I had a crush on a guy at work and after a few weeks I found out that he is gay! He found out that I liked him and we kinda became friends and we just talked off and on, Recently we hung out for the first time and I had so much fun! We didn't really talk all that much in the short time we were together, But I felt like we finally bonded a little bit and became closer friends. When he left he was talking about coming back to hang out when he had more time and even left food here for "next time".. He hasn't talked to me much since then except for things that are work related and I tried calling him and he didn't answer.. When I try to talk to him about what his problem is, but he claims there isn't a problem. i know there is something going on. He really avoided me the other night and I was upset and vowed to myself that I just didn't care about him anymore, but after seeing him again tonight I know that I do care and I'm not sure how to handle that. should I tell Him?
2007-01-15 14:44:39 · 5 answers · asked by confusedgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
How would you feel if a girl kept coming on to you? That is how he feels about you. He is gay and not interested in you that way. Accept him for who he is.
2007-01-15 14:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by tko43078 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is gay, he might not be a good person to have as more than a friend unless he really wants to change - remember Anne Heshe was gay supposedly with ellen degenerous until she found the right guy, got married and has several children now. the best thing is to be just friends and if the point comes he wants to explore more he will make a move. Otherwise you just have a very good gay friend that a boyfriend or eventually a husband will not be jealous of!!
2007-01-15 22:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay low for a while. Sometimes a person will get weirded out if they sense that someone likes them a little too much, too quickly. Don't invite him to do anything, don't call him to talk and don't ask him what his problem is, that just makes it all worse. wait a few weeks and then see how he is.
It may not be a good idea for you to like him too much. You said you use to have a crush on him and you may still be all goo-goo over him and have lost perspective on things. He may be scared that you want to be his best gal-pal who he goes to musicals, clubbing and shopping with. Sometimes those girls give up their own identities and stay at home just to wait for his phone call to see how his date went. They get possessive and scare away other male or female friends. He may have targeted you as this sort. Lay low and don't come on too strong.
2007-01-15 22:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't tell him. He's gay, he told you he's gay. Your question was, whats wrong with me? Nothing, nothing's wrong with you. This guy doesn't want you as a friend apparently
2007-01-15 22:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE TOLD YOU
2007-01-15 22:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by #1barnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋