Has your partner cheated and you stayed to work things? Did it work out?

Answer 1

We were married a little over 7 years (the itch) and I had just gave birth to our third child when I found out he had been cheating on me for the whole pregnancy I was devastated to say the least he had been my rock for years and the betrayal was sharp We separated for about 2 years but tried to work out our problems and be good parents, believe me it was work on both our parts and took every bit of the 2 years and more after we reconciled but all in all it strengthened our marriage we were married over thirty years when I lost him to a heart attack five years ago and I treasure every moment I had with him I am not saying life was all peaches and cream after the reconciliation but we both wanted to be married to each other and learned new tools to stay that way and to regain the trust it was a good marriage and thru it all he remained my best friend I know this is a long answer and I am sorry for that but I want you to know that you can survive infidelity I was one of those who said I would never take back a cheater until it happened to me am I ever glad I did good luck to you I wish you love

Answer 2

Last year, my boyfriend cheated on me. Due to many reasons that have nothing to do with love or with us having a kid, I decided to let him stay. It has been TOUGH. The worst days are the days when I remember what he did, or when the memory of the day I found out comes into my mind suddenly. Those days, I can't stand being around him. I get paranoid a lot, too.

I can't say if things are going to work out in the end. It has only been 6 months since I found out and I still get flashbacks. If you are considering to stay with someone after they cheated, be sure they love you and that they are no longer with that person or maintain contact with that person anymore. Also, make sure that he is completely serious about never doing it again, and make him see that there will be no more chances. You can even use this little phrase I use: "Whenever you think about cheating on me, just think that I could be thinking the same thing." Be sharp about how serious you are. Don't let him slip for anything.

More than anything, be sure that you have a lot of patience. I mean a lot. I mean A LOT. Because from now on, even if he is serious about being good, it is your mind against your heart, and your memories against your soul. If you think you can make it, I wish you the best, and lots of inner peace.

Answer 3

Stayed not once, but twice. Didn't work out. Although you would like to believe it, you never trust again. If someone truly loves you, it doesn't happen the first time. If you are convinced that you done something to push them away and that's why it happened, wake up honey. You just won a ticket to the next time. Cheating is the worst form of taking the heart and sole from a partner. Lose the person and get on with it. There is greener grass growing somewhere else that would welcome and respect the warm dew you have to offer.

Answer 4

Oh all three of my ex wives cheated on me. The first one was the nicest but we were really young and we just split up afterward. Number 2 is an evil slut. We been apart for years and she tracked me down in alabama and is still giving me hell because she is really nuts. I guess Im gonna have to hook up and move again to get away from her. Number 3 wasnt so bad but she really didnt put up with my butt. She is the one that cracked a skillet over my head when I caught her cheating. I had another that I called my 1/2 wife but my third divorce wasnt final when we got married some how soi she got an anullment after two months. Havent seen her since. Number 3 brother inlaw is still one of my buds but even he is afraid of number 2. We tried to work things out for years but she kept cheating and I kept drinking and fishing and she kept smashing my truck and I ran her dang car into the river. I dont know why jerry springer never called us! Thats what our neighbors used to say. Someday im going to write a dang book.

Answer 5

Yes. 18 months into our relationship I found out he had been cheating on me. Big breakup scene, yadda yadda yadda. About two months later we started talking again, because I discovered that even though I hated myself for it, I missed him. We identified the things that led to the cheating, talked about them, etc, and after about a month of talking through stuff, we tried "going out" again.

The next two years were ugly. I put him through hell asking where he was going, who he was going with, when he'd be home, etc. etc. etc. He knew that he had screwed up and destroyed the trust, so he gave what I needed to rebuild it.

I also had to learn a lot of things - the biggest one being that I couldn't move forward if I spent all my time thinking about the past. We also learned that communication is vital, and that we have to be able to talk to each other about anything... without worrying that the other person is going to take that and use it to attack. That was hard. But in the long run, it was worth it.

The breakup and re-start was 12 years ago. We're now married, and the trust in our relationship is unshakable.

We both realize that if one of us strays for some reason, our relationship is over. There is no "second chance" - this *is* our second chance.

One key thing was that he realized that he had hurt me, that he loved me and wanted to be with me, and that he was willing to change what needed to be changed and do what needed to be done in order to fix the relationship. Far too often you'll find that a cheater is "Guilted" into "changing" - he changes because SHE wants him to, not because HE truly wants to. So the first time there's a fight or he's mad at her, there's no inherent reason to NOT cheat again, and in fact may be done in order to hurt her intentionally.

Answer 6

Yes and I chose to stay because I love my husband with all my heart and I want our marriage to work out. I trust in him that he wont do it again. I found out about six months ago and so far everything is going good. When a relationship experiences something like this it can bring the two people closer if they both want the relationship to get pass this hurdle.

Answer 7

i'm in a courting.. my bf cheated on me just about 2 years in the past .. its in no way some thing i am going to forget and there are definately have self assurance topics. we've come alongside way from the position we were 2 years in the past yet its nonetheless a demanding challenge, he has no longer cheated for the reason that yet its only type of made me experience like a foul man or woman continually questioning him on each little thing he's doing.

Answer 8

yes, my partner cheated, and i stayed to try and work things out, things worked out finally because she left anyway and i am better off without her

Answer 9

Ex wife cheated and I tried to work it out.It seemed the more I tried to work it out the more she cheated.Never did figure that one out so I said have a good life me and the kids are out of here.
My kids were 12 and 14 both girls and they wanted to live with me.We made it pretty good with out much of her help.Now they are 18 and 20.

Answer 10

I've never stayed.
My one friend, his wife was having an affair about 2 years ago, and he is still mentally messed up. He has developed depression and everything else.
My other friend stayed with his fiancee(now married) and got past it after about 6 months, but he was no angel himself.