Is it wrong to be bisexual? (from a christian view)?

Question

I am so tired of thinking about this... It's 3 a.m. and I have to get ready for school at 5:45 a.m. but this happens frequently... My mind keeps running debating on this issue so much and im tired of it... I'm 16 and was raised christian so of course knowing the usual view christians tend to be agaisnt it... I don't want to give up God yet I feel like if I do try to tell myself im not bisexual I'm not being who I am. Recently a couple of christian people I know and a counslor tried explaining to me that its ok to be this way and a christian... yet my parents and others believe im going to hell for it... I'm so tired of dealing with this issue and the lack of sleep I get from it.. its all I think about anymore... I can't focus on school work, my grades are dropping, its terrible... can anyone give some good advice?

Answer 1

I don't have much time to write everything I would like to say. It can never be wrong from a Christian view to BE bisexual. To be bisexual means you have sexual feelings for both men and women. Your feelings and your likes and dislikes are not something you can change by any force of the will. They are just who you are and how God made you. And because everything God makes is right and good and perfect (what I believe), that means you are fine, just the way you are.

How you choose to act is an entirely different matter. But, I don't see what the problem is. Given that you are bisexual, you are free to act on your heterosexual desires and refrain from the other. True?

Whether or not you can be a Christian and act on homosexual desires is a question that is open to debate. Liberal Christians will say it's OK. Fundamentalist Christians will say it's not. However, if your heterosexual side is strong enough, you can postpone resolving this question for yourself for as many years as you like. And certainly long enough to study the question thoroughly and form your own opinion. You can even opt to study theology after you graduate from high school and become a minister yourself. All this is possible. But you needn't stay awake worrying about it right now, because I know God has a plan for you. Just the way he made you. Right now, you should focus on school and taking care of yourself (which means getting enough sleep). When you get older, it will get less confusing as you gain confidence in your ability to evaluate situations and to make good choices for yourself.

Answer 2

Well I am 15, so I am almost your age and I wonder the same thing sometimes. You sound just like me. I stay up and think about it to, that's why I'm up now and my grades suffer to. I go to a Catholic High school, and other kids are always saying how wrong it is and everything, but others are ok with it. We had a discussion about this in religion class, and ... well it was more about just gay people, but our religion teacher was saying that gay people are human beings too. She basically said that gay people are accepted in the church as long as they don't get married. The way I see it is that, there could be a straight person who is always doing bad stuff and hating other people. But there could be a gay person who trys their best at life and is caring and loving to other people. Would God still send the gay person to hell? I don't think so.

That's really all I can tell you for the religious aspect of it,I get confused with the rest. Sometimes I hear Christians say it's ok others say they go to hell. I think you should just do what YOU think is right. What's the point in living life married to a woman if you truly know that you would rather be with a man? Choose the path that YOU know will make YOU happy. Don't do what other people tell you to do, it's your life and you need to take the path that makes you happy. I saw your other question about your boyfriend who went to college ... it sounds like you loved him. If you like men, just accept that and you will be happier about yourself.

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Answer 3

If you really are a Christian, then look at the life of Jesus for your inspiration. Jesus basically attacked everything that was in the old testament, which is where all of the homophobic verses come from. His message was about love. No one has the right to tell anyone that they are going to hell. I don't even know if Jesus talked about hell - I don't remember hearing about that in church.

God created man (and woman) in his (her) own image. We are all children of God and we are all beautiful as we are. Unfortunately, some people think that they are more empowered by God than others and make the mistake of throwing stones when they themselves are not without sin.

Find a queer-friendly counselor to talk to and try not to bring the subject up with your homophobic family.

Answer 4

From a biblical perspective, no where in the bible does it state man & man nor woman & woman. I made some quotes from the Bible (this is the Bible that speaks this , not me!!). I hope this helps some. Good luck.

(New International Version)
Genesis 2:20-22
So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

Matthew 19:5 & 6
and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

Galatians 5:19-21
The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

1 Corinthians 7:2
But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.

1 Corinthians 7:4
The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.

Answer 5

The bible preaches against sexual acts with others of the same sex. Just remember that the bible was written by men so it's not error proof. In the end just do what you think is right and hope that god approves.

I left Christianity shortly after accepting myself as bi but I'd like to think the two events weren't related in any more way then the courage one gave me to finally be honest with myself. You may remain a Christian or switch to a new religious view point like I did with deism. You're just gonna have to decide what you, deep down in your heart, believe is the right decision.

Answer 6

"Love the sinner, not the sin". Do you remember that?
You know growing up with the "Word" of God that you read, There are many passages that say it is strictly forbidden. It is up to you whet er you sin in spite of God. Care for your eternal soul.
Remember, the Bible is not open to contestation and interpretation.
In previous answers they talk about doing the sin and being forgiven...This is true but there is a catch. They fail to mention that repentance is not enough, you must stop the sin as well in order to be forgiven.

Answer 7

what a terrible thing to be going through at any age let alone 16. teenage yrs are such a trying time. but to answer your question yes it is a sin from a christian point of view. thankfully you do question this and have not given up on God. i think that you should pray about this situation and look into your bible and read up on this matter to help you. i will pray for you as well. trust in God and he will see you through this.

Answer 8

The real issue isn't sexual orientation but what our focus is. Are we going to focus on our own desires, either our struggle with them or giving in to them? Or are we going to acknowledge to God that we cannot deal with them on our own and that we want His strength to empower us and for our focus to be on Him and what He wants and not our lives and what we want? I've heard people say that they lose their identity if they become a Christian, but nothing could be further from the truth. God takes what He has made us to be and as we allow Him to shape our lives as we focus on Him and seek Him, He will take both our strengths and weaknesses and use them for His glory and He will use our strengths and weaknesses to reach others for Him as well. If I can help in any way, please e-mail me at [e-mail]. I'll be praying for you.

Answer 9

Your sexuality is part of you and is no business of other people. Do not attempt to change your sexuality because of pressure from others and certainly not because of religion.

Read The God Delusion by Richard Dawkins. Not only will it help you come to terms with your sexuality it will help you come to terms with religion.

Answer 10

There is absolutely nothing a person can do to change their sexuality, so I say if the bible says it's wrong then the bible is wrong. Acting out on bisexuality may be considered wrong by Christians however.