what should a 13 year old depressed boy do when he is tired of hanging on in life?

Answer 1

I can remember being 13...It is such a time of anxiety. You are going through so many changes and trying to fit in and it is just so tough. I wish at 13 I could have known what I know now...There is so much more life is bringing your way. Amazing stuff....And if you can just get through highschool in one piece the rest of it is pretty easy :0)

Here are some suggestions for the depression:
1) Join activities...Whatever you like to do...Sports...Drama...Debate...Whatever. Something that you are passionate about and that you will be good at and that will make you feel good. You will meet people with the same interests. Branch out do more activites...Fill up your time...Do not sit around and watch TV and play video games...That is depressing for anyone...
2) Talk to friends and family that you trust. If you have been depressed for awhile...You may need a therapist.
3) Keep a journal...Write is all down. Read it in a month...You will be amazed at how bad you may have felt on a day and realize how much better things got after that.
4) Go to church...Nothing in life has ever brought me more peace than connecting to a higher being.
5) Find a mentor. Someone you respect and that looks successful to you. This could be someone at church, a neighbor, a teacher...Ask them to talk with you every week or so and help you talk about big decisions. Sometimes it is easier to talk to an adult that is not your parent. Please do not look to friends for advice....They are in the same boat you are...Worried and unsure.
6) Know that (without a doubt) you have a purpose on this earth and you have no idea what that is yet. You have NO idea the impact that you have on people because we do not ever take the time to tell people.

You have so many fun things coming up. COLLEGE IS THE BEST time ever...Having a career is exciting....Getting married is great...Having kids is the best...But you are so far from that and consumed in today that it is impossible to see that. TRUST ME.

FOCUS on becoming the best person you can. Every day wake up and say you are going to make the most of it...And know that things always always always get better. Some things just take time. And no one is patient at 13 :0)

Life always has peaks and valleys and you have to ride out the valleys and really enjoy the peaks. It is only by going through the tough things in life that we realize how good the great times are...

I hope after you read this...You feel somewhat lifted. I will pray that you feel better and find some peace through the answers people give you.

Take care.

Answer 2

What ever you do don't take the advice from Poopfungus as his life is horrible he wants to drag you down with him. In order to avoid having a depressing life like his here are some websites where you can get some help and advice.
Sometimes depression is caused through emotions like anger which is ok to be angry it just means it needs to be directed somewhere for example through martial arts, kick boxing etc. And sometimes we don't know where it comes from and why we feel this way. So have a think about why you may feel so bad. How do you spend your time? If it's in front of the computer most of the time try a little experiment because when we spend so much time in front of a box our brains aren't doing much and there's too much stimulation. Decide that for the rest of the day you might do something else, something that will change your mood. It might be going for a walk in nature and if you can't go outside then imagine yourself walking along a beach. The idea is to change what you are doing and this will change your thinking and your mood. No matter what happens in life you can always empower yourself when you need to. And you can say I did it myself!
So please don't give up on yourself!

Answer 3

Everyday, sincerely pray to the Lord and ask him to give you a mind to want to live and to lead you to the right (trusted) health official that can provide you with the care you need. Also, ask him to lead you to a bible based church that preaches the true word of god. Finally, continually ask him for EVIDENCE that your prayers are being heard. And, EVERY morning when you wake up talk to the lord out loud and say " Thankyou Lord for a will to live" and expect him to do it. When you do this, you are speaking posivitive things into existence. Even if you don't feel like saying it, just do it. Sooner than later, you will find that you will feel a lot better. What you need to remember ..... is that life never ends. You don't belong to yourself and you can't die to yourself. It's either HEAVEN or HELL. Being tired of hanging on is not an option. Suicide equals HELL. Sorry if it sounds strong. That's just the way it is.

You are in my prayers!

Answer 4

Remember that there is a tomorrow and eventually you will overcome what is depressing you. Believe in the love that others (even those who dont know you) may have for you. Life is not easy for any of us, I feel a lot happier when I think of just the fact of the love the God, or the Earth has for me. Hold on and be strong you wont always be 13.

Answer 5

Talk to someone, anyone. Find an adult and let them know how you feel. If you can't talk face to face with someone, write a letter and give it to them. There are all sorts of treatments out there to help you feel better. I know 13 is such a hard age. But you can get through it, no matter what the problem. Please don't do anything terrible. You don't know how hard it is for all the people left behind. A friend of my daughter's committed suicide at 14, and it tore everyone up. Not just his family, but his friends and teachers, and even people who hardly knew him. There is no problem so bad that you can't be helped. I have no idea who you are, and I would like to give you a hug and talk to you. So if I, a perfect stranger, would be willing to do anything to see you through this, think how much more the people around you would be willing to help. My heart aches for what you are going through. Feel free to contact me, if you need someone to talk to. ( I was once in your place, so I have an idea of what emotions you are having)

Answer 6

Even if you're feeling sad, lonely and depressed right now, you have to think about the future and not make any rash decisions. You might think that you can't do it anymore, but just think about everything you'd miss. You're only 13, and although things may seem gloomy right now, you have to know that they are going to get better and you'll be alright. Just think about all the things you haven't done in your life yet. Just don't do anything that would cause you to miss out on this precious gift you've been given - the opportunity to live.

Answer 7

well ive been there, i attempted when i was 16 and had been depressed for yrs, i dealt w/ drinking and drugs since 11, but dont take that path, know that you have alteast 80 yrs to go in life and that what you've lived is just a fraction of it, things will change, if you make them, just be open to everything and everyone, i went from the picked on kid in elementary and a lot of high school, to one of the most popular kids in my school, change up where and who you hang out w/ and things will get better

Answer 8

all im really saying is, i got diagnosed with post traumatic stress by the time i was nine... i am nearly 35 and i have 2 regrets in life... 1.) moving to colorado and staying 3 years away from anyone that gave a **** about me and WITH someone that REALLY, VERY didnt 2.) NOT killing someone that richly deserved it, to the agreement of the entire family... AND the police i have 4 degrees thanks to my mother NOT wanting to be a parent anymore and throwing me out at 15... what i do for a living has nothing to do with any of them... but i spend more time using them for free to help people that society doesnt care about. i found a socially acceptable way to walk among people and be a self mutilator.. in fact... people LOVE what i do to myself and ask how they can have it.. until they hear how it is all done. then i scare them. i wear colored contacts because... and hell if i know why... but "spiritual" people are really scared of me and will NOT look me in the eye. they say im "followed".. more than 5 have said this. i have NO CLUE what they are talking about. i can be awake for days at a time.. i do NOT do illegal drugs and never have. in fact i am over 50 hours right now... im told this is impossible. to whomever tells me this i say its NOT impossible its just something they dont know what to do with. my record is 80 hours. im told this should kill people. and yet.. i just stay awake... its NOT fun. its all related to my PTSD. things were "knocked loose", i think, and sometimes ... if you had these nightmares... you wouldnt sleep either. im very protective of people... anyone really (almost). any life but my own. its been called suicidally protective... ANYTHING but letting anyone i know EVER feel like i have ever felt. the rest... just takes too damn long to go through...

Answer 9

Call some one for help!!! There are many people/groups out there that specialize in depression. Call your doctor, he/she can connect you to someone that can help. Don't give up. Whether you think so or not, someone cares about you and doesn't want to see you hurting. Reach out for help.

Answer 10

Ahem. I am about your age. ;)

You know what I do? Just be myself, and most often, when I am depressed, I go to sleep, or listen to "your momma" jokes, or I draw draw draw draw. ^_^ And at least as a lie, I tell myself things aren't that bad.

And when I am happier, then i handle problems,