ok so my bf was going out with this girl 4 5 yrz... she was cheating on him 4 3 of the yrz... so he finally broke up with her and we strtd tlking and thn we were in a relationship....BUT she is crazy she stalks him.... weve been together 4 1yr an a 1/2 an we r engaged now im very close to his family....BUT his sis still tlk to his ex and it bugs me like crazy an it makes me mad an hurt an so many feelings come ovr me.... wht shld i do? is it wrong of me to be like that?
2007-01-15 19:44:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he is with you and not talking to her anymore who cares what his sister does. You are marrying him, not his sister. He's marrying you for a reason, get over your insecurities real quick and deal with the real issue here. Take some time out and think if things are moving too fast for you two. Are you sure you aren't the rebound girl? If you are sure, then quit acting like it.
2007-01-15 19:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by mzagge06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're "engaged" hun! Don't let it destroy your confidence in that.
Remember, his sister has known his ex for a long time, and probably sympathizes for her if they were close. You're not going to change that right away (1-2 years is hardly long enough). But over time as she gets to know you and his ex finally gets the message to move on, things will get better.
Most importantly though, don't let it show that it bothers you. It will only slow the process. It's not wrong that you feel that way, but it can be perceived as selfish by those who don't know you well enough yet.
2007-01-16 03:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by SirCharles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sister does not need to stop being friends with the ex. It is not fair to her to have to lose her friend. Just show your boyfriend how much you love him and don't let the ex get to you. If she knows you are jealous, that just gives you power. What you need to do is act like you don't care about it at all. Show her that you are confident in your relationship. It will bug her to death and it will show him that you are a much better person than she is.
2007-01-16 03:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon , nevermind who cheated on who , the main thing here is that YOU HAVE PUT YOURSELF IN A SITUATION THAT MIGHT END UP IN YOU GETTING SERIOUSLY HURT OVER THIS THIS RELATIONSHIP . You have mentioned that you are engaged to this boy and that you are now close to this boys family - Firstly hon , DOES YOUR B- FRIEND WHO IS NOW YOUR FIANCEE - does He communicate with His ex ? What does He feel about his ex stalking him? You MUSt TALK TO YOUR FIANCEE ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS TOWARDS HIS EX
AND YOU ALSO MUST LET YOUR FUTURE SIS IN-LAW KNOW HOW YOU FEEL -about her talking to her brothers ex
>>>>> but the way i suggest to do this is to have your fiancee deal with the situation , if your fiancee feels he was cheated on
by his ex , if your fiancee feels YOU ARE MORE IMPORTANT IN HIS LIFE , IF YOUR FIANCEE FEELS NO REASON TO COMMUNICATE WITH HIS EX - >>>>>>> HE >>>>>>
is the one to put things right , hon , >>>>>>>>HE IS THE ONE TO FEEL THE ANGER MORE THAN YOU >>>> HE IS THE ONE TO MAKE EVERY EFFORT NOT TO JEOPARDISE HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU .... and as for your fiancee's sis ,
have your fiancee talk to his sister cause if you choose to talk
, you will only end up being the bad one . HON THIS IS ALL ABT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FIANCEE , simply for the fact that You are engaged does not mean You are certain that He has no feelings left for his ex . My best suggestion is , find your way to make this your fiancee's problem , HE REALLY HAS TO DEAL WITH THIS SITUATION cause after all his ex is stalking HIM < not YOU > and God forbid , should your fiancee be reluctant to do anything abt the situation>>> WHICH IS TO TELL HIS EX IN YOUR PRESENCE TO KEEP OFF .... and to speak to his sister in your presence not to encourage a friendship with his ex , as it obviously is causing problems for you both , Hon you must know what they all feel abt you now being on your way to being a wife >>> the slightest doubt hon , taclke the problem now before its too late . Remember hon , quite often
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS AND IN THIS YOUR SITUATION ... YOU ARE THE JUDGE AND THE JURY
GOOD LUCK IN YOUR JUDGEMENT - AND DONT RUSH INTO GETTING MARRIED , THIS WILL NOT RESOLVE ANYTHING
THE PROBLEM SHALL FOLLOW YOU .....
2007-01-16 04:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you would rather have your sis- in-law-2-be attention rather than share it with another lady.it is just fine to feel the way you do.but the truth is the guy is yours now.dont bother who talks to who.u cant choose her friends for her.just be the best you can with her and the rest of the family.
2007-01-16 03:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by beaume 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously he got over her and loves you enough to marry you so why don't you get over her too and enjoy being together.
if the stalking doesn't stop have him talk to her or ask him to get a restraining order or something
2007-01-16 03:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by eddie mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋