Is it a sin? to have these thoughts? these feelings? to do something about it?
2007-01-15 16:34:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you truly loved your husband, you wouldn't lust after other men.
2007-01-15 16:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think "we" desire other men when we're in love and happy, may you do but I don't and never have. I don't see how a person can be IN LOVE and desire anyone else. And I've been married for a long time. As far as if it's a sin or not that probably depends on your religion. I was raised catholic and was taught that anything you think about doing is as big a sin as doing it. As far as doing something about your thoughts and feelings, I can pretty much assure you that's a sin.
2007-01-15 16:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
apparently your needs are seriously being denied because unlike men, we do not have the instinct that tells us to spread our ridiculous seed like they do, and that means you want the things from these men the things your husband won't do for you. Figure out what they are, tell your husband how to fix it, or you may as well file for divorce now, because eventually you will get your needs met, with or without him. Tell your husband that too. If you can't get what you need at home, you'll go get it somewhere else. They are not the only ones who can demand sexual satisfaction. We are just quicker at picking up the signals of what he wants, when he is totally completely oblivious to what we want and wouldn't know how to do it if he did know. I figure all you can do is equip him with the knowledge of what the problem is, give him the solution, but if he's too lazy to do it, the hell with him. You owe him nothing. But I bet you'd hear it loud and clear from him if YOU weren't meeting HIS needs, wouldn't you? What makes your needs less? He does. So dump him if he won't do as he's told, that's his own damn fault. Maybe he shoulda opened his eyes and ears and actually LISTENED to you for a change.
2007-01-15 16:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what religion you follow I suppose! Whether it's a sin or not I mean. To do something about it would be wrong if you are married.m, Marriage is a commitment to ONE person and to stray from that ONE person is wrong, but hey who says you can't go to bed with the one you married and have sex while you think about somebody else?? Just don't make the mistake of saying the other person's name out loud!! That could be fatal!
2007-01-15 16:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by buffster06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truley love your husband you would not desire other men. I don't because i truley love my husband and know he is the best one for me and that he is the one i want to spend the rest of my life with and no other guy compares to what i have here. Yes it is a sin according to the Bible... Some where in the book of Matthew it says that if you look at someone to lust after them you have already commited adultery in your heart.
2007-01-15 16:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you look at it from a religious standpoint, The Bible states that by thinking, lusting, looking the wrong way at a person other than your spouse, then it is considered adultry (which is a sin). A person does not have to do anything physical for it to be adultry.
2007-01-15 16:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by lovenotlost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wouldnt say its a sin, i think its more human nature, to want what u cant have, i think its only a sin if u act on it.. fantasys of what if's from time to time i think just about everyone has them.. and anyone that says they've never once wondered what sex with someone else of the opposite sex would be like, or craved for a past sexual partner that wasnt a great partner in a relationship sense but was good in bed, and hasnt wondered or remembered that, is lying.. again its only wrong if u let it consume ur life, and definately if u act upon it..
2007-01-15 16:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No it is just temptation and fantasy. Guys are the same way more often then women. U could maybe only fantasize or pleasure yourself but that is as far as it will probably go or maybe he doesn't please u in bed that is why u are having these fantasies. Yup that is it. Damn I'm good.
2007-01-15 16:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by DVD 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi loira, well i think maybe we just need something exciting n advanture to spice up our married life. Especially when the sparks no more there.
2007-01-15 16:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by jeezebelle1811 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone with an open mind thinks about being with someone else! Guys do it too...Do not let it get to you, it will all be ok as long as you do NOT follow thro on those thought and have an affair!
2007-01-15 16:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by So you think you know me!? 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
yes it is a sin
2007-01-15 16:42:32 · answer #11 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋