Tell me whether or not it helped save your marriage and how??
How do you find a good counsellor??
2007-01-15 13:46:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes i have and yes it did help save the marriage because we both went and wanted it to work.... But i prayed alot too and God helped us as well and we also read marriage books... Go to http://www.marriagetoday.org and see if they can help you there as well and also doctor phils website has a page linked to it that he and Robin has for the marriage. I am here if you need a friendly ear as well.... Do you go to church??? If so ask there for help and if not a local church in your area may offer you counseling and help as well.
2007-01-15 14:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would pray about it and asked God to help me find the best Christian marriage counsellor. This is something I didn't do after my husband & I separated. I went to a non-Christian counsellor and she was all positive and on my side about everything until the end of the sessions(about 2 months)then she was telling me to do all this sinful stuff that I would not ever do. She said that this will win my husband back for good. And stupid me, I believed her and did just what she wanted me to do and it did not bring him home at all. It made it worse! Christian counsellors are the best & they are always positive. But God is the best of all, cause he hates divorce. He is also a great husband too! I will be praying for you & your family! Have a blessed day!
2007-01-15 14:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by scolburn1961 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is a great way to communicate with a partner and especially helpful to get an outsiders view of the situation. (definetely one's view of a professional) Counseling can help if both partners are committed. If only one goes, that one will get help and if only for themself, it will make for a better way of living and communicating for them. You should give it a shot! Your place of employment or his probably covers marriage counseling or else look through the county. Don't just think about it, go do it!
2007-01-15 13:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want some good advice for not only your marriage but also your kids,i would strongly recommend you and your husband read the book published by the jehovahs witnesses called,The Secret to Family Happiness,you can look on watchtower.org and look it up.it honestly helped my marriage work out,theres a chapter in there that talks about when your marriage is about to end,thats exactly what i was going through and my husband and I read it together and it really helped.i hope it helps you too
2007-01-15 13:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by laura m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it didn't help me. Both people have to be willing to see the way they need to strengthen or how they destroy the marriage. If both aren't on board, it won't work.
I asked friends, and called the insurance company. I also asked for references to see how involved they were in the community. I went with the highest rating from the community and insurance company
2007-01-15 13:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by eleven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only works if both people are willing to work at it. Both have to accept responsibility for why things are in the shape they are and accept the criticism/advice from the counselor. Start first with your family physician if you feel comfortable with that. He/she should be able to make a good recommendation.
2007-01-15 13:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by sammiejane67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never heard much good about marriage counseling...
2007-01-15 14:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had only been married 5 months and together for 5 years when we went and it made us so much closer . I think it will be something that we will use in the future to keep us on track.
2007-01-15 13:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sara M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can only if both parties are in argreement to go for it. You might want to put Christ ahead of this situation and let him guide you to the best councelor. good luck and God Bless your marriage
2007-01-15 20:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by miss out spoken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counselling can help you both communicate better and get things off your chest that you didn't know how to talk about. they also teach you how to fight fair. too many adults act like immature idiots when they get angry. with a counselor there , both parties learn to act civil and work it out like adults. good luck
2007-01-15 13:51:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋