i am a married woman,but i have serious crushes on other men?

Question

my husband is not really crazy about me,sometimes i feel he just married me for the sake of it,i honestly dont think he loves me enough,so this makes me think of other men that are interested in me,pls give me advice,cos i dont like thinking of other men

Answer 1

Lady, u are a respectable woman and a married one also. You should never betray your husband no matter what. If you don't like him leave him but never stab him in the back by looking at other men.
Also it is better to tell him what your are feeling.Whatever you feel you must talk about it with him. Looking at other men is not an answer. You are a woman remember that ... a woman is precious and has dignity.God bless u

Answer 2

Don't get into a relationship with a married man cause it doesn't lead anywhere good. Look the guy may be interested, but that's only because you are new to him. That's it. His wife will always be first and you will always be the extra baggage. And anyways what can you expect from someone like him? If he's married (which is a very serious relationship) and cheating on his wife, what makes you think he doesn't have other little flings apart from you? I mean you should think about these things. It is normal to have these feelings, BUT it's not right to act on them. I'm sure you know how horrible it is for the unsuspecting spouse to find out about their cheating partner, so why would you do this to them? I mean how would you feel if some hussy was trying to take your man? So then why do it to someone else? Leave that couple alone!

Answer 3

I too, had that problem in my first marriage. If your husband doesn't make you feel loved, you fantasize about other men who DO make you feel loved. If this is the way it's been since you married, it's not going to go away. If it's just a short-term thing, understand that a lot of us go through periods in our lives when we fantasize about other men. If this is a recent occurrence, try to talk to your husband. Let him know you need to feel special. If he doesn't respond, or isn't receptive to counseling, it's probably time to think about moving on.

Answer 4

well im sorry to hear that, thats aweful. i think that society puts a lot of pressure on people to get married, and people are rushing into marriage after only dating someone for 2 years. This sets up people for failure unless you get lucky, b/c people change so much over time, its impossible to say what kind of person you or your spouse will become. So i say if you are unhappy then just save yourself now before ten years goes by and your left wondering what happened to your life, and living in regret for not getting out sooner.
yknow, or go to couples therapy, but if therapy doesnt work, seriously, dont live unhappy just b/c you want the picture of a happy married couple. life is to damn short to be fake.

Answer 5

It seems to me you are very concerned about ur relationship with your husband. Everyone at some point has an interest in someone else besides their significant other. An interest is just a mere infatuation. It is natural for people to have infatuations, but you should not let them get in the way of your marriage.

Answer 6

I have been in your shoes before honey and let me say this. If your man really wants you and cares about you he will notice that you are interested in other men. I was in the same situation with my ex husband. He never acted like he loved me or payed any attention to me so I started falling for someone who did. Needless to say the new man is now my husband and we have been married for 7 years now and we still are deeply in love and in lust. Once you get the man that treats you the way you ought to be treated your eyes or heart will never go astray.

Answer 7

You are feeling neglected and unappreciated it is only natural to seek out men that make you feel attractive I'm sure your husband loves you he is just taking you for granted. Maybe he needs a wake up call. Sit him down and tell him how you feel and what you want from your marriage. If he can't give it to you maybe it's time to get out but alot of men need to be told that women require them to stroke our egos once in a while.

Answer 8

I have carefully analyzed your question. Honestly speaking you should not think about other men who might be interested in you. As far as your husband's attitude is concerned, you should speak with him clearly. There should have been no doubt about his demeanour towards you. I think he might have lost interest in you due to some other problems, which he might not be able to discuss with you. He must have been thinking that as you are his wife, there should have been no problem of infidelit y. I advise you to very kindly take it for granted that he is your husband and you are his wife. You should not think about other men who might be interested in you for some other motives.

Answer 9

Tell your husband how you feel. If he acts aloof or unresponsive then sit down and ask yourself a very critical question " I do love this man, but can I see a future or life without him?" or do you both love each other but not "in love". And before all of this remember the grass ain't always greener on the other side

Answer 10

if you know your husband is not crazy about you

then you looking at other men maybe that your not also

so if you want to start dating these other men at least out of respect to your marriage so you do not look back at this and regret it ...tell him you need to seperate and have a divorce

if you can't live without him then speak to him of his distance not of your erotic thoughts and if not even that then think of life without him

is it really worth the thrill with these other men to lose your husband?

it is all your choice figure which one best describes your inner feelings...1