Early this morning, around 3:30 AM, my "friend", sister, and I got into a car accident with another car

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and her car was damaged, but thank GOD is was not anything that could not be fixed and we only siffered minor injuries. This is how the accident happended... Earlier in the evening we were all supposed to go out after work which ends at 7 PM. However, our plans were delayed when my "friend" said she had to go home (30 mins away) and then take her mom to B-more (about 1 away). But she promised that she would be back by 9 PM. Well, she did not get in until 11:30 PM and still wanted to go to numorous places to hang out. First, we go to another friends house which was about 15mins ( 20 because we got lost)away and do absolutely nothing over there and his room smelt like smoke from weed ( and I do not smoke and hate the smell!) He totally ignored us and played his X BoX the whole time. So, byabout 12:30 AM I tell my "friend" that I want to go somewhere else. She acts like she does not want to drop me off and I told her she didn't have to,but she did and I gave her $10 for gas ( when it was really a $5 ride). We get over to my fother friend's house at about 1:30 AM and my "friend" says she will be back to pick me up in a half hour, until then she was going to the 7/11 and I-HOP. After she got me we were supposed to go to another friend's house. Well, I decide I want to stay for an extra 30 mins (1 hour in total) and I tell her I will be outside at exactly 2:30 AM. It turns out I was outside on time and she was no where to be found. I walk to I-HOP and she was there. I calll numerous times, no answer. Finally, she answers around the 5th call and says she was "waiting" for me for the past 20mins, and I explain to her that she wouldn't have if she had been on time. When she picks me up, I ask her is 1. she were tired and 2. if she wanted me to drive. she said no to both questions. we are driving for about 2 mins, she is already not going the speed limit and is leaning back in her chair. All of a sudden she gets way too close to a SUV and drives directly into it. The first thing she screams when we jump out the car is that it was my fault for having her out so late and I shouldn't have let her drive. I feel a little guilt because she was picking me up,but on the same token we would have been out late anyways becuase SHE wanted to go somewhere else and SHE was the one who was late picking me up. Also, I offered to drive. Is she right? Was this my fault?Should I apologize and help pay for the damages? PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

Gosh just be thankful no one was killed......She was driving regardless of her being out so late it was her fault. Just say you are sorry and leave it at that. If she can't see that she has anger issues and needs to deal with it and be thankful she didn't kill anyone and she wasn't drinking.

Answer 2

If she is only your "friend", why did you commit to spending the entire evening with her? Like it or not, you were a direct cause of her staying out late. I don't think you have any legal obligation to pay for the accident, and her insurance should cover it mostly. But a sincere apology is certainly owed her, and also some sympathy. It sounds like a really awful night, all around, and if you are really friends (vs. "friends") this is the least you can do to try to make things better.

Answer 3

Duh. No.
She was driving. It is her responsibility. She cant blame anyone but herself.
How would she treat you it were something really serious?
You are both immature and trouble for each other.
I suggest putting boundaries on this friendship and a lot of distance between them.
There is never anything good that happens after midnight.
Live and learn, or listen and grow wise.

Answer 4

u should apologize but if she says u dont have to then thats ok but u should pay half and she pay half because u really should have demanded she get out ven thouh dont feel guilty or ele u will go crazy although dont worry jjust be there for each other.