My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 5 months. We have been totally in love with each other, we had huge plans for our future together. He even asked me to marry him and move to his apartment. Everything was perfect until one day he left me without saying "goodbye" to me. We didn't even had a fight. It has been over a week since then, I tried to comunicate with him a couple of times and ask him what's wrong but no reply at all. What should I do next? Please people try to help me. THANKS.
2007-01-15 16:51:12 · 18 answers · asked by Christina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let him contact you. Don't call, don't email. If he doesn't call in two weeks, move on because he has found some else with more. If he calls, act like nothing happened; don't ask, let him explain, but make a mental note of his actions and how this may affect your future relationship with this man. Above all else, use protection if you are giving it up to him.
2007-01-15 16:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to see him one on one. It's easy to abandon people on the phone. Not give any explanations, stay away and not contact you. But when you are face to face with a person they'll have to have to either talk or walk away. If he walks away then don't look back. Go off and heal your wounds. He sound as if he's running for something. Maybe you should go undercover to find out what he is hiding. But be careful, you might find something that will really hurt you. I understand that you need closure.
2007-01-15 17:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better that he left now not later, it will be more painful.
There are many reasons but the only one i felt is that he chicken out. He is not willing to commit himself yet to anyone, 5 months is a short period to think of marraige and having a family. Let it go.
If he really loves you, he will be back but this time go slow, do not rush into any commitment.
Good Luck
2007-01-15 17:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull yourself together if he's not calling you back or answering your phone calls then move on maybe he needed some space who knows. It's a good thing cause good-bye means forever there's hope since he didn't sat these words to you.
2007-01-15 17:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by deezbrats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If and when you talk to him, act like there's absolutely nothing bothering you... life couldn't be better. If the subject is brought up.. let him know that... hey, if he doesn't want you.... someone else WILL!!! ... and leave it at that. If he truly cares about you... it'll be a wake up call.... make him think he's lost you.. not the other way around. Good luck, hon.... it'll be tough.
2007-01-15 17:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by igiveall2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically let him go and dont bother or nag him.... If he wants to talk he will call or contact you and if he does not it is over and you need to move on with your life.... I am wondering if he left you for another woman or maybe he is gay or are you pregnant and he got scared and ran.... This sure is a mystery.
2007-01-15 16:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky that he walked out on you before things got too complicated. If he had doubts about the whole thing, he did right by you to move on without complicating your life any further. I know, he shout have told you but.........maybe it'd hurt him too much to say goodbye.
2007-01-15 17:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you close with anyone in his family? If so, ask them to help you find out what happened. There has to be an answer. If they won't help, do you and he have mutual friends, If so see if they will help you. I hope this helps. Good luck and I'll say a prayer for you tonite.
2007-01-15 16:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by lynnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no idea what makes men do stupid stuff like this, but I kinda had something similar happen... i still dont know for sure, but I think in my case, the guy either never had true intentions from the start or he cheated on me...
im guessing he knew i had figured him out or that id never forgive him.... and guys dont need closure the way we do.. in fact its easier for them to just leave like that.
maybe try talking to his friends or something to get an answer about why??
2007-01-15 16:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by amwolf2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear this, but he's having second thoughts about your future together. Give him some room, but be ready to accept that it may be over with him.
2007-01-15 16:55:25 · answer #10 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋