what do you when you love some who saids that they hate you and that you are stupid and a dumb b****? then they fight you like you are a man? but you love them and you have children together and both of you want to raise them? i know what i should do but i love him
2007-01-15 13:21:50 · 13 answers · asked by jumiboo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only thing that you could do right now is start praying & asking God to help you, if you love him like you say you do. Only God can change him, not you. I know, cause my husband used to talk to me like that, but he never hit me. I started reading my bible, praying and got back in church. I will be praying for you & your family!
2007-01-15 13:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by scolburn1961 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off stop and read what you just said. You really think that this is OK ? Secondly think of your children. No matter how much you love him, Is this really what you want your children growing up with and seeing everyday ? Do you really want your children to grow up thinking it's OK to behave this way and treat others in this manner ? I know I wouldn't. I also know that no matter how much you love a man like this, he wont change. The bruises get worse and more frequent because no matter how hard you try, you will never be anything more than a punching bag to this asshole ! I'm sorry you are going through this but be strong and think of your kids honey, focus on them and raise them. You may also want to rethink him having contact with them unless it is supervised, if he does this to you who is to say that he wouldn't hurt one of your kids ? Sometimes love just isn't enough....
GOOD LUCK !!
2007-01-15 13:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by jenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this case, I think there is nothing we can advice you that you will take. You yourself are saying that you know what you should do. I think there is no need for any one of us to repeat it to you.
I am going to be very straight forward with you, my friend: he tells you the things he tells you because you let him. He beats you up because you let him. You are still in that house because you want to. And you are hurting your children by staying there.
I can't tell you to stop loving him. What I can tell you is to start loving yourself. I can also tell you to love your kids more. The fact that you would continue to subject your children to that environment is terrible. How can you even say that the two of you want to raise the kids together? I can't believe that a man like that could even make a good father. I can also tell you this without even hesitating: he does not love you. Step out of this relationship as soon as you can, or you will never survive it, and you will have your kids suffer you for the rest of their lives, living with a man like him.
It doesn't even seem like you have tried to get any help. Get help NOW. And, I will recommend you this movie: Enough. With Jennifer Lopez. She had a little problem like yours, too. She had to learn to deal with it the hard way. She killed her husband in her own defense. Do you want to let it go that far? Think about it.
2007-01-15 13:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by km_berrios 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love him BUT he does not love you the way you love him.... I know you won't like this but it is best to let him go even though it will hurt you... You really need to find counseling and help and you need to share custody of the kids like joint custody if at all possible..... Get out now and you need to start to heal and move on with your life.... I know this will take time but you will be better off for it and someday you will find someone who will love you for you!
2007-01-15 13:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your man is showing you the whole package. His good side and his rotten side. You're ignoring the rotten side hoping it will go away, it won't. Anything rotten will eventually rot what's around it. Either you accept that your life is/will be negative (you'll find yourself fearful to speak, low self esteem, bruised, etc) or you'll accept that your life is worthy. However you value your life will determine what YOU should do
2007-01-15 13:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by eleven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the kids and go! Your safety is at risk. How can you love someone who hurts you this way? Love yourself and your kids and get away from this monster right now!
2007-01-15 13:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious .. thats not love thats nothing but drama you only think you love him its not real nobody would call me a dumd a!! bi#$% without getting slapped in the mouth afterwards
2007-01-15 13:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by honeybuzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont love him you love the idea of the man you wish he was. you know what you have to do for your childrens sake if nothing else. they dont need to grow up thinking its ok to be treated like that or to treat people like that. good luck
2007-01-15 13:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by Miranda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT NOW FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR KIDS AND YOUR OWN DIGNITY. HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN'T CARE FOR ANY OF YOU WITH BEHAVIOR LIKE THAT AND IT'S QUESTIONABLE WHETHER YOU DO IF YOU EVEN CONSIDER STAYING WITH SUCH A POOR EXCUSE FOR A FATHER/PARTNER. YOU ASKED!!!!!
2007-01-15 13:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by bobs*chick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? You should see a psychiatrist
2007-01-15 13:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by darling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋