Well after 7 years of denial and guilt, I finally decided to act upon my homosexual feelings. I met this guy who, in all honesty, is everything I could have ever imagined. I can see me and him being together for a very long time and when I am with him, I have never been happier. I know I fall too fast and crush hard, but I feel like this is different...he seems to only want casual dating and is always talking about "oh, he's so hot" or "he was so into me", but I want/need a relationship. I'm not sure what he is trying to do, but I have caught him reacting the same way (jealous) when I play that game to. What can I do so I don't scare him away...I feel like I need him in my life...HELP from experience or any input.
2007-01-15 15:23:40 · 7 answers · asked by nfiren07 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Let me tell you something.... LOVE has NO age, Gendor, color or creed.. Love is in the soul and a soul has no sex.. as long as your happy who cares what anyone else thinks...
As for what you should do.. Just take it slow and tell him how you really feel about him.. If you loose him with honesty hun then it just isn't ment to be....
2007-01-15 15:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by taz and me 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations. At least you can enjoy your feelings now. So, maybe you should enjoy them. I think playing games and jealousy is a part of the dating game. We test each other out and see the reaction. Personally, I think it is destructive and should be ended by a fair conversation between you two love birds. Too often the old phrase, "You hurt the one you love the most..." is all too true. Wouldn't it be possible to have a love affair without the drama? Sooner or later you will each know in your heart if you want to make a life long committment. In the meantime, dating and doing the normal things people do together will help you both decide on your future together.
Good luck!
2007-01-15 16:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by agreeableone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has the typical "Young-gay-male-emotional-wall" up and is freaked out about the possibility of commitment. He also sounds like he's playing some mind games with you. He's exhibiting this behavior as a way to test where your priorities and your loyalties lie. The best thing to do in order to relieve all the tension around this situation is to be straight up with him. Let him know how you truly feel about him. It's time for you two to finally talk about what's really important in your relationship. If he's just into casual dating and wants to have fun, but your stuck wanting a committed relationship, don't get hung up over him. Tell him that you have to search for someone who will give you what you turly want/need and that you can't waste your time following him around hoping he'll change. It's time for you to get real with him and stop playing "guess what eachother's thinking" about your relationship. You deserve to find someone who can give you what you want. If you decide to move on, and you happen to cross paths when he's grown up a little and got his priorities straight, then awesome. You deserve the best, and he's out there for you, I promise. Good luck with the boy.
2007-01-15 16:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by Maxiebedeeps 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If u hint on the fact and say flirtatious thigs regardign you all datign then it would be easier for him to understand and see that you both are on the same level and like each other equally. So if u can act upon those feelings run at the chance, but just dont run too fast becasue what u think u may want in the beginning can sometimes turn out to be the worst thing for you. But as logn as u like him u will continue to crush until u act upon your feelings.
2007-01-15 15:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by beautifulpersona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good you know that you fall too fast
to see where he is going.....you have to drop verbal hints to create an opening for discussion.........about the future
I saw this great house......though it would be a great place to settle down and share
i always wanted to visit Hawaii with some i care for
you can word them better to fit ur needs....but it might start a conversation that gives positive feedback....so you know where he stands
if you dated for less than six months..........little to early to ask
as for checking out other guys, males are very visual.....it is also conversation.............rate them together....hes an 8...fun chat..with only u2 rating.....brings the focus back 2 u2.
good luck
2007-01-15 21:03:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jonathan L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow, don't be easy, and find out where his heart dwells. Don't smother him but be available. Call him if he doesn't call you after a few days. Ask him out this week to something you want to do next week. Get the picture?
2007-01-15 15:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am going thru the same thing.
right now in fact.
i got tired of chasing him.
i told him what i thought of him.
when he walked away , he was shaky.
now i will patiently wait for his call,
and if it doesn't happen soon ,
he's lost me.
sorry , but if he isn't going to try ,
move on.
Good luck
2007-01-15 20:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋