I thiink I hav feeliingz 4 my boyz mate? Pleaz Help?

Question

Hey every1 my name iis Ashalei.
Im 13 turniin 14 on February 24.
I liive iin Australiia and so iitz stiill the summer holiidayz.
Ok so now 2 my diilemma..

Last wKend I went bowliing wiith my boyfriiend, Adam. Hiiz best mate (Ryan) nd my best mate r togetha so they came 2. Adam also iinviited a cuple of hiiz other matez 2... who Im also friiendz wiith. I no iit soundz confusiing but I thought I shud be speciifiic. Anywayz he iinviited Matt nd Rob aswell. Ive only been matez wiith them 4 as long as Adam nd I have been datiing - 4 monthz. Anywayz, Adam spent most ov hiiz tyme hangiin wiith hiis bestii. Me nd Rob nd Matt were hangiin out cuz my bestii and her boy were doiin their own thiing. Rob goez off 2 grab a driink from the kiiosk outsiide wiith the rest of the boyz nd my bestii. So iitz just me nd Matt. We were gonna bowl but then we got started chattiin nd Matt was compliimentiing me.. sayiin how he lovd my haiir nd we were talkiin so easily.. then he randomly grabed my hand nd -->

---> nd I felt a biit shoked nd I diidnt know what 2 do... but I eased up nd he was just so sweet 2 me... my boyfriiendz matez are all really niice guyz but me nd Matt really cliicked at bowliing.... after Adam nd every1 else came back we were all hangiin out nd actiin normal nd whatever... but now I thiink I want 2 be wiith hiim. Thoughts ov my boyfriiend are startiin 2 b replaced by thoughts ov Matt.... but I really lov Adam.... what shud I do?? I'm really confuzed so pleaz help a gurl out!

P.S Pleaz no insultz on the way I type or my age. My parentz are fiine with me datiing boyz. They trust me... just 2 get that straiight.

Answer 1

I think you need to take a step back and think about what you could be getting into. You've been going out with Adam for four months, do you really want to throw what you've got and what you've had with Adam, for a crush on one of his friends? Think about the reputation you'd get, and also how Adam'll feel. He'll most likely get the wrong impression if you went out with one of his friends.... I say try and remember that this is still only a crush and that your relationship with Adam is much more important.

If your feelings for Matt really start to grow; so much so that you can picture yourself being with him, you could consider breaking up with Adam or even just taking a break from the relationships. Remember to take it slowly... there's no rush. I'm 14.5 and I don't think there's anything wrong with you and girls your age dating but just try and keep things in perspective.... you've got a whole lot of love left to give throughout the rest of your teen years and your life as a whole.

Ask yourself: Am I SURE?

Answer 2

If i was you then I'd just give yourself a few weeks to think about things. Last October, when I had been with my boyfriend for 14 months, I suddenly fancied this other guy ALOT and he liked me too. I realied I didn't love my bf anymore and dumped him. We both felt awful for a week, talked on the phone even more than nomal and missed each other lyk hell. When we met up about a week after we split up, it was all good again...we're still together now. The guy has moved away, I still think about him sometimes but it doesn't matter.
That was a bit long but it just shows how your feelings can change so quickly. You don't really appreciate or realise what you've got til you lose it...don't throw away what you've got with Adam just yet. If after a few weeks you still really want to be with Matt, then you could take a break and see how you feel.

Answer 3

im your age but im from the us.

i kno EXACTLY how u feel. its soo much drama right?? well what i did when something similar happend to me was i waited and i didnt say anything to anyone. after a couple more outings if the feelings grew, tell ur best girl friend. she can most likely help. whatever you do, dont flirt with Matt while adam is around. that would be horrible! if you start losing feelings with adam, cut things off with him. you dont want to hurt him, especially over his best friend. hope that helped

Answer 4

all Adams are good guys as far as i can see.I dont know matt and i dont knoe adam,but Matt seems a bad boy as u explained.
And ur attraction with Matt seems temporary,and Matts intentions wd b only for physical(is it illegal to talk to u on this as u are still not 18

i see not many answers still,,we face the sun same time,all US is sleeping,lol,
i m frm india

Answer 5

He exchange into probably abused as a new child, who's acquainted with. In a manner inspite of the incontrovertible fact that, this could be a attempt to verify how lots he can ruin out with. you ought to probably unload him purely in case he turns into some abusive individual in a protracted time interior the relationship.

Answer 6

well i think u need to spend a little more time alone with the matt dude he sounds cool but u know what i think u really do like him because u didn't say anything about your bf up the top

Answer 7

go with what you feel, your not young forever.

just be sure to throughly end your relationship with adam first, let him go with some dignity before starting a new relationship.

and besides, your still so young,if it doesnt work out with matt, you could probably get back with adam anyways, isnt that how high school relationships work?

good luck!!

Answer 8

well sweetie the best thing is to go with ur heart do u really love this guy or not. that is about it i once was in the same boat but i sayed with my man and now we are getting married so go with you heart hope i helped

Answer 9

I would be willing to help but I'm sure as heck not willing to try to decipher that cryptic "style" you type in. Rephrase and get back to me.