I have been with the father of my children for 4 and1/2 years but for the last ten months I have become more and more attracted to his best mate. I don't know if I love my current partner anymore and don't want to break up my little family. I know his mate feels the same about me as he told a close family member but I am not sure, even if he wanted to, would pursue his feelings for me. I am guilt ridden and know I would never do anything behind my partner's back.
Should I break it off with my partner and go for his mate or should I just forget it?
2007-01-15 23:02:49 · 11 answers · asked by Chloe B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have taken a break and missed his mate, not him. His mate is contantly on my mind.
I'm unhappy. Even if I broke it off with my partner do you think it is a good idea to pursue this mate? I too was from a broken home and it had no effect on myself or my siblings as we still regualarly saw our dad...also i disagree with staying with
2007-01-15 23:27:06 · update #1
Sounds like the best thing to do for your happiness is make a decision...
1) Tell your partner of the change in your feelings and then hope he understands, steps aside and you have his mate...
2) Tell your partner of the change in your feelings, ask for an open relationship and then you can have his mate as well...
3) Don't tell your partner, but arrange to meet up with his mate and do the wild thing at every opportunity...
2007-01-15 23:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happens to many, but, who has maturity does really think, the mate to whom you're attracted may get attracted to some one better than you, not in 4 -1/2 years, may be well within 4-1/2 seconds. Life is not a game, specially in relationship.
2007-01-16 07:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by smash wit love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I ever got a chance to be with the father of my child I would be faithful. But I think you should weigh out some things. What if the mate is just playing you? What kind of friend is that?
2007-01-16 08:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by LESLIE M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A broken family is a horrible thing. Your CHILDREN, think of them. Whatever you do will teach them. Why destroy their sense of security for your own pleasure? Speaking as someone that has been all through this stuff and learned the hard way(both sides of the fence) DON'T.
2007-01-16 07:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you have a little break so you can rethink your feelings, i mean go somewhere by yourself for a few days just to think, who knows you may miss your husband and realise you still love your hubby.
I think that would be better instead of jumping so soon, because you may regrett it big time.
2007-01-16 07:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to talk to your partner - you both deserve honesty. You should talk to him whether the other guy wants you or not, the guilt will kill you otherwise
2007-01-16 07:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by chillipope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it! Your mate can't be that horrid, if you have kids with him. stay with the FATHER OF YOUR CHILDREN.
2007-01-16 07:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me, it wont work, make things right with the father of your children!
2007-01-16 07:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it.s wonder full to fill wanted ; but are entering uncharted water.it.s all about ; making the right decision.
2007-01-16 07:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
make yourself happy, so pursue mate...
2007-01-16 07:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by smallpot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋