I am tired of improving my love life and holding it to be safe alwiz..... at the same time hv to concentrate own parents, career....etc
At 1st I was a normal gal who was so excited to get married in 1 year time. but now.... i am confused. do I need to safe my love relationship forever.... i don't think so i will have that much energy to do it forever........ my bf use to pour so much love n care but now things seem faded little. Is this how all married ladies outside there suffering? Is this normal..... I am worried if one day I will get pist off with this n move on n search for my own life or even maybe will go crazy... why is it so hard for a guy to be the same to their gf since started love? Its more harder to make them understand sometimes as they can't accept that they are changed.....
Those understand what i trying to convey.. may share your view plsss... possible married woman n man pls !
2007-01-15 13:45:23 · 10 answers · asked by cute 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Going to marry end of the year 2007. I do concentrate on him alot... the most in my life actually. I practised "whatever goes will come back again". So i be nicer, caring n loving to him more than anything before i reach this level of tiredness.
Some Confusion happens when he did mistakes having gal (friends) n now he realised. He do love me. But i just can't forgive him sometimes thou i love him the most n my heart wan to investigate more on what other mistakes he did. I just can't build the 200% trust that I used to have on him.... n i know it will take time..... :(
2007-01-15 14:25:30 · update #1
It's all about the choices we make.
2007-01-15 13:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It totally depends on your planning. How you search the partner whether by love or arrangement becomes history after wedding & is left far behind in life experiences, none actually bothers. Sustaining happy life after wedding is much more important than the way of selection of the life partner before that. Does anyone ask how anyone got married ? I don't think so. In an arranged marriage all possible good qualities of the boy or girl is explored by parents, relatives & friends in finer details which unmarried boys & girls overlook having no knowledge & life experiences which may create problems later. Married life needs not only love, many other things too like house management, money savings, budget making & expenditure control. When parents manage these things , they're not visible. After wards, it is felt badly for which one is not well prepared.
2016-05-24 19:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look have you paid attention to yourself? Chances are that you have changed too a guy doesn't change just because. Its both in the relationship. What I would do is go out with you're girlfriends have some drinks and relax don't focus to much on the relationship..yes you love him he loves you that should be more than great! Take a big breath and let it go. Everyone goes trough the same thing you are going through. My suggestion relax and focus on the good of you re marriage! : )
2007-01-15 13:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by biglilone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships never stay the same. The longer you stay together the more comfortable you get with each other and usually start taking each other for granted. i've been married coming up 31 years now..and we are in what we call a "comfort zone". I would rather be in this zone than be out on my own or playing the dating game again. I'm not sure I understand your question..but love either gets better..stays on an even plane or gets worse. It will be what you make of it..and whatever effort you put into it you'll reap the rewards.
2007-01-15 13:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Georgia Girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being in a good and happy marriage means that both people are committed to making the marriage work.
Both people have to want this because they can't imagine life any other way.
People grow constantly....sometimes together and sometimes in different directions. In a marriage both people do what they need to do to make sure they always end up on the same side of the street.
2007-01-15 14:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are people really happy in marriage. You have to remember it is a give and take situation. There is no room to selfish. And you need to talk things over and not be prepared to run at the first disagreement. It takes work and sometimes it is trial and error. I have wonderful hubsand and companion this did not happen overnight. You need to grow up and think about someone other then yourself before you even think of marriage.
2007-01-15 13:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by thmsnbrgll 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've seen 2 marriages that gave me hope and heard a man say that after 40 years of marriage it was now better than the honeymoon. after studying about "Truth of a Right relationship" and practicing what I had learned I had received proposals from about 5 women. Not because of who I am or what I look like but because of what I believe and have learned. It is learned and it is awwwsommme!
2007-01-15 14:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by windwalker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're married - your vows were til death do us part, not until you got bored. You said he's changed (faded), is it possible that maybe you've changed (faded) too, and he's just responding to you? You want him to be more loving? Show him more love. You want him to be nicer? Be nicer to him. You want things to be more fun? Plan things to do together. You can't just hope it will change, you have to make the changes. Put him first, before your parents, your career, your friends, etc. Talk to him, ask him if there's anything HE is looking for from you that he's not getting. Whenever my DH isn't treating me right, I start treating him better instead of pouting about it, and it's never failed yet.
Unless, of course, he is abusive. If that's the case, get out ASAP.
2007-01-15 13:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well yes marriage takes alot of hard work and it takes too to make it with each other but you must be willing to continue working at it you will have your bad times but you must go on and forgive and except your mate with the faults he has cause dear no one is perfect....take care and let me add if you really are tired of trying to work at it and he is in no way working at the marriage maybe it would be best if you moved on but marriage does take two to work together
2007-01-15 14:22:12 · answer #9 · answered by blugeanie923 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Timeless question...I recommend that you and your husband read The Five Love Languages. Super easy to read and very insightful.
2007-01-15 13:51:43 · answer #10 · answered by rsgatl677 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋