ishe stabbed me when i was 7 and i couldnt tell no one fo fear ill get killed i used to be a good kid until about 12 when i started selling and smoking weed. then she just responded by doing little kid **** like putting me in the corner. then when i was 13 she hit me over the head with a vase when i was cleaning the house for her(my daily chore) i was knocked out for an hour then woke up not knowing what waqs going on. the next thing i knew i was on a plane to my fathers house in new mexico. i always listened to her except for that stupid phase when i was 12 but she now is trying to say shes sorry by emailing me and calling em but ended up critisizing me more. what should i do? we cant change our number because its my grandpas house and he refuses so what should i do?
2007-01-15 17:28:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
well i think your mom has bigger issues and need to get help before starts contacting you again. it seems like you had a rough childhood, and i'm sorry that you had to go through that. nobody should have to experience what you have.
everytime she emails or calls respond by giving her numbers and emails of sources that can help her with the sickness that she has.
you are definitely better off in NM and no doubt are doing better right?
just continue to succeed, and do not let the past stop you from becoming the successful man that you can be. get a good education and make a life for yourself and you can prove to everyone that no matter how bad of a life you once had, you have made it far...
that's what i think =)
2007-01-16 03:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, I am terribly sorry for the **** you had to go through as a child. My first thought is you need to stay away from her right now, no phone calls and no emails. I would encourage you to see a therapist and work through your dark past. Then when you feel better, or over, or through with the past. Then I would encourage a reaching out, as a whole and well adult. That way she will not have any power over you. And quite possibly you two can salvage a mother/son relationship in the future, but not from your ugly past.
In answer to your question as to why she was so psycho, I don't know. Was she on drugs, or did she have a horrible childhood? It definitely sounds like she has imulse control problems. Maybe after you've had some time with a therapist, you could have your mother join you in sessions and work this out in the safety of an objective third party's safe office.
2007-01-15 17:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
regrettably we gained't administration our babies. She ought to no longer condone what they do yet honestly as a figure, you could in reality benefit this a lot and then you should enable bypass on the religion you've executed the perfect you would possibly want to and they're going to make the right alternatives. Say she punishes your brother or sister; do you imagine they does no longer sneak off behind her back and do it besides? maximum youngsters might want to do it only to rebellion. with any success it truly is only a level they are dealing with and that i wish your mom did a minimum of tell them what they are doing is incorrect and they ought to provide up. you need to be very happy with your self for understanding both one in all those issues are incorrect and it looks you'd be the only to make the right alternatives.
2016-11-24 20:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs the help of a good therapist. It sounds to me like she very probably had similar treatment while she was growing up and doesn't know how to do things any better. That doesn't justify her treatment of you, though.
As for you, your mother's criticisms are wrong (both as in the wrong way to treat you and also as in mistaken). You need to unlearn your reponses to those words and learn healthier reponses.
I have to had to do something similar, but my mother wasn't abusive. It's the things she has always said that I have learned not to believe anymore. I have learned not to feel guilty about her bad behavior, as though it's my responsibility to fix her or as though it was my fault. I used to think like that, but not anymore. Those ideas are both wrong.
My mother's bad behavior is not my responsibility. Your mother's isn't your responsibility either.
It seems that your grandfather isn't worried about your mothers calls and emails. If he was, he'd do something about it, even at his age.
If you can't do anything else, remember that your mother's words are only words and they're coming from her own problems, not from you. That doesn't make it any fun to listen to her, of course, but it helps.
I agree with the idea of seeing a therapist yourself, as well. I am, too, and I find it very helpful. Therapists aren't only for "crazy people". They're also for people who don't have a problem but who are going through a crisis or having a difficult problem.
Best of luck!
2007-01-15 17:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've no way of contacting so this will have to do. Doe's she drink? If so, then find your local AA, and attend meeting's (ACA and ALANON). If the problem is other than a chemical it's not your fault. You must seek-out help with-in the community you live. Contact someone in Human services, thay will guide you.y My story is somewhat like yours. Please remember that "this to will pass". The positive is that after you have gotten past this, you will be of great benefit to others. My best to you, please feel free to E-mail if you have questions.
2007-01-15 18:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by All-One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay the $2/month to get the "block number" service. Then she can't call there. Set up a filter in your email to send anything sent by her to go into junk mail or the trash.
2007-01-15 17:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by Meg M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all i hope u stopped smoking weed, 2nd it shows ur a smart person if u see the that she wasn't good to u lots of people go back to their abusing partners/parents/whatever so i would reccomend that if everything is going allright with ur dad/grandpa stick with them. u know whats back at ur moms (abuse) so stay with ur dad. Good luck
2007-01-15 17:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by COK11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, you gotta learn to live with it.
besides, being able to stand e-mails and calls from a crazy woman might become useful later in your life.
2007-01-15 17:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your grand pa ,he seems a lot safer and you are there because he wants to protect you.
tell him the truth ,everything
2007-01-15 17:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋