My husband prefers porn and masterbation over having sex with me. I am an average attractive woman 39 years old being deprived of a sex life. He has a fetish of 3 somes. In the beginning of our marrriage he let it be known that was his turn on. after a while i told him off and let him know that in no way was i that kind of person. Since then we have sex about every 3 months. I used to find all kinds of porn things, he has gotton better at hiding them now. What should I do? He refuses counseling and denys that he has a problem in any type of manner. He had a threesome with his first wife and she got pregnant with the other guys child. Their marriage didnt last to say the least. I found out a day to late.
2007-01-15 15:35:08 · 21 answers · asked by no time to feel this way 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
U know i have been through this... Only the more he watched porn.. he even started watching tranny's... So what i think of ur husband that he might be bisexual since he wants u with another man .. U know what to do?
Buy a toy.. and act like u dont care for sex with him ,, even when he initiates .. dont accept right away..
do this for a lil while... believe me he'll come beggin for sex..
If not... leave him to his porn.. let him dreaaaaaaaaaaaamm and dreaaaaaaam and find a real man who appreciates you and never feel cold again with a man..
Advice from me to everyone:
Never let ur husband watch porn.. and never watch porn with ur husband.. It kills everything beautiful.,. After all Humans started having sex and enjoying it long time ago.. Now with the technology, stress and too much freedom, we have more abnormal people, more people with sexual problems and SEX is vital for our survival. I am sure you all know that :)
Besides Sex is 80% responsible for the success or failure of a marriage.. Serious Subject... never to be played with...
I wish you the best .. All of you married men who love their wives.. remember the first time you two had sex.. Tonight.. do it the same way .. Your wife and you will never cheat on each other and wake up tomorrow feeling soo young and happy again!
2007-01-15 17:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Reen D 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband went through a phase of preferring porn and masterbation over me. I just kept confronting him and explaining my feelings. Then I read a book about lifting your husband up with respect and showing him that you love him and respect him. It involved a lot of prayer, and eventually i started building him up naturally (you know, kind of like when you were dating he could tell you thought a lot of him). Anyway, it took several months of this (after the initial problem lasting about a year and a half), but he finally found happiness with me. We now enjoy sex with each other immensely and we are able to talk about it openly and indulge in each others' fantasies that do not involve others. We have found that there are many ways we can enjoy each other with adding somebody else.
We have been married for almost 14 years and it has been 5 years since our problem. Divorce is not always the answer, just the easy way out.
2007-01-15 16:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by Barefoot Chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His problem isn't with porn, it's with your relationship. His appreciation for porn more than you is a symptom of a much bigger problem in your relationship.
All men like porn... True. But all men in healthy relationships would chose a real life woman over those in magazines, in the movies, or on the Internet.
Please, even if he doesn't do counseling, get yourself to it. At least you'll know better how to deal with him, and you'll feel better about yourself.
2007-01-16 07:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i was starting to agree with you until you got to all men check out females including teenagers that is gross....My hubby isn't romantic he isn't considerate of my feelings or anyone else's he is the biggest d^ckh3@d i have ever met. He how ever thinks it is nasty for a grown man to be checking out or messing with young girls and I am so thankful for that. My man has always been into to older females we are only 24. NOT all men are the same I hate it when people say that. My hubby doesn't watch porn like I have heard some wives talk about it being a daily or weekly or monthly activity mine isn't into that $hit.My hubby wouldn't dare to even think to check someone out while i was around if he did and saw him he wouldn't have any eyes left I don't care you don't do that I don't check out men I haven't for the past 6+ years I have no want to.
2016-05-24 20:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what to do, sweetheart. Dump his butt before he dumps on you in ways you'll deeply regret! No, not all men do what he's doing. Sure, a lot of us wouldn't turn aside the occasional glimpse of porn, but that isn't the problem here; it's his utter contempt for you. One of you needs to get through that door and not let hit the one in the butt on the way out. You deserve better.
2007-01-15 15:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry.Your husband is wrong.I do not know any man that would prefer masturbation/porn to having sex with his wife.I do not know any man that would with hold sex from his wife for refusing to have a threesome with him.Refuse to pleasure his wife.Trying to force her to play along.Most people that have threesomes are all in agreement to it.Not one partner trying to force the other partner into it.You should never do anything you are not comfortable doing.He should have told you his sexual preferences prior to marrying you>Instead of marrying you trying to brow beat you into doing things that are against your values/morals.He is in the wrong not you.What he is doing? Is mentally abusing you.Physically depriving you.He refuse to change.He refuse to acknowledge.His behavior toward you is a problem in your relationship with him.What you should do?Decide.If you want to spend the rest of your life with this man.Because it is never too late to leave him/leave the marriage.What he is doing?Is grounds for a divorce!!
2007-01-15 17:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by noga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I have been with my significant other for over 3 yrs, and I have to say that he definitely prefers sex with me over porn. Sounds like he needs help. Or maybe you can take pictures/videos of yourself and give them to him. That could help your deprived sex life, and maybe make him look at you differently. It's worth a shot.
2007-01-15 15:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by pngstar06@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but he really needs professional help. Problem there is he doesn't think he has a problem.Eventually you will have to leave the relationship.It just isn't a healthy one.Porn can sometimes wreck the happiest of marriages and obviously he isn't interested in fixing yours and his relationship. I am so sorry this has happened to you.Hope you find happiness in the future.
2007-01-15 15:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by newfiemomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not all men do this. He does have a problem. Maybe show him that you posted this question so he can see the answers that people have to say. Porn can be part of a healthy sexual relationship but it should not dominate it.
2007-01-15 16:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by inquirygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have needs in this relationship too. A marriage is give and take. You are not getting what you need. He is taking care of his needs himself. This is not healthy for either of you. You can not compete with his hand...don't try. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. It probably won't get better unless he realizes he has a problem. If he isn't interested in getting help you need to get some for yourself and move on with your life. We all deserve to be happy.
2007-01-15 15:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by Say What? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋