Is it me, or do people going through a divorce go through mood swings? Some days I hate him. Some days I am glad he's gone. Other's I miss him like hell. When does it stop? I was with him for almost 20 years.
2007-01-15 16:39:16 · 17 answers · asked by crazyloonynice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nawww its normal....dont worry about it...I dont know if it stops because I still go thru them and so does he. After 20 yrs I am sure it will take awhile_
2007-01-15 16:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I feel that we go thru mood swings when getting a divorce. I was married 20 years plus so I understand how you are feeling. My guess is you are by yourself and have no boyfriend at this time. If not for meeting a wonderful man right after my split it would have drove me nuts being away from my husband also. There are times I miss some of the things we did together but our marriage was over. You need time to heal yourself and feeling all the feelings you are feeling right now are very normal. I have gone thru anger, missing him, feeling alone when I am not and then the cycle starts all over again. But it does get better it is hard to say how long it will take because no two people are alike. Give yourself time to heal but try to focus on other things instead of him, this will help you not dwell on those feelings so much. Good Luck To You. You will make it!
2007-01-16 00:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by Ginny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will stop eventually. I have been divorced twice and the first time I was glad to divorce him but I still had times where I missed having another person. The second time though took me a few years but it starting getting better when I started having a more active social life. Try doing more things and being around friends. Take a class, start doing things you enjoy or have always wanted to do. This all helps.
2007-01-16 00:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by purplegroovyrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww I'm sorry. I hope I never get divorced. The sad part is I think to our future and I'm just wondering if anything is going to happen that will tear my husband and I apart for good. Divorce is so common nowadays that I find it hard to see a bright future....it's really sad that it's like that now. I just can't imagine being with someone for that long and suddenly not have them in my life anymore....I've been with my husband for 5 yrs and married for 1 1/2 and I couldn't imagine anyone else in his place... Wow that's gotta be tough. :( Hang in there. I'm sure everyone goes through these mood swings.
2007-01-16 00:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left my husband after 25 years of marraige! Even though I was the one who left I have suffered from emotional withdrawl. Mood swings? Omg! I went from tears to laughter, happiness to deep sadness,feeling sorry for him and wanting to murder him and every emotion in between! It has been almost 9 months and I can tell you yes It gets better little by little one day at a time the memories gently fade away. The hurt,anger,rage,depression float away like a ship on the ocean. Waiting on the other side of your grief is a whole new life.There is joy there and peace. I know because I am living it right now. You know that old saying"TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF THE REST OF YOUR LIFE" Lets not waste one more presious moment living like the dead in the past.Lets be alive and happy right now. Bless you.
2007-01-16 00:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by sandra b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal.. to have mood swings when ur divorced or going through a divorce... some days are better then others and all i can tell u is it does get better with time, the feelings may always linger and appear from time to time but they get less frequent as time goes by.. and for everyone it stops at different points.. some people it doesnt take long at all to get over it and move on.. others they realize they will always love that person till the day they die, but find ways of coping with the fact that its over.. it took me 9 years to get over my x husband...and the scars are still there.. and still affect me to this day.. but i finally came to the realization that the man i loved isnt the same man he is today, the man i married and loved would of never ran out on me and our two kids and hurt us all as much as he did.. i finally realized it was if i was mourning over a dead husband, one that no longer exsisted on the planet anymore cause the man that took his place is a horrible man that didnt care about the pain he was putting me or the kids through..and thats when i finally was able to move on.. Do i still love my x husband.. yes, i will till the day i die..but that man is dead to me now, and the man that took his place i cant stand..
2007-01-16 00:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's why; you were together for 20 years. It's normal to miss him. You have to look past all that and realize in the long run you're better off w/out him and to move on. Don't look back ; look at it as a new beginning and enjoy the rest of your life. Your marriage was an experience in your life. Good bad and ugly. It helped make you the person you are today.
2007-01-16 00:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd think mood swings are pretty normal - you've probably been through a lot with this person, good and bad, and ending a relationship isn't easy.
Hang in there!
2007-01-16 00:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will hate him because of the pain he caused you. You be glad he gone because to deserve someone better. You will miss him because of the good times you had. It will pass. 20 years of you life for nothing. This too shall pass. Good luck.
2007-01-16 00:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by Italionaire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience yes it's true, only I was on the receiving end of it. I always knew that I loved my wife and when she wanted to divorce me It only proved I loved her all the more. I know it sounds cliche but I really found myself more in love with her than ever. I hope it works out for you.
2007-01-16 01:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋