just a thought why is it parents will have a nasty reaction when?

Question

they see their children dating or marrying a muslim person. (their son/daughter converting to islam) its like a major heart attack for them . but not the other way round

don't slam me to death . i just want honest opinion from anyone(non-muslim or muslim)

err my dad dont treat my mom like crap ..

well i think this thing exist even before the 9-11 thing.. hmmm

Answer 1

because being muslim means denying christianity

Answer 2

It's not the other way around because it is a privilege to marry an American.And I mean an American(someone who was born and raised here and their parents and grandparents too).It was like that before 9/11,just not as bad.It's the same with other nationalities too.It's just that 9/11 is still fresh and people are judgmental. Why even ask that question.That's reality for you. I have a son and I would act the same wether she be Muslim,Chinese,or anyone else that wasn't Caucasian and from America. I would be angry if he wanted to convert to Islam because he was born and raised in the best country,with the best conditions,and he had best appreciate the American way and live the American life. I'd be angry if it was any other nationality he would be converting to.Before 9/11,I would say it had nothing to do with it but now it's pretty obvious.People sometimes need to be judgemental,if America was alittle more judgemental before 9/11,thousands of Americans wouldn't have died and still be dying now.You should expect nothing more than his parents to be angry.

Answer 3

Probably because so much hatred and friction in the world currently is being created/caused by muslims. I'm not saying all muslims are like this, however a vast amount of them (even though still a minority) have caused such a situation.

Therefore if a parent see's their child converting to a religion which many use for justification for creating hatred, then the parent does have a right to be concerned. I would probably think that if the child of muslim parents was converting to Judaism or Christianity they would also not be pleased.

End of the day some people use religion to cause barriers within society. That's why I do not believe in religion and instead just like to have fun, party hard and try not to upset anyone in my way ;)

Answer 4

Cultural values differ a lot. And you are forced to convert into Islam if you want to marry them. Most often such love extended from Muslims leading to marriage is just for the sake of conversion from the other side in an invisible form. If a Muslim is honestly walking the Islamic way of life without being fanatical then he will treat you very well..all the respect you deserve to get and with such care as if you are glass-doll. But again that's only when you give up your religion, your everything.. and join their league. The question of marriage wouldn't have be that tough if the conversion factor wasn't there and things more flexible.

Answer 5

It is just a culture thing. If you were brought up Christian, you can expect this type of shock from your parents. Not only are you going outside of the religion, you are going into a religion that very few Americans (are you an American?) know anything about except the radical kind of Muslim. I am not sure that Muslims in America will ever get an even break anymore. A militant minority has forever cast a shadow on all the hard working and good people who belong to this ancient religion/culture. So, you can't turn back the hands of time - they will have to come to terms on there own.
I am not sure about your last statement concerning the other way around. I am positive that most parents hope that their child continue into a religion that the parents approve of.

Answer 6

Muslims have a known history of trying to take away the children of a non-muslim parent. Muslims have a well documented history of not providing for a spouse in the event of a divorce. Muslims have a philosophical predeliction to making non-muslims subservient. Muslims think that they must convert or kill anyone who is not a muslim. If you could put yourself into the position of a parent whose child was considering dating/marrying or converting to muslim, you would understand the reluctance to go along with it.

What do you mean by the question "not the other way around?"

To NewYorkTilson: You could not be more wrong. There is very little in the way of commonality between Christians and Muslims. Islam denies the diety of Christ. Islam worships Allah, who is not the same Diety as Jehovah, the God of Jews and Christians. Allah was the moon god of war in the pantheon of gods worshipped by Mohammed and his townspeople. He declared the moon good to be the chief god and killed anyone who disagreed with him. The Judeo-Christian bible is replete with examples of prophecies that have come true. There are NO prophecies that were made by Mohammed that have come true, aside from those performed by actions of his followers. That is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The Jewish scriptures are replete with prophecies that were fulfilled during the Christian era and are still being fulfilled.

Answer 7

Well, let me tell you. 20 years ago, I almost married a Muslim man so that he could get his "green card" and stay in the states. I was wondering why my parents were having a major heart attack, as you said. All I can say is, read up on the religion. Read about their beliefs, especially their beliefs about women. I'm now glad I didn't marry the guy.... I would kind of like to keep my head for a while longer.

Answer 8

Perhaps it is based upon cultural ignorance and stigma. Lets face it of recent times the media has not been friendly towards these groups. Parents want the best for their kids including those of the Muslim faith. Any cross cultural marriage will have its challenges it needs to be faced united by both families. However, if one person or more refuses to participate then there could be trouble. Many a heartache comes from this ignorance

Answer 9

I think it is because people in their ignorance have confused terrorists with the religion of Islam. I really hate that. I am a Christian but I do understand that Muslims and Christians really have more in common than different. This may be a starting point when you talk to these parents. Hate and Racism are the products of Ignorance.Education is the remedy for ignorance. Peace be with you.

Answer 10

It depends on how the religion is presented. I don't want my daughters to wear veils - I would be absolutely horrified. But it doesn't matter what religion it is - I don't like organised religion at all. The question could be: as a Muslim, what would your parents say if you married a non-Muslim?
I feel the same, but in resverse!
No offense, it's just not for me.
And by the wsay, my neighbours are Muslim, and he isn't caring or kind!

Answer 11

Non-Muslim for starters here. I would have issues with my daughter marrying outside of our religion period. Not just one that was muslim. I would accept her and love her no matter what but it would upset me. I would have to think there are those of all religions like this. We all believe in our own religion because we believe it right so by nature, we are saying all others are wrong. Not that we or I in the case, can't accept others. I feel everyone has the right to believe as they will and shouldn't force others to accept anything for themselves. With family it is different as far as openly stating a belief. I would never ever walk up to a complete stranger and tell them I believe that they are going to hell, though I may believe the word of God says so. I just show respect and love no matter who. If asked I will only tell others what I believe for myself.