how do you deal with it if you have to live around intimidating characters where you live?

Question

its not like i can move either because im on welfare and im working through psychological problems at the moment, so i cannot afford to move. the area where i live is not the ruffest of areas compared to some of the areas in the city that i live, but it has its fare share of hooligans and intimidating guys. yesterday when i had to go out to the shops, it was grey and miserable out in the afternoon and there was hardly anyone outside, which i found unerving, and on my way back from the shops, i walked past this tall skin head man and his girlfriend, i saw he was looking at me and i felt intimidated i didnt look back, but i wish i had the confidence to,i wish i didnt live amoungst people like this, in this area, has anyone else been in this position?

Answer 1

I haven't. Just look ahead when you're walking the street and act as naturally as you can.

Answer 2

You Know... I Also Live In A Place Like Yours
Hooligans, Intimidating People, Biatches

I Am In That Position Although Not The Ruffest

If Your Situation Is Worst, I Would Like To Be In Your Place Because Of My Belief That Life Isn't Ever Safe.

If You Live With Family, It Would Become Worse.
Because If You Ever Get Some Bad Guys Mad At You, They Would Also Strike Your Relatives.

If You Are Living Alone, Then It's Better.
Because For Me, You Should Learn To Deny Yourself And Do Not Ever Pass The Trouble To Family And Friends If Ever You Became The Target.

When Going Outside:
*Make Sure The Door Is Extra Complicated To Get Through.
*Make Sure The Windows Are Closed, Because Some Psycho Might Throw Fireworks Or Bombs Inside.
*If Going Out Is Not Long: Turn The Lights On, For Them To Think That Someone Is Inside(More Effective If Those Guys Are House Climbers)

If Worst Comes To Worst(ex. They'll Knock On You).
Do This: Record Your Voice In A Tape And Play It
Make Sure To Make It Sound Like Someone Are Talikng Inside
Like Gangsters Playing Cards. (source: HomeAlone the movie)


To Achieve Belongingness:
-Dress Like Them If Possible
-If They Are In A Group And They Saw You And Told You To Come Nearer, Do What They Told You And Listen To What They Have To Say. Smirk And Listen, Then Reply Like This "yeah Men"
If Possible, Shake Their Hands If They Ever Get A Little Friendly.
If That Person Won't Accept, Utter This "I Guest Not"(/w a smile)
If You Want To Go On, Just Tell Them: "Guys, I Have To Go With My Girl", "I Have Somewhere Else To Go", "See You Later, If I Have Time I Will Return".
-If They Became More Closer To You, Keep On Denying Them(In A Nice Manner And With A Smirk! Not A Smile)
It Mustn't Be Smile Because They Will Find It Irritating

Always Carry A Serious Eyebrows, A Stiff Upper Lips, Not Shaking Hands, Straight Look Forward(Yet Be Aware Where They Are By Sound Of Footstep), Normal Walk, Shoulders Relaxed, Hands In The Pocket, And So-On.

Don't tell Them "I Have Work To Do"
Don't Be Arrogant Even If You Become Closer To Them

More Importantly, Keep This In Mind:
"I HAVE TO WORK HARD IN ORDER TO EARN ENOUGH MONEY TO MIGRATE IN A FINER PLACE"

If You Really Hate The Place Then Work Hard Or Find A New Job That Will Pay You High

Just ******' Relax And Realize That Life Ain't No Paradise Until You Die And Go To Heaven. No Matter How Hard You Find Peace, You Can't Find It Here On Earth. You'll Find It In Heaven.

Favor Please... Don't Commit Suicide If Life Ever Gets Tough.

Oh! I Forgot The Best Solution... Read The Bible, Go To Mass, Pray(Because It Works), If Protestant.. BE A CATHOLIC

--=Done=---
Give Me 10 Points Please^_^

Answer 3

Yes, I know how you feel. My family grew up in a working class neighbourhood, we were a mixed race, christian family- both were very rare in my area. I would walk through a 20 metre alley after school and 4 -5 boys would be standing on either side talking in their native language, laughing and pointing at me. I felt so afraid & thought that I was surrendering myself to their cruelty by not responding- I always held my head high and looked straight ahead. However now I look back that was not true at all- I was protecting myself, and showing some pride in myself. If I would have talked back- who knows what would have happened? I think I am stonger now & I know that I can tolerate other peoples behaviour- no matter how crude. Look on the positive side of everything! You know theese people have to intimidate others because of their insecurities. Dont feel like you are a wimp- You are protecting yourself! Seek any help you can to get you out of there, social services, a mission, a church, do volunteer work. Please dont feel like you have to be tough, real bravery is being able to feel so safe & secure in yourself that you dont need to prove anything to anyone. God Bless!/ or Peace!

Answer 4

Make eye contact, smile. Why pre-judge everyone ? You will see that which you are looking for. And negative thinking will draw that into your life. Give people a chance, you might be surprised. Most are good at heart. Making eye contact lets them know you can identify them and that you are a confident person. You would benefit from a self defense course. I took one through the local univ. ( audit the class, it doesn't cost much that way, or try the YWCA. Knowing what you will do in a bad situation helps a lot to build self confidence and thus project a "don't mess with me!" attitude.

Answer 5

Become intimidating yourself. Work on that. What's the worst thing that could happen? They tell you off? Start a fight? Most of those characters that act like that are just that, acting. They are about as tuff as a teddy bear. Some aren't acting, but the first time you stand up to them, they won't mess with you anymore and you'll gain confidence you need in life. Then just remember where you came from and remember there are others out there just like you who may be intimidated by you. Never forget your roots.

Answer 6

Take up a course in self defence, like kung fu or tang soo do. Learn meditation and yoga techniques (see the blog of Shan Eris at Myspace.com). Get fit, eat healthily, exercise daily and think about improving both your body and yourself, possibly by learning new skills or taking up charity work like "Meals on Wheels". See your doctor and ask for referral to a qualified counsellor. Remember too, that person would be looking at EVERYBODY, just like everyone looks at you when you get on a bus. There is an old saying " if wishes were horses, beggars would ride!". Don't wish it - DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!

Answer 7

Until u change the place u can ignore those staring eyes and preferably go out with some one known to u. And u just show ur confidence to those buggers that u r not afraid but at the same time don,t indulge in any filght with them.

Answer 8

surprisingly troublesome. I regularly do not pass to a place that has people like that. There are basically one in 5 or ten places i might decide to paintings the two. in case you hear on your instinct, it is going to handbook you. look up emotional intelligence and cognitive treatment, because it is the emotions we are speaking approximately. that could make you sturdy adequate. it is your strenght that's bothering her as she is a susceptible and fearfull guy or woman and appearing out. you besides mght harm her emotions. as quickly as you recognize emotions properly adequate you may have the capacity to help her by utilising being friendly and useful. she would be able to correctly known your strenght. Our enemies are our appropriate mirrors. you may resolve being too into ourselves or anybody elses drama. It shows in self awareness or being overconfident or some such observe. it is approximately being too into ourselves extremely of steping returned impersonally. Loving your enemies is having compassion for them as she sees you reflecting her self absorbtion. sometimes it is greater useful to flee till we heal, in spite of in case you're taking an entire life as I did. lol i got here upon my answer in not utilising damaging judgmental words. did not Jesus say something approximately that? The treatment might take particularly some time and prepare. it is an entire new attitude. in case you choose her and hate her it eats you up. merely get out of it and merely notice, like hm thrilling. that's the final attitude. merely prepare that attitude for a whilst, in case you get it. She's basically a curiousity. Get out of the completed element. not something to do with you.

Answer 9

Sorry to hear that. But I don't have this problem as I AM the guy you are talking about. I am a bald guy, I have a van dyke and look the image you talk about. BUT I can also back the image up. (if needed) You should have said hi to him.

Answer 10

Fear is in the mind. Unless u gather courage, u will tend to magnify things. Afterall, nothing actually happened to u, isn't it?