She is six weeks old but I'm just not feeling it. Right now she just feels like an inconvenience and I sort of resent her for the way she has forced me to change my life. I don't even really get a kick out of holding her.
2007-01-15 13:21:28 · 6 answers · asked by John 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I am a male everyone! The picture didn't come up. And I was just being honest - it is hard to admit the way I'm feeling to anyone I know.
2007-01-15 13:42:03 · update #1
Bonding isn't always something that happens immediately. Just go through the motions of taking care of her and comforting her and talking to her even though she won't talk back yet. Eventually she'll look up at you or smile at you and then it will hit you like a ton of daddy bricks. Hope this helps.
2007-01-15 13:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's really sad try relaxing and just being with her my guess is your trying to hard to have the life you had before get over it don't think that you'll never be able to do some of the things you used to you will but not right now. this time with your baby is very important for her development she is totally dependent on you cuddle and talk to her soon shell be smiling and cooing at you and if she isn't getting the nurturing from you that she desperately needs then it will have severe consequences in the long run. i hope you soon realize what a gift she is to you. also check out a book called HIGH RISK children without a conscience its stories about kids that have no significant bond with anybody very very sad
2007-01-15 13:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by sharebear80817 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't hate yourself.The child tend to bond more with her mother cos they when they are in the womb,they here mostly their mother's voice and the fluid around them.another thing is,they can smell their food cos their eyesight is not that good for the first three months. and mothers+nipples=food for baby.
What you can do is get her mommy to pump out some breast milk into the bottle and you feed her this time so she won't keep associating your other half with her nutritional dietary needs.let her listen to your voice,talk to her and sing to her cos when babies listen to your voice more often,she will get use to having you around and start liking you..try to be around her more often,change her nappy or give her a sower inthe morning,that lessen the mother's stress and at the same time allows you to bond with the baby.Good luck.
2007-01-15 14:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by Marie Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you may be suffering from post patern blues.
Go to your ob. get some support . it will get better.
relax you are a new mom and it is very hard. talk to a counselor and get some help. this is not uncommon and you are not mean just tired over whelmed and depressed.
just don't get to the point of resentment that you want to hurt her
or neglect her. God bless honey take care.
2007-01-15 13:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by tennessee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well hey I know how you feel.... just dont rush it.... just kinda wait.... when she says DADA for the first time you will feel an instant bond..... when she gets older you will make the bond stronger.... just make shure she is DADDYS LIL GIRL!!!
2007-01-16 05:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by Get_in_my_belly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you suck man. if you don't have the desire to bond, you won't. find a better parent to give her to. one that will love and not resent her.
2007-01-15 13:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by schneb 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋