What mental effects might it have in my married life. I am a dignified character but there has been lot of cravings for me to watch porn. How can it be avoided?
2007-01-15 17:41:36 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First of all I don't think your an evil person. Its a natural thing for men (who are visually turned on) to be interested in. Realize 99.9% the girls in porn are only in porn because they were molested by the male role models in their life. Some say they enjoy it but its called MARKETING. Look into their eyes. Its creepy. Plus porn is really out of touch with female sexuality. Too much of it can distort your perception. You do want to be a good lover don't you? Just keep it in moderation and you'll be ok.
2007-01-15 17:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by ☺☻☺☻☺☻ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will always have cravings to watch whatever erotica turns you on. Just accept that it will always be there and enjoy your porn. When you find that you would rather watch porn than satisfy your spouse you have a problem. So, before things get that far, have her join you and make it something you two can do together. Keeping it a secret is not healthy, it's better to share it with her. Who knows, you both might just learn something.
2007-01-15 17:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by Rabble Rouser 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should ask you wife how she feels about you watching porn. If it is offensive to her that you watch it, you should respect her feelings. She may be happy to watch it with you. If it becomes an obsession you probably need to see a professional to help you get free of the cravings. Good Luck.
2007-01-15 17:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm rather confused as to why a 23 y.o. married "dignified" guy is asking in this forum if he should watch porn and if it should be avoided...I mean...he is 23..he is married...he hasn't discovered porn before now??......maybe it's just me *shrug*
2007-01-15 18:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by PCee 49 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i was gonna answer with a simple "yes" until I saw that you are married. NO, you should not watch porn unless your partner is ok with watching it with you.
I have been with people who love porn, i like it to, and sometimes we would watch it together, but I stress sometimes.
Watching porn all the time can lead to this make believe life that porn is how your sex life should be. You will get to the point where you will need it to have good sex with your partner, and that should not ever be.
So yeah, discuss it with your partner and see what they think. Good luck.
2007-01-15 17:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it depends on how your wife feels about it also. Some married couples see it as a learning tool for the bedroom, which I feel is alright if the two of you both agree to it! It could be positive in that respect but it may end up being negative if you have to watch it to get ready to have sex with your wife. It could end up making her feel that she is not good enough for you any more which will effect her mental state more then yours. I feel if you want to avoid watching it then try to make your love life more interesting with what you have learned up to this point and see if that helps you, or find a new hobby to take your mind off of the sex drive and focus it on something diffrent. All things are good in moderation but too much of one thing may not be good in the end. Try to figure out why you feel you need to watch so much of it and then try to come up with a solution for the reason you watch so much of it. Maybe you will have to post again once you figure out why you feel you need it so much until then it is hard for us to figure out why you are so into it right now. Look inside yourself and ask yourself what is it that makes me need this so much and be honest with yourself. If you need more help after searching yourself then post again so we may help you find the answer you need to know to help you try to get a handle on this. Good Luck and Be Honest To Yourself.
2007-01-15 17:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Ginny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a porn buff myself yet I watched a few shows here and there. I decided it wasn't for me. Perhaps you need to ask yourself some basic questions, now these questions are only personal to you. I don't think it causes any mental effects to your married life, except to have your wife feel unwanted, undesired and unloved.
2007-01-15 17:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
At what age do you consider yourself as an adult?
At what age did you get married?
At what age did you had sex and continuing to have sex?
Now, as an adult you are asking this question?
As a dignified man?
Oh well..... since you are grovelling with that sad puppy looking eyes.... Watch it with your wife and re-act the scenes to pruce up you otherwise dull mudane sex life.
2007-01-15 18:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by gs04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the type of guy who meets teenage girls in chat rooms on the internet. Dateline had a decent special on tonight about that where guys would show up to this house after chatting with a "girl" and this Dateline reporter would pop in and start interviewing the guys. He'll let them leave and they would get arrested outside. One guy even had the audacity to bring his toddler kid with him. So watch him.
2016-05-24 21:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i been married for 18 yrs ,and I'm going to be honest i watched a few yrs ago .
but i found out every time i turned one on 5to10 minutes we forgot about the movie and got busy ourselves .
and became a turned off for both of us ,for the reason to much moaning ,and unreal body's .
why fantasize what's on the tube ,when right next to you its the real thing ,you can talk ,touch ,kiss,feel ,hear .
they all Barbie's one be .
2007-01-15 17:52:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋