I'm going to tell you what is wrong please don’t give me stupid answers this is very serious to me.....a year ago my mom walked out on me and my 13 year old brother I live with my grandma and dad and live next door to my aunt and uncle who are expecting in may I’m only 16 and I’ve been through so much. I have a boyfriend and we have been together since I was 12 years old, I lost my virginity February 14th of 2006 and we haven't been very careful in April I got pregnant so I told everyone I needed help but then I lost it, then I was pregnant again this august and I moved in with my boyfriend but then lost it again and moved back home ever since then my aunt and uncle wont talk to me behind my back they say I’m worthless and just like my mom, my grandma thinks the same but she puts on an act when I'm around, and my dad is always working but he feels the same all I have is my boyfriend and my brother who is always out,
2007-01-15 16:17:20 · 15 answers · asked by ~*.::.Baby Love.::.*~ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I feel so alone but my boyfriend is always there to make me smile again, we just had our 5 year anniversary yesterday and when I turn 18 we are getting married, I love him so much. Anyways me and my boyfriend still make love, I know we are very young and we shouldn't but I feel like this is our way to express how much we love each other and it is something only me and him share that is what makes it so special, no one truly understands and he is always there for me and I feel like he his all I have so we see each other all the time....anyways I just found out I’m pregnant again which is really bad we used protection and I didn't think that after miscarrying I could get pregnant so now I’m really scared and I know that if I tell anyone no one would even look me in my eyes I’m so hurt and scared and my boyfriend says I should get an abortion and I think that is the worst thing someone could do and plus I would have to tell someone anyways, someone please help me please!
2007-01-15 16:17:38 · update #1
I just need some advice I know that we should of learned and we did we used protection but it broke I just really need help please dont be mean....
2007-01-15 16:24:44 · update #2
You are going to get a lot of rude answers on here so just let me tell you don't listen to them. I know what its like to be young and in love and its great that you found a guy that is always there for you but you need to think about you and the baby right now not him. I have been through it all sweetie miscarriages and even an abortion with I can tell you was the worst thing I have ever done in my life. I will regret it forever! Since I killed that baby I found God and have been forgiven but just because you can be forgiven for your sins don't mean you should sin. I am so sorry you have no one in your family to turn to that makes things very hard for you but there are other thing to do. You are in high school right? Most high schools these days have programs for pregnant teens so you can finish school.That is so important you want to do that for your baby. You can go to the state office in your town and get asst. Some people think they are paying for your baby if you do that but that's what its for. You are in a bad place I my taxes should go to people like you! I hope you listen to me about the abortion its a horrible thing to go through DON'T DO IT! Good Luck and God Bless
2007-01-15 16:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by corene D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all your not worthless..................... You may have disappointed them that's why they are upset. Parents and loved ones have expectations for your life that they set and when you don't live up to that they feel let down. That is their problem not yours. I feel that they are just afraid that you will not be able to bounce back and keep your life on track with everything that has happened. Please make sure you finish school and further your education. If your boyfriend is very supportive then keep him in your corner. I would recommend that you ask a counselor at school for help with dealing with the issues you have after your mom left. There are free numbers to people you can talk to in your local phone book. The pregnancy can not be hidden from your family. Tell them but never think that you are worthless. Your brother maybe going through issues also try to talk to him not just about you but how your mom leaving has hurt both of you. Good Luck !!!!!
Please don't take this the wrong way but I hope your not getting pregnant on purpose to have someone around that will not leave you. Becoming a mother is a life changing event and you have to be ready for everything that comes with it. Being a young parent is hard work.
I wish you well.
2007-01-15 16:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by lifeisbeautiful 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't tell anyone until you actually start showing. No point in telling anyone and then lose it. That gives them something else to complain about. I think you are best to let it rest for now and if the baby makes it through the 12 weeks then you should seek help from your bf. How old is bf. Right now I would seek an alternate high school program because school is really important and get a job incase you guys decide to move out together. It can be done even if you are young. For medical assistance seek government assistance for insurance. Good luck I had friends throughout high school in the same situation and they are fine.
2007-01-15 16:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't panic. And you should definitely not get an abortion you will regret it for the rest of your life. Having a baby is one of the most wonderful things that will ever happen to you. if you are living on your own I promise that you will figure it out come what may. Go ahead and tell your family. If they are already thinking bad about you then one more thing will not matter. But do not tell your family until you are three months along just in case you lose it again. Don't worry in a few years none of this will even matter. Good luck!
2007-01-15 17:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by aimeeme_g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry right now, im only 16 with 2 kids....wait a while before saying anything just incase you have another miscarriage and nobody can put you down again but if you end up not having a miscarriage keep the baby...and ur boyfriend is just worried right now, he doesnt really want you to have an abortion(thats how my boyfriend was at first too) Dont be stressed out right now because that could be the reason why you miscarry, But if you need somebody to talk to email me at shorty_78666@yahoo.com
2007-01-15 16:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by jessica p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until you're over 9 weeks to make sure you wont miscarry again. If you're still prego, talk to your family. They are most likely disapointed at your decision making, but i'm sure they still love you and want to help you. Personally you should have figured out how to use birth control by now and that you can get it at any planned parenthood center. You can also go to Rachel House, they will confirm a pergo test and help you with your pregnancey.
Next time, think about the consequences of your actions, it doesnt just effect you and your bf, it effects your family as well as you bf's. In the futcher please use better judgment, especially if you're going to bring a child into this world.
As far as a abortion, if you don't want one, don't get one. Finish high school, find a college that provides daycare for students and get yourself a education so that you can support you baby okay sweetie. good luck.
2007-01-15 16:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you were using protection..at least you were trying to prevent it. If your boyfriend feels that way hun...he doesn't truely love you. I don't want to hurt your feelings or anything like that but any boy that gets a girl pregnant and then suggests an abortion does not love her. You have to know that there are many young girls that get pregnant and they do just fine. I would just sit down and talk with your boyfriend and find out if he is just saying that to spare you the family crisis or if he really doesn't want the baby. If you figure out that you both want the baby, tell your family that you are pregnant, you do intend to keep it and let them deal with it. This is about YOU and THE BABY and nobody else really matters. I wish you the best!
2007-01-15 16:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by busemomme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not abort the baby. You've lost 2 already, this may be the wrong time and all but not everyone can have children and this may be your only one you are blessed with. If your family and boyfriend love you they will support you. I had a cousin who's family was dead against her having her baby until she was born now they can't keep there hands off her. Bringing a little life into the world changes us all. Hope this helps.
2007-01-15 16:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Becky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 06:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know were u comeing from im 16 years old 2...and i have a boyfriend been wid him for awhile i love him with all my heart...he got my name tatu i did 2 we been forwhile together and now i mite be pregnant wid his child but we planned it so we got no regrets he was so happy and looking for a job but then he got arrested for something stupid so he locked up for 4 mouths..anyways i understand u love him but dont get an aborstion i think thats wrong god well never forgive u for that...that would break my heart if i do that ...so dont..if he loved u he would be so happy u r...anyways girl take care well ...
2007-01-15 17:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋