my mate just told me shes sleeping with my ex partner, ive been friends with her for 12 years and me and my ex split up nearly a year ago now but for the last 6 months shes been sleeping with him, my ex was a big part in my life and i still have feelings for him and she knew this, my children miss my ex so much, cause he was in there lives for 3 years what should i do? should i forgive my friend?
2007-01-15 22:15:48 · 27 answers · asked by PAULA D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm sorry for you i cant imagine how hurt you must be by your friends betrayal, does your friend know that you still have feelings for him, if she does that makes her a bigger *****. you just dont do that to your friends whether you were with him or not, its time your friend learnt the meaning of friendship make your feelings clear to her that you are hurt by her betrayal and move on you dont need friends like that good luck
2007-01-17 02:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww poor u! its like an unwritten law between friends. the thing u have to ask urself is, the next time u have an arguement with ur friend would u be able 2 resist throwing it back in her face, or everytime u have a new boyfriend will she be eyeing him up. I feel sorry for u, u have been friends for a long time but i personally would not b able 2 forgive her. If it was my friend anyway she would soon know she had crossed the line! Good luck i hope u find peace in this situation
2007-01-15 22:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK you were already finished so she didn't do anything really wrong... but as your friend she knows you still have 'feelings' and an attachment to him through the children. She doesn't seem to care if you're hurt or not. This cannot be the only man left on the planet? I'd not be able to be friends with her ever again as I would never do this to a friend. Would you have done it to her?
2007-01-15 23:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Paula
The same thing happened to me, and i was pregnant at the time, allthough we had finished it still, had the heart renching feeling, I found out it happened the day after i told him i was pregnant. anyway, dont let it get you down, i could'nt forgive them, it did'nt last, and there both alone and i got a beatifull daughter, good luck in what you decide to do , forgiving is easy then forgetting x
2007-01-16 08:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In one simple answer NO....
As a friend she had loyalties to you, she knew how you felt about your ex and still she didn't consider your feelings.
Well you know what- it's time to put yourself and your kids first-regardless if your kids miss him- you really don't need someone like that around you.
Take care of yourself and try to stay strong, you and your kids are no. 1
2007-01-15 23:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by Golden Child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She dont sound like much of a friend ,then again who called of your relationship with your ex you or him,if it was you then maybe she thought you were totally over him,if it was her then it proves she wasnt much of a mate ,going out with him when probably only a couple of months earlier you were crying on her shoulder ,but it proves how much your ex cared about your relationship with you and your friend ,my advice is let them get on with it ,your hurting alot now ,it will get better she is a cow and she dont deserve your friendship. xx
2007-01-16 09:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving and forgetting is one of the most important things. Act as if nothing happened. However, the fact that she got with him whilst knowing that you have feelings for him shows that you should be a little more wary of her intentions in the future.
2007-01-15 22:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no i would not forgive her you tell your best mate all your secrets and shes stabbed you in the back Hun get your self a new mate and a new partner and remember the saying keep your friends close and your enemy's even closer
2007-01-15 22:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by lorraine x 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thats so messed up. Don't be her friend anymore. She is trouble and she cannot be trusted. On the other hand you can forgive her. But that will not help. Because you cannot trust her. And she cannot be trusted. Leave both of them alone.
2007-01-15 22:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO NO NO...............
That is a form of betrayl, & there should be a book of what is & what is not accepatable from friends, & seeing an ex is NOT acceptable, end the friendship with her, forget about him & move on.. Focus on you & your kids, that is all that should matter right now
2007-01-15 22:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by bite_me_harder_28 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋