We have two kids and he wants another. Little cutties are a lot of work.
2007-01-15 17:16:06 · 11 answers · asked by Kim D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would look at the whole situation first! Can you both afford more children? Do you even want another child? If you break up in the future what will happen to the children since nowdays divorce is so common! The one thing alot of people do not think about is how much is cost to raise children, do you want to send your children to college and how will you pay for all of them. I think the two of you need to sit down and talk about this in more detail and consider all things because it sounds like you are not ready for another one or you maybe do not want more then two. You have to be honest to him if this is the case or the children will pay for it in the long run. It is not fair to the children if you really have no desire for more than the two you have now. Please for the childrens sake think about it and talk it over before having another one. You are very smart for asking about this instead of just giving into what he wants. I have total respect for you for doing this!
2007-01-15 17:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ginny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are a lot of work. Did you discuss this issue before you were married? If he was ok with 2 kids but has changed his mind, he's asking for more than you bargained for. If you said you wanted more than 2 and now you've changed your mind, he probably feels short changed.
This is a tough one but the bottom line is, each child should be wanted by BOTH parents. As a mom, I know what a handful 2 are. Even though he was planned, my third child was more than I expected.
When I had 2 kids, I could comfortably handle both of them (thank goodness I have 2 hands). But when that third angel came along, I didn't have enough hands!
2007-01-16 01:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Lothario grow up. I think you should really just sit down with him and tell him how you feel and how much work it is for you to take care of the two you have now. Maybe make a compromise and say we should wait and see if a couple of years when the little ones are a bit bigger and not as much work.
Good Luck..
2007-01-16 01:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by lisa_sonydadc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly in your heart of hearts know for sure you don't want anymore children...DON'T HAVE ANY!...I gave in to the pressure and sure I love my son - but I really resented the pregnancy the whol e term...and when he was born I resented my husband...I think my baby felt the rejection while he was in my womb...he was born sobbing...and he is a grown man now with a very negative outlook on life...I honestly think it stemmed from his beginning...so now I live with the guilt from that....
2007-01-16 01:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ruth M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want to wait till the other 2 children get a little older_
2007-01-16 01:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've done your share If he wants more tell him to pull them out of his ass.
2007-01-16 01:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to have it this time around,
2007-01-16 01:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by cailieco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really really don't want it, you have the right to say no.
2007-01-16 01:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by Nats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him thats fine, its more that he will have to pay in child support when you leave him
2007-01-16 01:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two is enough
can you guarrantee he wont ever leave you on your own to raise them??
2007-01-16 01:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by browneyestrish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋