I'm 13, many of my girl and boy friends have already had sex. Some of my girl friends my age aren't virgin any more and keep bragging about it. I've never had sex, I don't feel prepared for it and in my opinion teens shouldn't make sex. If it depends on me, I'll remain virgin until I'm an adult and find someone I really love and want to share my life with. That's what my mom and my dad, who passed away, taught me and, though somtimes I think my mom is over controlling, on this point I agree with her. My dad was a kinda nice man and he used to tell me how sex is such a wonderful thing but if done without responsabilty and love can ruin our lives, specially if done when you're a teen. But many kids and even guys over 18 keep nagging on me, making fun of me. Some days ago, I felt so different that I told some girls I had some sexual experience. It was foolish, I felt ridiculous lying like that. Anyway, I don't think they believed, because I have no experience at all and they noticed
2007-01-15 23:03:27 · 18 answers · asked by Marta M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are very mature for your age. Do not let the peer pressure bother you or wear you down. Let it make you stronger. It can be GOOD to feel DIFFERENT; yes it is nice to fit in in general, but it is nice also to stand out in a positive way, as you do. Do not lie about your lack of sexual experience; embrace it. Be proud of who you are. The girls I think are actually jealous of you bec on some level they know you are right, you have self-respect and class and wisdom. Anyway, 13 is WAY WAY WAY too young to be having sex!!!! (By the way, I was like you, and I got teased sometimes too, at first. But when I got teased, I held my head high and refused to feel embarrassed in any way. If you show that you are not in the least bit embarrassed, and you embrace your own personality, everyone will respect you for it, believe me!!) Keep on being the way you are, you are right, but BE PROUD OF YOURSELF. Have confidence in your own convictions. You're a smart girl. Don't ever let this screwed up world wear you down! :)
2007-01-15 23:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by F 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a much older Man. so I speak from experience. I've been through the 70's. And I've wasted alot of time, money, effort, doin' what others said I should do. As I got older. I wanted it to mean something. But the women, only wanted attention. It's not Sexual Experience, that you look for. That's society, wanting you to be easy. It's called, "Making Love". If you ain't in Love. Don't have any experience. Once you do find that one Special Person. You'll know exactly how and what to do. Your Hearts will guide you. And it's gonna be a Very Special Life, for THE BOTH OF YOU!!
2007-01-15 23:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by Goggles 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl!! I'm 19 years old and I have decided to remain a virgin until I am married to the guy I'm spending the rest of my life with. You are very wise for your age and good for you for waiting for love. First off, DO NOT feel bad or left out because you haven't had sex yet. Do not worry, you are very young and it is very alarming that all of your friends your age have already had sex. When you have sex at such a young age, it is usually done without thinking it through, without love and without true emotion. Sex is a wonderful gift, as your father said, but it is meant for two people who truly love each other. Pre-marital sex can cause many problems, including emotional problems, unwanted pregnancy, std's and so forth. You are saving yourself a lot of heartache and you are special and unique! You should be proud of yourself and consider yourself "pure" in that sense. The guy who you wait for will be so happy that you waited for him, don't worry about what your friends think. Also, none of my friends put me down for my beliefs and they respect my choice to wait for marriage, so maybe you can find new friends and surround yourself with optimistic people who truly respect you and care about you and do not try to make you feel bad because you don't cave in to peer pressure.
I am sorry about your father and may God bless you and your family and I'm sure both of your parents are SO proud of you!! Good luck with everything! :)
2007-01-15 23:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if an 18 y.o. is bullying you, you need to report that, thats not cool with me at all. you stick to your guns. keep your virginity, thats one virtue that can only be given away only once. and because
you are still a virgin, men will respect you as you get older.
i have a gf that is a virgin and i walk the line for her, it dont happen til; she is ready, i am crazy about her, but i also respect her and her body and her beliefs. when you meet the guy that loves and respects you, you will know. dont fool with boys in school, wait til you are older and more responsible.
what you dont hear is the ones that have lost there virginity,
some have had abortions, or was just used to get there virginity
dont let the guys or your friends bully you.
be proud you are a virgin, cause its few and far between,
being a virgin says great thing about you, besides you are too young for sex, boys are selfish and horny. could you handle getting a disease that would stop you from having kids when you do get married, could you handle raising a child being a child yourself. could you handle getting aids, well thats all the line.
when you have sex young, you lose your peace of mind, and thats priceless when lost, you wonder if you have diseases,
you wonder if you will get pregnant. you will wonder if the boy loves you or just wants sex from you.
when you meet the man when you get older, and beyond any doubt he loves you and you trust him(that he is disease free, and
that you both are taken precautions not to get pregant) then you
will have an easier time, and will enjoy the first time.
sex is wonderful yes, but when you are with the one that would move heaven and earth for you, or be willing to wait til you are ready for sex, thats mind blowing and amazing.
dont rush it, you hold strong, keep your head up.
be just as guarded of your virtue and innocence, as you are with your life. keep mom and dad and advice close to your heart.
kids now a days dont have many morals, stay true to yours.
grow up a strong woman, not beinding just cause of being bullied.
but my advice, anyone 18 and over puts there hands on you,
report to school and authourity, thats not safe for you.
if they arent mature enough to keep there hands to themselves,
then they arent mature enough to respect your wishes and beliefs.
2007-01-16 00:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by sharma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a leader NOT a follower. You have your whole life. You're friends are probably having sex because they are not comfortable enough with themselves to tell a boy NO. Focus on your education and surround yourself with people you love. You'll be the one laughing in the long run. Besides there are too many diseases out there. What will you do if you get pregnant?
2007-01-15 23:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do all little ones get sexual!? I wasn't attentive to this lol. I definitely did not! I had a shitty kiss thingy at 8, then a appropriate first kiss at 12. i assume whilst i exchange into 12 exchange into my first sexual-ish experience too as me and my boyfriend of the time could touch one yet another under the table at college, yet not under outfits. Then at 13 I fooled around with my boyfriend - you be attentive to, we did each thing-yet-the-entire-hog. Then 14 I lost it to a guy, then sixteen to a woman. there is my little sexual history for ya XD
2016-10-31 06:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by arrocha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I understand how you feel. I agree with your opion!!!!!
I want to lose my virginity to someone that is both special and is important to me. You can only do it once, you can't lose your virginity twice. =]
I also want my first kiss to be special and important so that it is something i can remember for my whole life.
I don't like to lose all of these because of some lame reasons like your friends are doing it or truth or dare and stuff like that.
Take care.
PS: you can only do it once. =]
PSS: I'm not gay. =_=
2007-01-16 00:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Someone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have chosen wisely i beileve sex should not be considered without great forethough and should not even be considered unless tye person you are having sex with is the person who you love and wish to spend the rest of your life with.
also sex at your age is not only rong it is illegal as you have to be 16 to have sex legally if anyone older than 16 has sex with you you can have him arrested
i think it is always best to wait until you meet the right person to have sex with and dont lie to girls just to fit in just because they jump into bed with guys at the drop of a hat makes them s***s you should be proud that you are not like them and be proud to still have your virginity
2007-01-15 23:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a very wise head on your shoulders. Stick to your guns`s!! Your so called friends are probably jealous and feel insecure so in order to feel better about themselves they want people around them to conform. There is a name for guy`s 18+ who want to have sex with13yr old`s it ends with file and they probably will end up in one.
2007-01-16 00:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They could be lying too! You should only do what makes you feel comfortable - talk is cheap - consequences can be very expensive. Think about why these 'friends' are pressuring you - why is it so important to them that you lose your virginity?
2007-01-15 23:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋