My friend died?

Question

My friend died on Friday morning. I did not know until Friday night when my brother told me. I am very upset because he was the last friend I had left. I have no other friends to go to or hang out with. I already see a counselor, but we meet only once a month. She told me to make a friend, and I made friends with James and now he is dead. He was only 24 years old. 24 year olds aren't supposed to die! What do I do? I am trying to write a sympathy card to his father and mother, but I don't know how to put into words what I am feeling. Please help.

I can't stop crying long enough to figure out what I want to say.

Answer 1

my dearest friend died and I am not ready for it i take it day by day and little by little i want to move on and learn from there mistake and grow off this horrible tradgedie but i will take a little while to get over it and will be happy for the memory of my friend lies inside of me.In The memory of I hold him close to my heart................................this is to help on your card

Answer 2

I'm really sorry this happened to you; it's hard when a friend dies. Unfortunatly, bad things happen, even to healthy and young people.
Whatever you write in the sympathy card will be fine; his parents will appreciate that someone cared about their son. Give yourself plenty of time to grieve; remember, there's no time frame; take as long as you need. It might help to see your counselor more often then once a month, at least for awhile. When you feel ready to make a new friend, try finding a club or organization that has activities you enjoy. That way you get to hang out with a few like-minded people, and maybe one of them can turn into a friend.

Hope this helps, and hang in there...

Answer 3

First, let me give you my sympathy on your lost. I know no one wants to hear this because people say it all the time, but God called him for a reason. You are going to have to see a counselor more than once a month and find a new friend and another friend. Tell his parents "Thank You" for raising a wonderful son like James, that the time that the 2 of you have shared have been the best times. And that he will continue to watch over all of you! The sun will rise and fall and that not a day or night will go by without thinking about him, but to know he is in a better place than here on earth and that you will all see him soon enough! God Bless all of you and my God heal your hearts quickly! I will pray for all of you including James. I'm sorry!

Answer 4

Yes, 24 year olds aren't suppose to die. Make an appointment and see your counselor more often. Obviously something isn't right here if all of your friends are dead. You might need to hang around a new area or really just find somewhere else to find a better selection of friends.

Sorry about your loss. Keep your sympathy card short and simple. If you were a true friend they will understand what you are trying to say in whatever words that you say.

Answer 5

first of all sending a sympathy card is to let the people you send it to know you are sorry for their loss. you must be strong while you are around the parents of the deceased. Keep your chin up you will find other friends, just remember the good times you had with your friend who died, I am so sorry about your loss..It is harder when someone young dies, I have lost young and old people in my life time and I have to say it is the worse thing to have to deal with. I am very sorry. I know when my little brother of 20 years died, killed by a drunk driver, there was nothing anyone could say to ease the pain, and I didn't even notice sympathy cards or flowers or even the people around me. I was sick for a long long time. in fact its been 13 years now and it seems like yesterday to me. only I am better now, time is the only thing that helps people and acceptance, God bless you

Answer 6

I just lost my friend in Oct. She will called by a truck at 5:30 in the morning. Diane was 47. That is also young. I didn't know what to say to her family either except SORRY. I have lost 2 nephews. A 2 yr old from cancer and last summer my 17 yr old nephew in a bad car accident. God takes you when he is ready for you and needs you. Life works in so many ways. Oh yea can't forget I lost my Mom last yr Jan 26 she was only 64. Be strong and there is nothing wrong with crying. LET IT OUT!

Being strong for yourself now and that will make you stronger in the future. Take care. I will pray for you.

Answer 7

I am sorry for your loss. Some people deal with grief in differant ways. Just write down everything your thinking in that sympathy card it doesnt matter if it doesnt make sense. Just write it down. Make more than one card if your have to. If you want something to help deal with your loss I know it sounds hard right now but try to meet new people. Go explore the world, travel to foreign places. Or if you want to stay local find a new hobby. Something you always wanted to do. Dont mourn on the loss (I know its hard right now) think of all the great things they left you with and just look ahead into the future.

Answer 8

Courtney, my heart goes out to you with my sympathy. Parents should never have to bury their child, as in this case. You can be sure that they are as devastated as you are. In fact, by sharing your grief with them, they may gain solace. Be brave and rather than writing a sympathy card, join them in their moment of deep sadness.

When my best friend of forty odd years died, I found that by putting down on the computer all the things we did together, all the fun and sadness we shared helped immensely.

I know from that experience, that there is very little that anyone can say to you to lighten your load or lessen your grief but think, you had a great friend for some part of your life. Many, many never have that advantage. A wise old man once said to me, if you can count your true friends on the fingers of one hand, you are a very lucky person indeed. God bless and may James' soul rest in Peace...........................

Answer 9

im sorry for your loss, death is never easy, especially at the tender age of 24, good luck as the old saying goes time does heal although it may seem as if time is standing still, this too shall pass, try and celebrate this persons life, i know this is hard to do, but be glad that you had the opportunity to know this person
and always remember that every day is a gift, and treat it as if it is, be thankful for your health and family,I saw this lady the other day,she was in a powered wheelchair, controlled by a little stick that she could barely move with her hand , riding down the sidewalk, she had a small boy sitting on her lap, about 9 yrs old they were laughing and smiling and so happy, i thought about how much i have sadness over things that i cant control,and this poor lady was so thankful for her life, and at that very moment i learned the most valuable lesson, it was this, no matter how bad lifes got you down, someone always has it worse, but you can overcome anything, that woman that i saw in that wheelchair has impacted my life and never even knew it, so remember that story and i hope that it helps you overcome your trials, that we all go through at one time or another in our lives

Answer 10

I'm very sorry for your painful loss. There is nothing you can't put in the card. Just express what you're feeling now and let them know that they can turn to you for whatever. I bet they would like your company as they are going thru. this painful loss themselves. Be sure to tell them what your friend James meant to you and what has James done to make/help you be a better person... or just being you!

Take care. Don't worry, in time, you will make plenty of friends. Just treat friends like the way you would like to be treated!

Answer 11

I'm very sorry for your loss.
I know what your going through,I had a best friend killed on a motorcycle in high school and lost my parents in a horrible tragedy a few years back.
On the sympathy card you write exactly what you said in your last sentence.Its perfect.
"I don't know how to put into words what I'm feeling" and sign your name.
the loss through death is not the end of life,its a part of life.
You'll survive this and make it through all right.
Those that die leave us the gift of the wonderfull memories we shared with them.
If it gets too hard for you,call your counselor and explain you need to talk.
there are many ministers and clergy of one kind or another that can offer valuble counsel.
Good Luck to you dear.