I think im gay..but?

Question

im having a hard time telling anyone close.. like friends.. or family. what should i do? how should i tell them? especially if i know my parents wont accept it.

Answer 1

Just take it one friend at a time. I'm straight and my best friend is gay. She came to me first, because she knows I could careless who you date. It should be no big deal. If they can't accept you for who you are, then get some new friends. True friends accept you. All of you. You may want to see if there is a local chapter of LGBT around. They can help you out and give you a good support group if you need one.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT

Answer 2

I think you would be very surprised. If they are your true friends, they will accept you no matter what. If not, then you are better off without them. Your parents might not like the idea, but I am sure they will come around. I have a few friends that are gay, one doesn't even know that we know(his sister told us), but it doesn't change the way we feel about him, he is a great friend. I have another friend that actually moved away b/c he thought we wouldn't accept him. I really miss him. So, if you are sure about this, you would probably feel like a huge weight was lifted off of your shoulders if you told somebody. Times are different now, people are more accepting .

Answer 3

Coming out can be an extremely hard thing to do..especially when you are young. I think you should sit your parents down and tell them. They may get upset at first, but you are their child and should accept you and everything that is you.
As for your frinds, maybe just have the ones that you are closest to, and have known the longest, get together and tell them..or if you feel more comfortable..tell them individually. Your true friends will accept you for who you are, and if not, they arnt true friends, and who needs them anyway?
If you dont come out, you will probably just feel miserable. Look at people like (i know this may sound cheesy) Lance Bass, he came out and said it was the best decision of his life, and he feels so much happier now, and he can truly be himself. I think you may be happier too..better sooner than later. People will eventually comes to terms with this, and it wont seem like such a big deal anymore as time goes on.
I hope this helps you and i hope everything works out.

Answer 4

Okay, from some experiences of my friends come out only when you are ready.
(my friend came out to his mom and dad and they love and accept him for who he is)

Even if your mother suspects, just keep it inside until you are fully ready. I know that keeping something that integrated in your life away from someone is hard, but NEVER NEVER come out until you are fully prepared and ready.
Also, tell a friend. If you prefer a guy friend, go ahead.Likewise, if you prefer a girl friend, go ahead and tell them.
Too often people come out when they arent fully prepared, and the results can be ten times worse than what could have been. Just remember you only come out to your parents once. Make the best of it.
Again, calm down, and think it all through. If you hate confrontations, do what I did and write them a letter.
You are the main person, and you should take charge. Just live your life the best you can. If your parents suspect, then prepare coming out faster, but not so fast that you are rushed to do it.
Even if it means waiting, just stick through it... times will change...
If you need to talk about this personally, I am usually available... :wink:

Answer 5

You can't say that if you don't have a evidence for proving are u is a gay or not. Don't hopelessly, find a way of to prove if you aren't gay. But if you find it, you must tell your parent ( tell the true ) give a time to your parent to think and care about you. I know each parent don't want her/his child had a problem with them self. But God send we tho the world with our body, but all people not same/ different, there are handsome, pretty, smart, stupid, or anything.... and if you think you are gay you can't do anything for change but, try to accept matter exist in in yourself are there him. I know you must patient to facing all yours problem. And the key is trust yourself. Good luck.

Answer 6

Say it the best way you can or no how to. Either way they are going to hear " I am Gay"
Your parents have no choice but to except it becase they have an unconditional love for you that can't be broken.
But don't take it personal for them to be mad or dissappointed. They already had secret plans for you in their mind that will not become reality.
Also try to be a little more understanding on their behalf, as they do the same for you.

Answer 7

Start off by telling a close friend. It is very likely that they will have an idea that you are gay.
Do not be afraid of telling your parents - it will not be as bad as you thing.
Most parents are very supportive of their guy children.
Trust me - I know from experience.

Answer 8

If your parents don't accept it then they aren't real loving parents.
Just tell them that's the only way. It is a sin but they're going to have to learn how to accept it.

Answer 9

I'm all for people being out of the closet, but why do you actually have to tell anyone. Just start dating. When people ask if your dating anyone just say the truth then, "Yes, I am seeing someone. His name is Mike, and he looks like he may be long term. I'm so happy."

I'm against the coming out speech. "Mom, Dad, I'm gay."

Answer 10

You THINK you're gay??? If you're attracted to guys enough to kiss or have sex with a guy, you are gay.
If you feel that way towards guys and girls you are bi.
If only about guys then believe me... you are GAY.

Your friends & family will have NO choice but to deal with it sooner or later.

Try this on your friends: "Guess what. I'm gay.Yep, gay."

For family, write a letter. Much easier.