I always seem to feel depressed. Its like I know what my life will be for the future and it sucks. All excitement has gone. I dont even feel like having sex with my wife. I miss the good old single days when I was in control of everything.
My wife is beautiful and caring. I just dont know whats wrong. I guess I miss the sluts and the so called excitement. is it normal for me to feel like this ? My wife seems to love me like anything. I wish i could feel what she is feeling.
Please give positive remarks
2007-01-15 15:32:08 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't. I think marriage sucks, too.
2007-01-15 15:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a good marriage, wanna know why?? i have a lot of space. Ive posted numerous times on here that space is important, and each should have seperate goals. I assume you have children. I won't have kids, because I am no way in hell giving up my freedom to go to gym, fish, beach, just get up and go when I want. When you have kids, this all stops, don't let anyone, especially a woman tell you otherwise. I think you just need time alone.
I must be honest with you, I have had a lot of women in my life, and really don't miss the single scene, sluts will get you in trouble. I have a feeling your wife is on your back 24/7 like most women are. I for one wouldn't tolerate it. i think you need some space, and she needs a damn hobby. good luck bro
2007-01-15 16:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am female and I have similar problems that you mentioned in my marriage. It seems to me that people get comfortable in their relationships and stop trying. I know for me, I have been the primary bread winner and I really want someone to take care of me, financially, emotionally, etc.... Is your wife meeting all of your needs? It is hard to think about, you know she loves you, but does she understand you? Maybe you need to have a Guy's night once a week with your friends and then on the same token, have a date night once a week with your wife. This has been known to help to keep the passion alive. You two can take turns planning the date, say one week it's your choice, and you don't have to tell her what you are going to do until that time frame, like if you were still actively dating and then the next week is her turn. It's worth a shot and it may help to bring back some of the spice.
2007-01-15 15:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It IS normal.
Please dont be so hard on yourself.
Imagine if you had to eat pizza every night
even if it was your favorite food, you would get sick of it over time.
The trick is to change the atmosphere and the routine.
Could you rent a room at a hotel and take your wife
could you have her dress up one night
Try not to think of all of the things taht you gave up but all the things that you are getting.
At the end of a one night stand with a slut, all you are getting is crabs (if you are lucky)
with your wife, you have someone that adores you and is your best friend
(If your friends are single, limit your time with them as they will make you feel worse if they are still going out everyweekend)
GOOD luck
and hang in there
IT IS NORMAL, people just dont like to admit it
2007-01-15 15:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are not happy with yourself and you are thinking about doing something very selfish. Talk with your wife about your feelings and get some medicine for depression. Maybe your wife can dress like a slut for you. Don't be stupid and mess up your marriage by cheating with a slut. If you do this; you will regret it for the rest of your life. I don't know if your thought process on this is normal or not. I do know that there is something going around lately with guys that are between the ages of 32-36 that are having some type of early midlife crisises and are doing very greedy and selfish things to ruin their marriages. Please don't be tempted and cheat on your wife.
2007-01-15 15:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to many men. They have many titles for it, too. Some call it "The Seven Year Itch". What you need to do is change things a little. Take a mini vacation and do something really romantic for her. Remember that women always get too placated after marriage. You must show her that you are willing to work hard at making things work well for her and explain in a CAREFUL way what you want. NEVER tell her that there is a problem. Instead, explain to her that you really desire her and these things that you really want in your life.
But don't forget that you must be careful with a wife. If you do it wrong, she will make your life very hard for you.
2007-01-15 15:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife about this, please. Keep the communication open and maybe you both can break the monotony of it all by doing something spontaneous. Marriage is work, I hate how people think that it will all be perfect after the 'I do's' and never stop to think that maybe even with the rings it's still a relationship with two people who think and feel different things at the same time. Communicate before it gets out of hand.
2007-01-15 15:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by Caitlin G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a counselor and maybe even a doctor to see if there is a medical reason for your depression and unhappiness with married life... Have you talked to your wife and told her how you feel and asked her to help you? You may also need marriage counseling. Be sure to treasure and love your wife and thank God above for the many blessings that he has bestowed upon you with your wonderful beautiful and loving wife!
2007-01-15 15:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the woman some sexy clothes, lingerie, sex toys and book a room in a motel for a weekend. Tell her your fantasies and ask her to act them out with you. Let her know that while you appreciate her love, care and concern, that you need a little "raunchy" in the bedroom.........who knows, she might be looking for the same kind of excitement too.
P.S. Your car still has a backseat doesn't it? Make use of it.
2007-01-15 15:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think we all fall into a rut a time or two in our marriage. it does get to be a little boring. the same ol hum drum.
try to spice things up a little. or divorce her and move on cause if youre missing the sluts, chances are you'll have an affair and thats not fair to your wife.
2007-01-15 15:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by BUTTERFLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I positively believe you'd be doing both of you a favor if you broke it off now. Why keep on in a relationship that's got to be miserable for both of you, especially if she finds out you feel like this. Let her free to find a guy who deserves her.
2007-01-15 16:01:20 · answer #11 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋