we dated for 2 yrs in the past but broke up because we argued too much. and his parents raised him like a king so he's... a tad bit spoiled. ANYWAY he dated this new girl afterwards for about a month, but when he got in a fight with her, he lied to me by telling me he was going to dump her, and used me to cheat on her (the next day he changed his mind about dumping her). this is the big reason why i'm posting this question. after she dumped him (bc they also argued) he started dating someone new. then she ended up going for her ex. after a couple weeks, he wants me back. he says he's going to change... but i don't know what to think. we got back together... but there was a time when he was already moving on without me. i wanted to be friends with benefits, but he started putting my pictures on his dorm wall and being really nice like he was when we used to be serious. and now he says that he won't have sex with me unless we have a relationship. i love him but i'm confused as he**.
2007-01-15 16:46:19 · 16 answers · asked by stelze 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
we dated for 2 yrs but argued a lot.he mentioned marriage.i dumped him out of nowhere.5 months later,we tried to make it work again but break up.i force myself to see other guys,but can't stop thinking of my x.he moves on and starts a new relationship.after a month,he gets in a huge fight with her/tells me he's going to dump her/uses me for sex/next day changes his mind.this shook me bc he's not the type to cheat.she dumps him for other reasons.i later find out from the girl that they never had sex.during this,i meet a guy that's ok,but still not as great as my x.my x sees a new girl but spends way more time with me than her.she ended up going for her x anyway.2 weeks later,my x puts my pics on his dorm wall/wants to hold hands.we makeout.i still love him but am afraid.i tell him i only want friendship.he is hurt/ignores me.i agree to give him another chance bc we're best friends but the only thing in the way is our love that never goes away.so i think it's worth another try.
ADVICE?
2007-01-15 17:41:59 · update #1
You don't need him. Not even the benefits.
2007-01-15 16:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but yoy already know the anwer.
If you "love" him then friends with benefits is kind of shallow anyway. If he's using you to make so one else jealous, he has no character.
I've seen girls end up alone following your lifestyle.
Don't be confused. Get away from the guy. He's poison. I'm sure the sex might be good in the short term but the longer your with him the less likely you ll dsate a real guy
Anyway, I know you'll get back together with him, he won't change, you'll fight and the cycle will continue until he finds out he wants another girl. Then he'll tromp on you like he did the other girl, ...
2007-01-15 17:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you shouldn't have sex with him if your not in a relationship with him, and it's stupid to get with him ONLY for sex. He's actually the right one in saying that he'll only go to bed with you if you're in a relationship..
What i've learned is, if a guy cheats on you once, he'll do it again. Guys like this like messing with girls minds and being with 2 or more at a time just for pleasure...
2007-01-15 16:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by beth3988 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question: "Am I a drama-addict?" Take a minute and imagine what your life would be like without all this B.S., then decide for yourself. My advice would be to "move on without him"...there are other more meaningful things in life than a meaningless relationship. Why let him walk all over you emotionally? Treat yourself better. Good luck girl!
2007-01-15 17:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by DonPiano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is very bad news!! Get as far away from him as you can! He uses people then throws them away. No one deserves to be treated like a candy wrapper. He's not going to change, his personality disorder is already fully cemented. Find someone who will see you as a person and not a thing. It's going to hurt, but so does cancer surgery, and, baby, you've got a big cancer in this guy.
2007-01-15 16:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi ..i don't want 2 sound mean but read your question..he continuously moved on with other people.... and he expects you to go back to him..after all that..u must have some self respect...and as for the sex...don't give in..he might be the love of your life but you are not the love of his life... Forget about him and try and move on..please don't lower yourself by taking him back. HE IS NOT WORTH IT.
2007-01-15 16:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by Natz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I many times think of they seem to be a splash difficult and could be separated into first and center names. you need to nonetheless use them however, and in simple terms call her by using the two first and center call for all time. i actually do like Anna Claire. There are some "Anna" names i like as purely a regular call however like Annalise/Annaliese/Annalisa or Anastasia.
2016-12-12 12:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is the only confused one here. I believe that Asshie 's right ,,,, It's hard , but ya got to leave his sorry a** behind ! This type of Guy , a dime a dozen! this is where Girls start questioning themselves.... It's a wast of time.
Ms.Kate
2007-01-15 16:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by rrainn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with yourself first. You like him a lot, cuz girls dont really want friends with benifits, you just want to be with him. So since you so called "love" him (which i think you use too lightly but idk) you cant do anything really, its either you accept him trying hard to be true to you or you try to make yourself stop loving him and believe he's just not worth it and go dump him. Find out your real feelings for him first.
2007-01-15 16:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mark F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check your driver's license, I bet it says BORN YESTERDAY!
Run away from this loser. Then get away from the idea of just using each other for sex, your life will be a lot happier.
2007-01-15 16:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOthing to be confused about. It doesn't sound like he is REALLY into you. Which means you should quit wasting your time with him. He will NEVER treat you the way you should. Please move on and find someone else. YOu deserve better.
2007-01-15 16:51:28 · answer #11 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋