things I cannot change...)

It's tough starting at a new school, it may never be great for you...but somebody will come through for you and the stress will ease. Take it one day a time, it's all we have.

Answer 9

Don't worry about your parents. I used to worry too and guess what? Nothing happened. Just pray and ask God to keep them safe, like he did mine, and He will. Just let them know that you love them and worry about them. It is pk. Cry on their shoulders. That's what they are there for.

In terms of your school, hear me and hear me well. You need a good education. Trust me. Life is really tough even for us who have a good education. Getting a good job is difficult so you need to do well in school.

If people don't like you, don;t worry. if you can find 2-3 friends who you can get along with, just go along with that. You don't need to be popular.

Let me tell youi this: Of all the people I was witn in High school, I only know where 2 are......and it's not like we keep in touch.

Your education is key. Your education. I know that some of the guys I went to school with did not do well, but no one is helping them. Everyone is trying to set their lives going and do not have the resources to help others. So, don't be one of those who didn't make it.

Make sure you do well and get into college. It sucks that the school is not too nice, but if you can't switch, then hang in there. Study hard. You will never regret. And trust me, I know people from college who wish they had partied less and studied more. Partying too much in college is fun but when you graduate, life can really suck cause you get crappy jobs.

Unfortunately, life is like a conveyer belt. You only realize what is shead when you get there and you don't have a chance to change the past.

My advice: Share your concerns with your parents and trust God to keep them. Also, do very well in school. Let that be your top priority. You'll always be able to do well in life if you have a good education.

Answer 10

Wa akaikum salam For killing lonely you must read the Qur'an ,hadith ,islamic books and perform more sunnah prayers everyday and you make busy with activities which will give benefits to yoiurself and others You must avoid wasting time for attending just like a concert. You are a good muslimah so you always wear hijab.You can join islamic association so you can mingle with good muslims and muslimahs so you would not feel lonely insya allah.