I am divorced with two children and found out my ex-husband was gay soon after the divorce. Since the divorce I have been told from numerous people about homosexual affairs he had before and during our marriage. I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced this.
2007-01-15 14:42:58 · 10 answers · asked by Sue T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Haven't had an exhusband but did date a guy that turned out to be gay. He is still a good friend but he didn't realize he was gay but i did and pointed things out to him and now he is happy to finally feel like himself because he always felt like he was fake, which he was when he was pretending to be straight. Chances are your husband knew when he was younger but made the decision to fight it and it got the best of him and he finally gave in and just didn't know how to tell you. If you think about it there were probably signs all over the place.
2007-01-15 14:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a gay ex, but a gay uncle. the exact same situation, though. he was married, with two kids, for 30 years. all the cousins suspected, as he was very feminine, but we couldn't believe it because he was with my aunt. it was only when he couldn't fight it anymore and kept "disappearing" on "business trips" did she finally put a detective on him and found out (the divorce followed). They're both doing O.K, she learned to accept that it was not her fault, and you must too. I'm not sure about your age, but remember, it was taboo for a very long time to be gay, so many people did whatever they could to hide it, even at the expense of others
2007-01-15 15:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Chamberienne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I dated someone in high school who later turned out to be gay. He was my first love. We had a really great friendship and we always talked about having children together. It broke my heart that I wouldn't be the one for him, but I still love him to this day even though I haven't talked with him in years. He was without a doubt the most honest relationship I ever had.
2007-01-15 15:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by Therese 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, but I dated a guy all through high school who later.....discovered? accepted? decided?...that he was gay. For a while I felt bad about it- wondered if I was at fault, 'driving' him gay, wondered if he knew all the while and was 'either 'using' or 'humoring' me by dating me. Now? He's my friend. I love him. We had what we had, and now it's gone and everyone moves on. This is over six years later, and I still think highly of him. Please accept that you are not at fault, and he probably isn't either. It has probably been a fight for him all these years. Granted, he has done you wrong in numerous things- lying, cheating.....- but he's only human, and it's human nature to fight nature.
2007-01-15 14:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorced is the key and tell them that as soon as they START gossiping. my husband well I don't know about gay but he could be, anyway this is all you have to say is an ex is an ex and he is an ex and we are divorced.
2007-01-15 15:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by jane h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Former Nj governer James McGreevy...
2007-01-15 14:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by CH CH CH CHIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just be Buuuuulsheetn you. Matha fka, just makin it up
2007-01-15 14:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No offense, but I'd think there would have been signs of his homosexual tendencies while you were married wouldn't there?
2007-01-15 14:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
How did you not notice he was gay ?
2007-01-15 14:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NOT ME...SORRY.
2007-01-15 14:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋