2007-01-15 14:19:42 · 14 answers · asked by sexy mama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This fellow is very insecure and needs constant affirmation. Its like when a woman asks her husband or friends "do I look fat in this dress"? She knows she doesn't, but because of insecurity, she needs to hear it. This fellow doesn't know how to receive love and therefore needs affirmation. I can almost guarantee you that when he says he is leaving, he is wanting your daughter to "beg" him not to go, or beg him to come back. Until he gets some help with this, it will be a pattern throughout the relationship. She wont be happy. If you want to see if I'm right. The next time he threatens to leave and not come back, have your daughter tell him, "o.k, see ya later". Then tell her not to call him. I can almost guarantee it will drive him nuts. A good counselor can help him get to the bottom of his insecurity. Chances are, he didn't get much if any affirmation from his parents. Hope this helps. :)
2007-01-15 14:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, speaking from recent experience, there isn't much you can say to your daughter until she realizes for herself that the boyfriend is a worthless piece of hooie. The best thing you can do is to be there for your daughter, tell her how smart and beautiful she is and hope that she finds out sooner than later that she can do much better than what she's got now.
2007-01-15 14:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by quickgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is telling her this it is most probable that he is trying to just get her attention. In my experience, if a man wants to leave, he just will. My guess is this: he is trying to scare her off to get a reaction from her. Why? Well, there may be a number of reasons, and that is for your daughter to figure out. It could be anything from that she's not paying him enough attention to that she won't agree to do something.
2007-01-15 14:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by km_berrios 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as hard as this may be for you the truth is some times there is nothing you can do, especially if your daughter want to see the truth. i was with a guy that didnt treat me so good and my mother tried in vain to help me see but i refused. it took for my feelings to really get hurt and hit bottom for me to get a clue and sometimes all you can do is be there to pick your daughter up. all i can say is be there to listen and remind her how special she is and that she was made for better but at the same time dont bitterly lecture her for hours cus then she is just gonna shut you out.
2007-01-15 14:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by sueany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that he can go she doesnt need that all the boyfriend is after is her begging him to stay so that he feels the power. I reakon the next time he says it, that she should just agree with him. lets see if he really does go, and if he does then good on him, she needs someone else that is going to treat her with respect and that is going to stay with her, he might be cheating on her that is other reason for him saying this as well never know.
2007-01-15 14:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she needs to get out. Your daughter doesn't need the kind of drama and stress this guy is putting on her. Him threatening her is a form of abuse and it can tear you down after dealing with it for so long.
2007-01-15 14:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh i hate guys who do that! does your daughter still like him?or love him? just tell her (if she is all sad and crying) to get over him, there is a whole world of guys that are willing to like her. my mom told me that and that u should get over it and move on. it happened to me once a guy broke up w/me i cried my mom said he was a big jerk because im a rly good girl. i RLY hope this helps and sorry if this doesnt make any sense
2007-01-15 14:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by whitney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that he is using this as a manipulating technique to control her. He is causing her stress because she isn't sure what her next step is suppose to be. Tell her to end the drama and tell him that she has had enough and good-bye.
2007-01-15 14:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be her emotional support. Let her know that she does not have to take this from him or any other man. But leave the ultimate decision up to her. Just let her know you are there for her if she needs you.
2007-01-15 14:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by jenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well she should just leave his sorry behind. if he keeps telling her this then he really doesnt want to be with her. she should just find the courage to pack up and leave him b 4 he tries, trust me she will fell better if she does it this way. then he may not really want to leave her he just says this to see what she will do to make him stay.
2007-01-15 14:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋