him, we have 3 children and i constantly feel stressed out and can't think of anything else except to escape this situation, but with 3 children involved its not that easy. i also live far away from home and get homesick and miss my family with whom my husband does not get on with. what shall i do?
2007-01-15 20:59:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to evaluate your situation. Is your husband stressing you out or is it the children stressing you out? Maybe missing your family so much is stressing you out and your husband is getting the blame for how you are feeling inside. Maybe you could talk to your husband and let him know you need to go visit your family if money is a problem speak to your family and maybe they could help you out. It may be thet you just need a break from daily routine. Try to really evaluate things before doing anything out of the blue.
2007-01-15 21:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ginny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, relationships are like underwear, they're great when you wear em for the first time, then after a few years they develop holes. The thing to remember is every new pair of underwear is going to do this, as well as every relationship. You have to decide how many or how big the holes can be and still be acceptable. But know too, that EVERY pair is going to have holes, just like yours, so what's the point of exchanging one holy pair for the other, when the first was no better that it and it was no better than the first? Bottom line: the next guy is gonna be an emotional moron that leaves your heart empty anyway. Save yourself the hassle, and possibly from AIDS, and stick it out. Have you ever seen Jack Nicholson in As Good As It Gets? Well, that pretty much sums it up.
2007-01-15 21:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I answer your other question more fully.
I think it doesnt necessarily mean you dont love him. I think it means things are getting on top of you.
Three kids are quite a handful. You need to talk to your husband. Men put sex as a priority while some women dont.
Think how you would feel if HE was wondering whether to leave you and the kids. Maybe go off with someone else? How do you feel now.
Maybe you could both benefit from counselling.
Faith x
2007-01-15 21:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doesn't mean you do'nt love him. It means you don't love him if you ask yourself the question and the answer is no. Kids are hard work and it's nigh impossible to get time for yourself once you've dealt with them so it's even harder to give to someone else. This is the price of parenthood. I take it in turns with my partner to have a day or night off to pamper myself etc, I find myself more able to give of myself once I'm replenished. I too live far away from my family, the real downside is not having a babysitter to hand, we use a local registered babysitting service who use professional child carers. You don't have to use them for a night out, you can use them to get a couple of hours to yourself in the day.
2007-01-15 21:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've read your later question too. you are so unhappy aren't you. I really think you know the answer . you want to leave him but don't know how.
I think you need help. maybe you should go through the motions of counselling , if that doesn't work then I really do think you should leave, It can't be good for your children to be in such an unhappy atmosphere. Be strong. it will be hard but so is staying where you are.
Goodluck.
2007-01-16 04:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by ragdoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to seek counseling and help for you and your husband and marriage first... What does he do that stresses you out so bad? Where does your family live? Talk with your husband calmly or write him a letter and tell him how you feel.... I feel you still love your husband you both just need help to keep it going.
2007-01-15 21:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody hates their husband from time to time! It doesn't mean you don't love him!
But if you are so stressed out you need to talk to some one and may be your hubby could be pursuaded to help more with the children?
Can you talk to your mum on the phone?
2007-01-15 21:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by kiku 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel like that sometimes,i know a few people who do actually! I think it's just stress and daily problems,try going out for aome quality time just you and him. Also think back to when you first met,there must of been good times.
2007-01-15 21:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by heebygeeby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GO SEE YOUR FAMILY I SEE MINE ONCE A DAY OF COURSE YOR STRESSED FAMILY IS EVERY-THING IF IT MAKES YOU HAPPY
OR GO SOME WHERE ALONE AND THINK OF HAPPY FAMILY TIMES .
HOPE YOUR OK
2007-01-19 14:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by STACEY M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan your escape
2007-01-19 06:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋