my girlfriend is 16 weeks pregnant she wants a aborition i do not what can i do?

Answer 1

depends on the state.... i know in some states you can take her to court and the child will become yours and she cant abort it.. but once its born itll be all on you.... im against abortion but hats gonna take alot of work... and she could easily go behind your back and get it done... good luck

Answer 2

Ohh Ohh these sort of questions get the 'Right to life " freaks jumping!

What is the age of your girlfriend, that is important, the time frame for termination is getting close to no go unless it affects her health both Mental and Physical.
If she does not want an abortion then it is her decision and its her body, so may be it's time you offered support rather than forcing a situation that you think is the correct action to take.

At 16 weeks, this is a fairly advanced life form at least 1.3rd of the development stage. Grave concequences come from abortions at most stages of development. But if this girl is still a child by law and at risk then the right decisiion is to terminate, otherwise leave well enough alone. Adoption is another option for her to consider and is less traumatic than termination.

Answer 3

Understand this is not only her body, it's her life - whether she aborts or not. Ultimately, she is the one who will live with her decision regardless of what anyone else does or thinks.

Short of guaranteeing her that you can provide for her and the baby's comfort, safety, and welfare for the rest of the child's life -- and again understanding she still has the choice to accept or deny your proposal -- there is nothing you can do if she is firm in her decision.

It is most unfortunate that you are only now asking what you can do. Communication is key in even the most casual of relationships for this very reason. Had you known before that a pregnancy would result from your behavior, would you have made different decisions with regard to your behavior? Would you have communicated your opinions and preferences to her? If so, take what you can from this difficult lesson and use it the next time you get involved with someone. If not, know the same situation is likely to occur again.

Answer 4

Hello there. I wish with all my heart that there were some magic words of advice I could give you that would guarantee the safety of your unborn child. I cannot imagine anything worse than having your baby in the body of another human being who wanted to kill it. Even though I am a woman I can understand a little bit of what you are going through. Twelve years ago I went thru a private adoption and adopted my youngest daughter. I remember meeting the birth mother and being so upset because she was still smoking cigarettes. That was MY baby that she was doing that to! I was sick to my stomach. What you are going through is so much worse and I can only imagine the anguish you are feeling.
Is there anyway that you could get her to have an Ultrasound of the baby? Perhaps if she had a 3D ultrasound that shows the baby's face and clear pictures of its little body, she would have a better idea of what she would be destroying. If you can not do that try to get her to look at pictures on the net, get books from the library and get her to look at those. Do anything you can to make her see that at this stage it is a baby that she is killing! Not an embryo like the first person who wrote to you said. Maybe she has been misled by the people at an abortion clinic. Maybe she does not even realize what she would be doing.
Does she know what kind of an abortion she will have to have at this stage in her pregnancy? She may actually have to give birth, to a dead baby. Why not wait a bit longer and give birth to a live baby? It is possible that she can have a D&E (dialation and evacuation0 but it is still a more complicated and uncomfortable procedure than if she had done it earlier. Then again, depending on the size of the baby she may have to have an induction abortion.
Can you reach her by promising her that you will be responsible for the baby after it is born? Perhaps if you can find out exactly what her fears are you can address them.
Is there someone whose opinion she respects? Perhaps you could speak to that person and see if they will try to talk to her. Why does she want to get rid of the baby this late in the pregnancy? Why has she waited so long to decide to kill her unborn baby? Have the two of you had a fight? Is she upset perhaps because the two of you are not married? Would it help if you offered to marry her? I know that sounds drastic but you must do what ever is necessary to keep her from killing this precious little baby.
Do some research on late term abortion so that you can present her with the facts. Does she know that her baby can feel pain? Does she know that she will feel pain? Does she know what a late term abortion involves? If you can become well informed then you can explain these things to her.
Would it do any good to talk to her mother? Is she close to her mother? How does her mother feel about the baby? How old is your girlfriend?
Please write to me, there are two ways to reach me, I will write back to you.
She must be made to understand the immensity of what she is contemplating. I just cannot believe that she knows the full extent of what she is planning to do.
Most importantly you need to find out WHY she is willing to kill her own baby. For the most part mothers seldom want to kill their own babies. There is almost always something that is making them feel that they have no other choice. You need to find out what that is.
If she just does not want the baby you have to let her know that you will support her decision to place the baby up for adoption. It is preferable to killing the baby after all.
Feel free to write to me, I will do what I can to help you.
Lady Trinity~

Answer 5

That's very sad. Maybe you can convince her to carry the pregnancy to term if you make her understand that you will be there for her, and how important it is to you because it is YOUR baby too. I don't mean to sound judgemental, or anything, but this is also a reason why people need to put more thought into who they are willing to be intimate with. Before you have sex, you need to consider what kind of person they are, and what your views and theirs are in case of an accidental pregnancy, if you're not on the same page, it's better to know beforehand. I hope everything goes well for you. I also hope that you consider these things in the future, so you don't end up being hurt again.

Answer 6

At 16 weeks? What has she been doing for the last 16 weeks? Contemplating? I am all for rights but 16 weeks is a long time to be thinking about having an abortion.

Tell her that at 16 weeks, she should seriously reconsider abortion.

Tell her that it isn't just a "clump of cells" anymore. This is what her 16 week fetus looks like.
http://www.i-am-pregnant.com/img/week16-grabbing-kicking.jpg

Are you willing to adopt the baby and take full parental rights? Perhaps you can tell her that.

Ultimatly, it is her decision (unfair for you I know) but I hope she makes the right decision.

Answer 7

Not much you can do apart from talk to her about her concerns over going through with the pregnancy. An abortion is not generally something a woman decides on lightly. And it is her body that has to go through the rigors of child bearing, not yours. At the end of the day there's very little you can do if she's determined but if she is in two minds over it you might be able to convince her everything will work out.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Get her to a pastor or counselor to talk about this. She is feeling very afraid. Don't judge her, but remember that she needs support in making a decision that she can live with, and going through with and an abortion may be something she'll regret for the rest of her life.

Answer 9

You should point out to her that at this stage of pregnancy it is not a simple operation. The baby is 12 cm long and she will probably have to go through some kind of labour.

Answer 10

Put you rmind at ease. There is no way any doctor will perform a abortion on someone 16 weeks along. The cut of time is before 12 weeks normally. That fetus is all read an human being.

Go to www.wprc.org and show her photo's of your baby at 16 weeks what it is looking like right now. Maybe that will change her mind. You can also im me if you need to talk to someone

Answer 11

You need to do everything you can to save your son or daughter. First of all, make sure all your interactions with your girlfriend are loving and gentle. You don't want her to get angry with you and abort your child out of spite. When you talk to her about it, make sure you emphasize your concern for her BEFORE you talk about the baby. Say something like, "I've been reading about abortion, and it's really dangerous. I love you and don't want to see you get hurt." Share some facts about the risks of abortion with her (see links below). Then, work your way into talking about the baby. Tell her that you love both her and the baby, and you're going to take care of both of them. She is probably scared right now. Reassure her that everything is going to be alright and that you are there for her. Tell her that she is beautiful pregnant.

Try to convince her to go to a crisis pregnancy center and talk to the counselors there about all the free help available for her. You can go with her if she will let you. Depending on the center, they may also be able to give her a free ultrasound so she can actually see her baby. Seeing their baby on an ultrasound changes many women's minds about abortion. You can find a center near you by calling 1-800-395-HELP or visiting information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

At 16 weeks, your baby is already doing everything that a newborn baby does. She (or he!) can smile, frown, kick, get the hiccups, grasp an object placed in her palm, suck her thumb, hear your voices, and feel pain. Below are some photos and videos of what your baby looks like now. Please share them with your girlfriend. If there is any other information you need, just email me. I will find it for you!

Photos and Video of Abortions:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures_2.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Your Baby's Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org