My on again off again fiance has an exwife who he has childern with. I understand they have to have contact. How do I deal with my bad feelings about this. I know he loves me. But I cant help but be jealous and angry about her and their past and them having contact as they do. Please Help!!!! I dont want this hurt our relationship anymore.
2007-01-15 15:56:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why don't you attempt to make friends with her?
2007-01-15 16:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your jealousy is directly caused by your insecurity about his wishy-washy feelings for you; which stem from the on again off again relationship. He valued her enough to marry her, but can't seem to bring himself to marry you. That must hurt like hell. You already know that your relationship is unstable and unfulfilling.
The contact he has with his ex-wife bothers you becasue you are hurting. You are jealous because she had something with him that you never have and very likely never will: a deep, loving committed relationship.
2007-01-16 00:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past thats all there is to it. I can understand why your angery and jealous I would be too. Your going to have accept this situation as it is. Have you tried talking to her and finding out what kind of person she is? Maybe if you try this and she turns out to be a nice person then maybe it would make the whole situation easier wouldnt it?.......
2007-01-16 00:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kiara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't expect him to deny his children, and it's true ex's try and manipulate their former spouse, especially through teh kids. You jsut need to come to an agreement or truce on this or call it off and look for someone else rather than spend the rest of your life in ahell of your own creation.
2007-01-16 00:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont, he has children with her and that will be the case regardless. but if you have to deal with her as the mother of
his children then be there for him. if you cant deal with this
and the fact that you and he are off and on. kind of thing maybe
with everything that going on maybe you need to leave it along.
2007-01-16 00:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to suck it up. My hubby has two kids with two different moms and I can't stand either one of them. One of them hates me because I'm with him, but I just deal. It takes time. Just remember that your the one who he sleeps with him at night, not them.
2007-01-16 00:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by Not your average mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋