because he wants to be alone during computer time? He says its cuz he needs alone time but ive caught him on Find a mate places and one time he was looking for his old girlfriend.
2007-01-15 14:29:51 · 26 answers · asked by Crissy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tko, i NEVER nag him!
2007-01-15 14:35:17 · update #1
dew, he told me he wanted to see if he could find someone better for him
2007-01-15 14:37:18 · update #2
he is always manipulating the situation to make it like its my fault.
2007-01-15 14:43:22 · update #3
because he is looking to leave u for someone else, and is angry when u interfere with his time,doesn't want u seeing what he is doing. doesn't want to be with u, wants to be somewhere else with someone else. they treat u like this when they want out of the marriage. just alot of disrespect.
2007-01-15 14:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can he even expect privacy when he already has been busted misbehaving online! He is being completely unreasonable. If you want some ammunition there are several software programs that "spy" on every person that uses that computer. Then later you can go back and see what he was up to. Ideally, you would be able to communicate better with one another, but this just might kick start the inevitable...
2007-01-15 14:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by mammamia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is looking for old girl friends and acting all weird about where he goes on computer. Its time for a heart to heart talk about his behavior Shut off the computer and make him answer so tough questions. It's best to know than to be the last to find out
2007-01-15 14:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. Sounds like he's hiding stuff from you. Call him out on it some time. If he freaks out he's almost certainly looking for someone else.
It's also possible he's just trying to get in contact with her for other reasons but feels uncomfortable doing it in front of you. I have looked for my ex online once but mostly just to see what she's up to. I told my fiancee I was doing it when she asked and she was okay with it.
Still, talk to him about it. Shouldn't have secrets in a marriage I think.
2007-01-15 14:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lucky Mesmer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alone during "computer time" means "I don't want you to see what I'm doing time". I am a recovering "cyber sex" addict and believe me.... there were many a married man on there who would only chat when "wifey" was away so they could get freaky with me. (There was the occasional married man who had a wife that was okay with his computer affairs though those were few and far between). Personally, if all he is doing is chatting or "cybering" then let him have his "computer time" but if he starts coming home late from work or if strange phone numbers turn up on your phone bill... then i'd start throwing my own fit!!
2007-01-15 14:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by quickgirl 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like you shouldn't have married this "man"!
He's got issues, and your marriage looks like it's headed toward a divorce, as bad as that may sound, It doesn't seem like your husband is mature enough to be in a relationship.
Best of luck.
(by the way, get a good attorney and take all of his money!)
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2007-01-15 14:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Joshua 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means you and your husband are having problems.
He shouldn't need or want "alone" time when he's on the computer unless it's about work.
You guys need to have a serious talk....you're heading for problems.
2007-01-15 14:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you know what he is doing. Your instincts are right on the money. Have you thought about installing spy software on the computer?
Decide what you want to do girlfriend, but your actions are not going to control what his decisions are. You have to decide whether you want to stay and work on it or kick his butt to the curb.
2007-01-15 14:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by Missy Lyons 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would get rid of the computer for a while and do some serious talking with him
2007-01-15 14:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It means this is going to have a bad ending. Your marriage is in big trouble.
2007-01-15 14:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by morahastits 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋