Frustrated with life.?

Question

I am in the middle class, but I find myself frustrated with life and how much everything seems to cost. People seem to be able to afford so much more than my husband and I and he makes good money. What are we doing wrong? Do you feel this way?

Answer 1

its funny ..no don't feel that way and have struggled all my life with money and making extra money but suppose maybe spent my life wasted trying to be happy and count my blessings but I grew up very poor so anything we had when I was married and had children was a step up..I was married 23 years and raised two chidren and worked two jobs most of the time and the wife did too one job..We raised our children gave them better than we had ..like our parent before us and they turned out ok.I divorced their mother after they were grown thats a whole different story but anyway worked hard and made the right investments at the right time and place and now retired and live on a fixed income but better off than I have ever been.I have money now and things..Believe me they are meaningless..In the end its not what you have or what you have done ,it all boils down to who loves you and cares about you .Money and things don't make you happy .Some of the best times in my life are memories fond ones of when I was struggling..You appreciate everything then more than you do when you get to where you are going..so keep this in mind..just a thought.

Answer 2

We are also middle class and we'd love to have much more than we do have. We have nice stuff but it seems like the neighbors always have better. It's very common to try to keep up with the "jones" I'm pretty materialistic and I like nice things but the thing is my husband is pretty responsible in the sense that he doesn't max out a ton of credit cards. I think a lot of people tend to do that. Also my brother is married to a girl who's mom is rich and she buys them everything. It makes my brother and his wife look rich because they have everything they need and more. My husband makes really good money but I stay home with our three children. I think maybe if I worked at night when he's home that we could afford alot more but then we would miss alot of precious time together. We're all very close and I don't think I'd want to give that up just so I can buy more stuff.

Answer 3

I live with chronic illness (undiagnosed, unfortunately). It hit me hard during my junior year too. A week after I graduated I was told that there was a 50% chance that I would be in a wheelchair by the time I was 30, and if I escaped that, a 30% by the time I was 40. I'm 41 and having a hard time, but two years ago I was leading kids up mountains. Unknowns are always difficult. It's not that long till May, so you may as well carry on as if you know for certain that you're ok. (The symptom lists I googled are common enough -- you really do need tests for this one.) Comfort is over-rated. It makes it easier to tolerate the status quo and lessens our resolve to change it. Some things can't be changed of course and they have to be accepted. But much can. What in your life can you change so that you have what you need? Good luck and (((hugs)))

Answer 4

I am in the low class, but i find myself frustrated with life and how much everything seems to cost. People seem to be able to afford so much more than me and my mother because she is on welfare. Everything is perspective.

The only thing you're doing wrong is comparing your self with others and not appreciating what you have. When I compare myself to you I realize how much is going for me. I'm happy, I'm not complaining, I'm not frustrated. I've learnt(the hard way; I used to think that...) that life isn't about being able to afford things or even having things. It's about feeling good about yourself and just feeling good. Good health (despite my poverty, I'm quite healthy, even in comparison to the upper class where i live but who cares about them), good relationships, and enough "things"/money/etc to live relatively comfortably (and i don't mean luxuriously) Small pleasures are key. You don't need the biggest TV or the fanciest boat/car/house. Relying on things for happiness will lead to a never-ending struggle.

You have a husband right? wow that's good. He obviously makes "good money" so you can live healthy and comfortably. There will always be someone with more or with less than you.
Stop comparing and look for improvement in lifestyle and attitude.

Answer 5

I'm like wavering between low income and poverty and I feel the same way - like we're doing everything we can but never are able to get ahead. The bills increase and our income does not increase. We have bachelor degrees but it's not enough. We're very frugal and don't have consumer debt at all - but we always feel like we're in survival mode. How to get ahead? I have no answers. Sorry. Trust me I understand - it's like in a country where everything is accessible and the media is constantly bombaring you with all of the great things you could have - and we can't even afford anything but hand me down furniture and what the media makes look like a pitiful lifestyle. It's hard - but you need to focus on the weightier issues of life - then you just don't think about it alot. That's the only way I cope.

Answer 6

Once in a while, then I think about a plan I can do to save more money and then with my disability I couldn't work 3 jobs, but I would try, sure people are telling you the government is just giving you money. Or they are trying to make me give it to them, which doesn't happen at all. So, with angre in my voice, I said do you want to know how I got this money, do you really want to know everything, about what this money is actually paying for? They look all dumbstruck when I start growling at them and don't say yes or no. So, I go on to tell them, that my disbility money is for my grandfather dying right infront of me, for all my broken bones, for 3 months in a coma, for 5 months in the hospital, that I had to learn how to walk again and breath again. And, they say they are frustrated with life, I just look at them and laugh. Have a nice day!

Answer 7

Yes, but over different things than you. I myself make money where I find myself living comfortably, but alone. I find myself wondering why I can't find someone to spend the rest of my life with when others do. I think what I'm trying to say is that both of us, you and I, need to concentrate more on what's important in our life and what we have around us. Not only is the grass greener on the other side of the fence but so is the color of jealousy over what others have that we don't. We need to be happy with what we have or we'll kill ourselves being frustrated over what we don't. Good luck and God Bless, I hope you find not only what your looking for but what you need as well :).

Answer 8

Be contended with what you have.Why not for a start,start comparing yourself with the lower income.That might make you feel better.The world revolves around people of the middle and upper income and completely shuns lower income altogether.What cost a penny for you can cost a bomb for these people.Money is not everything!I think you should appreciate life and learn to make the best of it.Material gains are temporary.love ,care,frienship,family are the ones which can tide you over rough times,appreciate that.

Answer 9

Yes, things are very expensive! Don't feel alone! You can make sooooo much money and still not be able to buy alot with the cost of gas and bills. Don't worry! Just be smarter about the things you buy. Like where you can get it cheaper for the same thing! =]

Answer 10

I think that everyone goes through this at one point or another in their life. I don't think that you are doing anything wrong, the cost of living is just getting higher and higher. Don't get yourself down over money though cause there is so much in life to enjoy that is very free...