Is he cheating?

Question

Lastnight my hubby went clubbing, whichI dont care about, but when i called his phone a girl answered and said ifI wasa good wife then he wouldnt bethere with her. Is he cheating, and would you leave?

Answer 1

Well... the circumstances are suspicious. I'd ask him what he was doing there and who he was with and why he let a girl answer his phone and talk to you that way, because that was totally disrespectful of her and of him. I'd hear him out, observe his behavior, think about it for a little while, maybe a couple days, then listen to what my gut is telling me.

Answer 2

are you that naive until you need to get other people to confirm something you was told right to your ears? What the hell kind of excuse can he give for allowing another female to answer his phone and say such a stupid thing? If your hubby was a married man in his heart he would be home with you or out with you. I know people need their own space, BUT when you decide to get married, you change all the ways you had that involves just you. You make that choice to rearrange your life. The biggest thing you need to be worried about is... What if he bring a STD home or worst... AID/ HIV. I as a woman hate when we fall so deep in love and refuse to see the bad things in the person that we love. It's easier to close our eyes to being alone. I rather be alone than to be cheated on or DEAD from a decease that an unfaithful partner.

Answer 3

This was just some vindictive b*tch that probably got ahold of his phone while he was in the bathroom or on the dance floor, or somewhere else. I wouldn't give her another thought, but I would tell him what happened and tell him to keep his phone in his pocket next time. I'm sure he wouldn't want anyone talking to you like that and will probably get mad that it did happen. If you haven't thought he was cheating before last night, it was probably an isolated incident. If you had doubts before, I would treat it like it was some stranger that answered the phone but you have to let him know that some 'stranger' said that to you when you called him. In any case, he cares more about you than anyone else, he's married to you and men don't commit to anything unless they want to---it depends on how committed you are to him and if you can forgive and move on if in fact he is cheating. I don't know, men are so weird sometimes, I've learned to take them all with a grain of salt, even my own husband---as long as he is lying to me so I don't find out, I think we are in good shape. Call it bad, I call it realistic ---I think it is the rare man that can stay totally monogamous throughout 50 years of marriage.

Answer 4

Was he out with the guys or was he out alone? If he was a decent husband another woman wouldn't have his phone. And he would never let another woman speak to his wife like that. I would confront him about it and tell him you wont sit there and let another woman talk to you like that nor will he be going out without you again. There is a thing called trust and once it is lost there is no relationship. It is something I would never put up with. If you are loyal and treat him well then you deserve better. But if you do the same as he does then sweep behind your own back door first... But No man who respects his wife would act in that way. I hope this helps.

Answer 5

Do not jump into any conclusion. He may have a good reason. Men going clubbing is common and having girls for company is the norm. It may be nothing. It could be a social function with the office colleages or some old friends.
The best is to ask him when both of you are at ease and relaxing.
You may learn something about men.
But if he is involved with another woman, you can easily detect the lies given.

Good Luck

Answer 6

First of all, if you two are married, he shouldn't be at clubs. You should care where he goes, maybe that's why he does go because you don't care and haven't put your foot down!

Since another woman had answered his phone, then that tells you, he was with another woman. Of course he is cheating, the woman told you herself. What other proof do you need? Unless you want to ask him yourself, then you should ask him. Cheating is when you are with the person for quite a long time.

First sit with him and talk, to get the story straight. If he was with another woman, then it is up to you to decide what to do next.

Answer 7

Is he cheating? Give him the sniff test. If you can smell perfume, then some chick has been too close. That doesn't mean they did the nasty, but it does mean he don't mind another gal hugging on him. If he was a good husband, he wouldn't be clubbin like some single kid. He's married, time to grow up.
Ask him why some gal was answering his cell phone? If he gets agitated, start making moving arrangements. It ain't worth your sanity to stay hooked up with a guy like that.

Answer 8

Honey in case you have already got information he's cheating ("So i think of my bf is cheating doing the web element I do have information, yet he hides his "cookies" temp archives that could hint what you're doing online.. ") why could you % to proceed torturing your self finding for added info? purely kick him to the decrease noone merits to be cheated on. i be attentive to its greater handy stated than executed because of the fact i'm specific you adore him, yet love your self greater. No guy is ever properly worth your tears.

Answer 9

Definitely sounds like something may be going on. You need to confront your husband about this. If he gets really defensive there probably is something going on. If you do determine that he is cheating on you I would leave unless he agrees to go to counseling with you to work on your marriage. Trust is a very hard thing to get back once it has been shattered.

Answer 10

you definintly need to ask him about it.... he'll probably deny cheating... did she just hang up on you or did he come to the phone? i think i would look into it a bit like cell phone calls incoming & outgoing, how often he's gone for nights out and how long, etc... i think that the girl would not answer his phone if they were cheating, but she could have been drunk .... if he is cheating tho, HE needs to move, not you sweetie, i have bad luck with this stuff. I hope it works out for you...... good luck!!!