should i allow my 14 year old to have her belly button pierced?? she says its her body and she should be able to what she wants please help.... we said we put it to the yahoo vote.
please vote yes or no
thank you
2007-01-15 20:22:03 · 65 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
yes... our daughter nagged and nagged for 6mth when she was 13 so i told mine she could have her done even offered to take to the shop. surprise shock and horror backed out. it was for effect!!! beat her at her own game work i did and won. she now 22 and no belly button or other piercing!!
2007-01-15 20:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by tink 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No! I can see why she would say that though, 14 is an interesting age, you think you're old enough to know about everything but there is still so much you don't know about. Getting her belly button pierced might look cool, but it can be dangerous too. Not only will she have to wear loose fitting clothes for a few months, but there is also a risk of infection as well as pain, swelling and discomfort.
If i were you, if you're even considering letting her get her belly button pierced I would make sure she understands all the risks involved and if she still wants it then it's ultimately in her hands. She wont be able to get it pierced herself until she is like 17 or 18 so maybe you could tell her to wait till then, the world won't end if she doesn't have her belly button pierced.
Good Luck
2007-01-16 06:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by Buckwild 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not at 14... I had my belly button pierced when I was 16 back in 1996 when it was still quite rare... At 14 your body hasn't finished developing, if your daughters body develops more shape after her belly button is pierced it could cause problems, and the skin holding it in will get thinner and weaker and could break and then she'll have a very ugly scar and the skin won't be strong enough to ever have it re-done... Please just a wait a couple more years and it will be worth it, just until your 16... Why not get a temporary tattoo in the meantime? I have a japanese symbol tattoo'd onto my belly and I love it! Mine was a temporary one that I got done when I was 19, and I loved it so much i had it re-done permanently when it started to fade... xx
2007-01-16 07:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by lou lou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am thirteen and dont think I will get my belly button pierced. She is 14 and may regret it later, just make her wait and if she still wants it later on in life let her have it. But at her age , it's kind of a bad choice, cause she may not want it later (teens are very wishy washy if you know what I mean.
2007-01-16 02:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by --; cookie. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually as intellignet I have a better idea then yes or know...
Its called barganing...or more using the greatest motivator in a teenager... ie sex and cool drive... She will want to impress boys and appear cool in front of mates... So use that as leaverage.
Later when she gets a boyfriend... have then in separate rooms, no phones... if both do homework to your satisfaction... then they get a kissing session...
Using their hormones against them...
evil :-)
Ie mis 14 year old does well in school, (think improvement) extra chores, improved diet, does self defence lessons etc...
Then she gets her belly button which mum pays for so mum can make sure its somewhere legit and hygenic with aftercare as belly button piercings have a tendancy to get infected.
Girl will do it behind you back if you try and stop her...
My way you have control over her. Same applies to funky green hair etc (which is a good way to appear bad in school without being bad therefore helps study as people back off)
So YES
With conditions
2007-01-15 22:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I got mine done at 11, turns out that it is highly illegal!
I never had any problems with it though.
IF and thats a big IF she can find someone to do it for her, then I vote yes.
At 14 the girl is likely to be maturing and wants a bit of individuality.
2007-01-16 09:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by lj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i do, i had mine done an it hurt i also had my lip peirced that made me faint, u need to let kids learn from the pain and infections to undertsnad that u only want the best for them. I learnt when i had my belly done a further 3 times and it got infected i was in so much pain i havent had any peircings scince lol, xxx
2007-01-16 01:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by Stephie.B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am 22 and had my belly pierced when i was 14 i did it behind my mums back she allowed me to keep it in as i made sure to looked after it and i still have it now. if i did decided to take it out it would leave minimal scare
i think that i would let her if she is responsible and she paid for it her self and make sure she cleans it if she doesnt demand she takes it out straight away!
but it is against the law to have this done in England under 16 so she may find no one will do it.
2007-01-15 23:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This girl is a minor and as such should not be pierced. The persos who does the piercing could be held responsible for damages and can be sued for operating on a minor without parental consent.
The other thing to consider is that the belly button or umbilicus is a life point, there have been cases where those women having this area pierced have been rendered sterile. This is because it is a point where Chinese acupuncturists use to produce birth control in women who had reached the limit of Mao's family maximum
Hoo Haa you say? no not! so ask any acupuncturist who may also be your doctor.
2007-01-15 20:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by Shelty K 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
It depends on your daughter; a navel piercing isn't just a one day thing - it can take months to heal and there are many possible problems she could have with it. Try researching the local piercing places and see if they will allow a fourteen year-old to get pierced - if not, you'll have your answer anyway. If you think she's going to have it done regardless of your consent, take her to a reputable, clean place with kind staff. Don't let her pick her own place and whatever you do, don't let her go somewhere and pretend to be older than she is... if the parlour is breaking age rules to get money, god knows what sort of cleanliness standards they'll also be breaking.
Make sure you get as much information about the procedure as well as the follow-up care as you can - tell her to get informed and then bring the details to you for going over. If you tell her you will consider letting her do it providing she shows she is mature and responsible enough to take care of it, she will hopefully work hard at gaining your trust. See this as a learning experience for the both of you to go into together...
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2007-01-15 20:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
As a mum and grandma I hate to see face piercings as in nose tongue etc but I actually think navel piercing looks good on young girls as their fashion tends to show this area off a lot! I would personally allow her but warn her of the pain and how clean she has to be with it to avoid infection. At least she can take it out when she is fed up with it. One of my daughters got a tattoo when she was 21. On her shoulder. It looks ok NOW but when she is 50???? I was NOT impressed as I don't like tattoos-unless they are the temporary ones.
So my vote is YES she could ask for a lot worse. But I would make her save up to pay for it herself-they have to learn the hard way!! Good luck I'm sure you will make the right decision for your daughter. Noone said it was easy having kids! Wait til the grandchildren arrive it's SO much easier-you get all the fun bits with no decisions to make!!
2007-01-15 20:32:44 · answer #11 · answered by Rachel H 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋