Should I, Or shouldnt I? TEENAGERS ONLY!! I Dont want old people telling me not to and how presious it it?

Question

I know for a FACT most of my mates arnt virgins any more, We are 13,14, and 15 year old.
My bestfriend Amy defintly isnt.
We have fun messing with guys and doing girl stuff, And telling eachother stories But Amy, AJ, Tyreice, Ali, Kelly, Krista... and loads more always talk about thier sex experienses, and I know its true. Ive seen proof.
On Friday night we are planning on sleeping over amys next door neightbors house, He lets us out whenever we want and we are meeting up with this rich 18 year old. Amy has had sex with him before and apprently he is really good with virgins like he says "Are you sure you are ready" "You sure you want to do this" "are you okay" and he always uses protection. I know that if the protection did break he would pay for me to have a abortion or have the baby, He would even buy me a house and help out.. Im just really scared. I feel im ready but on the other hand i feel nervous and scared and weird I sorta just want it over and done with. What do I do?

Thanks guyz, your right, I think im going to wait.

Answer 1

You want to do an adult thing, but you don't want adults telling you what to do?

I think your parents should ground you.

Answer 2

Don't go through with it...I know you want to be like all your friends but it's really not a good idea. I know you don't want any old person's advice but I was once a young girl just like you who had the same issues...I'm not trying to keep you from being cool or having fun, I'm trying to help you make a good choice. And this would not be a good choice. Do you realize you could have serious problems having a baby at your age or having an abortion? Do you realize you could even die? Do you know how upset your family and friends would be knowing you died over just wanting to fit in? You would miss out on meeting your true love, having kids and a career...all for nothing. If you are scared maybe something is trying to tell you not to do it, like intuition telling you something bad is going to happen. Maybe there's a reason why I happened to answer your question and tell you this. I've heard of people having feelings before they do stuff and like the bad feeling was trying to stop them.

Please think about it some more and make a choice you can feel good about and listen to your gut instinct!

Answer 3

First of all Ill tell you this story..I have a cousin that is 14 years old and she is now 13 weeks pregnant. She is going to quit school and live with her poor boyfriend in a trailer park. So keep that in mind first of all. And so the boy is 18 thats rape..even if your willing if you would happen to get pregnant he would be in alot of trouble. Plus chances are if hes screwing virgins for fun I can almost promise you that he's not gonna man up if you would happen to get pregnant. And it really does happen you can get pregnant the first time. And its a very painful thing..I didnt have sex till I was 17 and it was the worst experience of my life. Plus think about this...your friends that are already having sex..are most likely going to have children before you guys reach the age of 20. So keep that stuff in mind..and theres always the STD'S that are out there..and you know this guy has been around..so who knows what he has. And it may sound old fashioned but sex should be meaningful and at 13 I dont think that is something that you understand yet. I hope you make the right choice. And please be careful. *dont worry im not an old person Im 19 years old and 25 weeks pregnant with my first child...*

Answer 4

I'm not a teen anymore but don't worry, I'm not going to judge you, and I'm not so old that I don't remember!
I was fifteen when I first had sex, and most people would say that's too young. HOWEVER, it was with a boy that I really cared alot about, we were together for a year all in all, and I never regretted it! I felt physically and mentally ready AND I really cared about him, so even if other people think I was too young, I've always been cool about it.
Most of my friends at the time and in the years to follow didn't feel the same about their first time. It was awkward, bad, or just kind of blah. I remember sharing stories with these girls and feeling so relieved that my first time was a great memory and not just so-so.

My advice isn't to wait till you are older or wait till you are married, but to wait until you find someone who is really special. Your body is the most special gift you can give to aother human being so pick someone who really deserves it!!!! Trust me, if you can start seeing your body as a precious gift, your inner strength and self worth will grow, and you will love yourself more.

I know you can't see it, but this guy is using you girls for sex, even if he's nice about it. Obviously, you and your friends are using him for sex, too. My point is that for a lot of people sex is no big deal, but if you can make it be a big deal - a big, exciting, passionate, loving, life changing, mind altering deal - by picking a partner who you truly love, trust and connect with, then why sell yourself short. Why treat something that can be so special as something to get out of the way? You could meet mr. perfect in a month and totally regret wasting your first time on this "rich 18 year old" nobody.

Answer 5

OMG, are you really this stupid!!! LMAO I just love it when you said "I know that if the protection did break he would pay for me to have a abortion or have the baby, He would even buy me a house and help out." And when is he supposed to do this? When he's on 'vacation' from prison??? You are jail bait honey!!! LMAO if you can't even figure out that men play you in this littlest bit, then KEEP your legs closed. He wouldn't even acknowledge your existance let alone "buy you a house" To him your nothing but the sweet little peice of *** he had the other night, and all his buddies will hear about it, is that how you want to be known? As a slut at "13, 14, and 15" whichever you are. What a great way to start you life, full of hopes and dreams.....HAHAHAHAHAHA~GROW UP!!!

Answer 6

I wish at the age of 13,14,or 15 I had someone to talk to besides my best friend about sex because at that age your hormones are raging and all you can think about is boys, I was 13 when I lost my virginity and I was really in love with this boy it was love at first sight (for me)anyway, and after we had sex things changed he just wanted to be the first one to take my goodies,he was the only one that I continuously had sex with and when I turned 14 I got pregnant and I had our son at the age of 15 I'm 30 now and trust and believe I really had to do some growing up fast I missed out on a lot of my teen years because I had a baby and my mom was NOT going to be my live in babysitter so I couldn't go out and chill with my friends, she told me if I was grown enough to lay down and give it up I was going to do the right thing and take care of my responsibility that means get a job and that's what I had to do and It has been very hard, so sweetie use the brain the good Lord gave you and WAIT sex is not going any where and if someone can't wait on you they don't want what you have to offer (mind,BODY,or soul)Stay a teen for as long as you can trust me you won't regret it.
Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Don't hate me - I'm 24! I gave it up at 16 and I regret it. I even knew I was ready, I still believe I was ready and I did it responsibly and I was willing to take whatever came out of it (like maybe a baby!) and I have no qualms about any of that stuff. It was with a friend and we're still friends to this day (that almost never happens!). Honey, I'm not religious by any means, but I hate myself just a little for not waiting. I love my fiance more than I ever thought I could love someone and sometimes I find myself wishing there was something I could do to take away all the people I've been with and be able to say that I'm all his and no one else's. I have been with few guys, but I still wish that.

I'm not suggesting what you should do, I'm giving you in-site into my scenario, that's all.

You'll figure it out.

PS: I'm glad everyone else is doing it, so you should do it too?? (That should just tell you that this guy is a creep and a weirdo and that there's something wrong with him for not being able to find girls his own age. STRANGE on him!)

Answer 8

I think you should wait until you are really in love with someone
before you have sex. I had sex, for the first time, when I was 13.
Basicly, because all my friends said they were doing it and I wanted to fit in and wanted to be like everyone else.
I didn't enjoy sex. It hurt. A lot. Not just the first time, either.
For 5 or 6 times.
Sex didn't feel like all the books said it should. I never had an orgasm or anything. My "boyfriend" even got to the point where
he called me frigid. Eventually, he dumped me.
For a long time, I had a hard time with sex. I couldn't enjoy it.
Then, I fell in love and realised what was missing.
Love, caring, and tenderness.
I wish I'd waited to give my virginity to the man I'm married to, now. When two people love each other and want to please each other, Sex goes above and beyond what the books
describe it as, so do orgasms.

Answer 9

well i don't consider myself old but i'm not a teenager. but i was there not too long ago. just because he's rich doesnt mean he'll do **** for you if you get pregnant. trust me. and your body should mean more to you and you should have more self respect. the decision ultimately is up to you. but condoms are only 85% effective to begin with and you should worry about disease more than pregnancy. i'm sure he does a lot more than just virgins. not to mention if your parents were to find out being that he's 18 he would go to jail for a very long time if they chose to press charges. he should be more careful himself. i regret a lot of things i did already and i'm in my 20's not to mention if you got pregnant you're so young and abortions can damage you to where you can't have any kids later. i have two kids and it's hard for me and i'm an adult sex isn't just something to do and it's not just fun and games. it can be dangerous. everytime you lay down with someone you are at risk of pregnancy and disease. if you get pregnant you are stuck with that person for the rest of your life even if you aren't with them. just look at the person and think would i really want to have a baby with this person? if the answer is no then you shouldn't do it. you should really know and trust someone that you have sex with whether it's your first time or not. (notice i didn't say love all though that can be important too) respect is something that should be there too. (respect for one another) it sounds like you are scared and if you are that scared and nervous you really shouldn't do it wait until you aren't nervous about it or until you find someone who you are completely comfortable with. that will make it a lot easier. even if it's just a good guy friend. whatever you do just be careful.

Answer 10

Im not old. Im a young 21. But an 18 year old guy is bad news. Trust me, I have been there. I would save yourself for when you are in love. I dont think its wrong to have sex out of marriage or anything, but maybe you should consider being a relationship first. If this 18 year old was a real man, he wouldnt be sleeping with younger teens. I hope you really consider this. Also, IF something happens between you guys, he could be in real trouble. I REALLY hope that you dont. Dont let others pressure you.

Answer 11

I hope you realize you are just going to end up another notch on this guys belt, right? He just wants to be able to tell his buddies that he popped a virgin, doesn't care anything about you and probably won't remember your name in 6 months. Unless of course your parents find out and have him put in jail for statutory rape. Do you know why he would even do this with you? Because he thinks you are stupid enough to do it. You think that's cool? That this guy thinks you are an idiot and he can take advantage of you as much as he wants? Why do you think he doesn't find a girl his own age? Honey, it's because they are smarter than you and won't have anything to do with him. That's why he's going after little girls like you. You know, if you said this was a boy that you were madly in love with, that was your own age, then I might be sympathetic, but you are just an accident waiting to happen. His criminal behavior is called statutory "RAPE" for a reason. Do you really want to volunteer to be raped? It's the same as if you walked up to a homeless guy on the street and asked him to rape you. Do you really think that little of yourself? If you have a brain in your head you will wait until you can handle the responsibility of all the things that can go wrong. Even if you use condoms, which you are acting like you are too stupid to consider, condoms break, or aren't used correctly, or they slip off, etc.

Also, what makes you think he's rich? He can't have made a million by 18 years old on his own, so you probably mean his parents are rich. And what would happen if their son got a 13-15 year old pregnant? Well, your parents would legally force you to tell who the father was, he'd go to jail, then his parents would probably cut him off without a dime for getting a 13-15 year old hootchie pregnant. He couldn't buy you a house if he wanted to, you can't even sign mortgage papers or titles until you are over 21.

Why don't you do yourself a favor? You and all your little girlfriends need to go by the hospital nursery and find a baby that's just been born with HIV. Ask the nurses what that child's life is going to be like. Then ask yourself if you are selfish enough to do that to a baby on purpose, because you are just asking for it to happen.

You aren't even smart enough to know when you are getting played, what makes you think you can handle the responsibilities of having sex?