have an "O" during intercourse?

Question

why dont i ever have an "O"during intercourse. It always takes other means. Is this a normal thing for women?

Answer 1

several issues may come into play here. myabe he's too quick. or maybe he's too selfish. you may need more time for foreplay and relaxation. try getting on top and riding him but make sure you get to rub the right spot when riding him. if you like doggy, have him rub you too or maybe do it yourself. if he does oral on you, then try intercourse after. you may be relaxed enoough so you don't have to worry about it. it will come easier. after all, you deserve a big O.

Answer 2

My (now ex-) wife was multigasmic with me. I divorced her because I was suffering from religiosity -- but she told EVERYONE that I was a great lover, and even tried to pimp me out to all her girlfriends and her mom (but wouldn't let me be alone with her sister in the same room -- go figure).

Anyway, my point is that it usually isn't that difficult (at least in my opinion) for a guy to get his girl to at least one "O" per day. Heck, if you're letting him doink you: he kinda owes you that much, doesn't he?

In all fairness, apparently not every guy has the sort of stamina I've got (I'm not bragging): it wasn't unusual for my wife and I to spend 45-75 minutes in foreplay, followed by as much intercourse as she could physically handle.

Usually, she was dehydrated to the point of illness if we went past 90 minutes of intercourse, though we did get to the 2-hour mark a couple of times; I was just getting warmed-up, but she was temporarily exhausted.

Afterplay was standard, and usually lasted 45-60 minutes.

When you say "takes other means," do you mean you have to resort to masturbation or to the use of toys? I would say that's unusual.

If, on the other hand, you mean simply that it takes a different type of stimulation (like oral), apparently there are at least 2 different types of "O" that women can get during intercourse:

one is "internal" (usually facilitated by the penis or penis-substitute); the other is "external" (usually facilitated by stimulation of the clitoris).

My wife said I gave her both types; however, since I couldn't see what "mini me" was doing in there, I wasn't able to produce the internal sort all the time.

External (and "G-spot") orgasms seemed much easier to achieve through oral (or manual) manipulation. Since those were part of our "ordinary" sex play, we didn't distinguish that from intercourse when talking about sexing with each other.

So, if you're saying you do reach "O" during sex, but just not during the "penile thrust maneuver," it's probably just a matter of your guy's technique (or possibly "size" -- but only if he's VERY VERY small "down there").

There are other possibilities you're not getting full satisfaction, but they're sort-of psychological things that have to do with the health of your relationship ("are you comfortable with him," "are you in love with him," etc.)

Answer 3

My wife brings me to the "O" first w/out intercourse, then I begin to pleasure her with my hands and mouth, she then indicates when she is ready for intercourse and since I have already had one I am good to go longer the second time and with her on top she has always been able to achieve the "O". Her favorite and best way to achieve the "O" is reverse cowgirl (her on top back to me facing my legs/feet) she will grab my knees or shins for a different angle and it hits the right spot for her!

GOOD LUCK and enjoy!

Answer 4

It's normal. Some women never have an O in their whole life. They just enjoy having sex. Have you tried the top position? That way you know what spots feel good to you.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Try the position of you on top, this puts all the right pieces together and you can be in control and kind of "use" him as the toy. This can help train your body to have the "O" with him too. Good luck.

Answer 7

yup most guys don't know to really pleasure a woman. They just want to do it missionary style and that is it. I don't want to give away my secrets here cause this took me a while to learn but the clit is the key.

Answer 8

It is normal among women to be like that so I've read.Try positions where there is direct clitoris stimulation,on top is one way.

Answer 9

If you get a couples toy you just may.... This is normal that is why he needs to do oral on you before or like i said couples toy....

Answer 10

Something I learned long ago is that you are responsible for your own orgasm. If your not having a orgasm during sex or sex play then really it is your fault.