social skills?

Question

i'm goin through a lot of problems right now and i hardly have any friends. and i suck at making new ones. any tips?

Answer 1

I'm much the same way. I also have problems to contend with and have some difficulty making friends. What I'm working on right now is to finish figuring myself out. I have one last (major) area to figure out and then my picture will be complete. Once I have that figured out and then also figure out what I'll need to do about it, then I'll be able to be myself out there and be more confident and be able to communicate clearly and connect with people.

Sometimes, you just have to work on the problems first. It's fine to be a bit isolated for a while as long as you're doing something about it. I talk with a therapist and I'm about to get hooked up with someone who specializes in this biggest problem of mine, so for me, I don't mind being a little bit isolated for now. I know it will get better.

For now, I go out when I can, even if I don't necessarily want to. Sometimes, simple things like remembering to do a little small talk or even remembering manners helps me. Even asking somseone I don't know very well where she's from or what she likes to do when she has some time to herself or things like that is helpful.

Good luck

Answer 2

I with you on that one. I've considered therapy. I thought maybe a therapist could give me some tips, and maybe give me some useful exercises to "strengthen me" in that area. I haven't done so yet though.
I'm practicing talking to anybody. I think it helps me be comfortable in my own skin.
I noticed that I'll go through life completely disengaged with the outside world. Like I'll be at the convenience store and not even make eye-contact with the cashier, I could go the whole day and not talk to anybody. Just making eye-contact and saying hello goes a long way to building confidence I think.
Also "face-time" is very important to our happiness and confidence. Spend as much time face to face with other human beings..even if it's just your parents or siblings, or some other family member. People forget that it's important to see other people.

Answer 3

It sounds like you are not going to be at your best to try to make new friends now. Any current friend or family member who is not contributing to your problems is probably your safest social contact. Even when you are not trying to, you never know how and when your next friend might come along. Even here on yahoo answers, you may get satisfying human contact. Many folks really care and try to give thoughtful and helpful answers. Good luck!!

Answer 4

ask your ex-friends to write down what they don't like about you. After that go see a counselor with your long list.