2007-01-15 15:34:30 · 6 answers · asked by Lah-Dee-Dah 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What i mean is that i have a problem reading others. I'm way too nice. And though i may have the correct perception of a person i still overthink my conclusion. I simply mean that i think i need to learn to be able to distinguish between different types of people, and their true motives for my protection. I am a very prtective person of my feeling and real self and feel like i have to know who to trust with the real me.
2007-01-15 16:10:51 · update #1
It sounds to me as if you're overthinking strangers in your everyday life. People come and go in our lives. We have co-workers, classmates, neighbors, mail carriers, grocery store cashiers when we shop, etc. You don't need to read these people. Just assume they're people - just like you - and be friendly.
When you talk about trusting someone with all your feelings that is more an issue when you talk about dating someone or, if you're young, finding an adult to talk to if you need some older-person advice.
I think you should just try to relax when it comes to people in your everyday life. Be a friend when the occasional calls for it. Have a friendly chat if the occasion calls for that. There's no need to worrying about trusting any of these "everyday strangers" with your feelings. That's not appropriate anyway.
If it turns out that a stranger ever becomes a closer friend or a boyfriend that will be the time to be thinking about how much to trust them - and if you find you're with somehow you generally think is decent and trustworthy you have to decide to trust them until they prove they shouldn't be trusted.
Most people who are "regular" don't share all their thoughts and feelings with everyday strangers. That's why you aren't comfortable with you reading of these people. Something in your knows there's only so much talking and being friendly to be done with people we don't know well.
In general, most people are pretty much alike. Sure, there are some creeps and jerks in the world, and it doesn't hurt to be aware of that; just take it slow when you meet someone you think you like. It usuallly doesn't take creeps or jerks too long before they reveal themselves.
2007-01-15 16:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always treat people with the utmost respect because EVERYONE deserves to be treated as such. Should that person cross me however, i instantly lose some respect and my attitude towrd them changes also. Reading a persons intentions also encourages the type of reponse I may give i.e. I will not trust someone who comes across as manipulative.
2007-01-15 23:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Truth D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I do is mistrust everyone and their intentions automatically. I don't think you are going to get many people to tell you to do that, but that is okay.
I mistrust everyone because I have been hurt and/or betrayed by a lot of people. I don't let the person know I don't trust them, but I wait to let them prove themselves before I confide in them, or don't suspect them of some ulterior motive.
2007-01-16 00:10:33 · answer #3 · answered by Death of Reason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean you want to use them as characters in a book? Some authors do observe strangers for this purpose.
I always try to think the best of everyone, unless they do something to prove me wrong. Then again, if the stranger approaches us and in some way frightens us--what to think? What to do?
2007-01-15 23:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friendly until they give you reason to act otherwise. Being friendly doesn't mean you have to be unguarded.
2007-01-15 23:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by Witchyluck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assume they're friends. If they prove you wrong, then you don't have to assume they're enemies: You already know.
2007-01-15 23:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by Appollyon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋