I think it's wrong, and it upsets me. However, I haven't told her of my true feelings since she is a good friend. I think she will be upset to hear of my feelings. I don't have a right to judge, so I don't. But, it's has been bothering me for 3 years now. Should I tell her or leave this alone? She will stand in my upcoming wedding too, which I think it's such an paradox. Am I wrong for doing nothing w/ this situation?
2007-01-15 13:09:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok let me get this right. she is gonna stand up in your wedding? hmmmmmm well first of all i would surely tell her how i felt.... I mean come on girl put yourself in our place for once ....she could be haveing an affair with any one of our husbands!!!!!! we dont know if you are 20 hours away are 10 miles away . stand up for what you KNOW is right . dont let her put you in the same category as her . and by you allowing this you are no better than her!!!!!! how would you like it if she was with your husband????? i know if i had a girl/guy friend that was with a married person i would HAVE to say something it is only moraly right!!!! ppl that dont say anything and allowed friends to do this is just getting the point across to everyone that its OK to do this .... my mom of 11 years cheated on my dad . she had 6 kids with him it tore my family apart!!!!!!!!!!! it is just wrong and i cant express that enough!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i can tell you are not like this person and you think it is wrong , untherwise you wouldnt be questioning her actions like this . trust your instinct sweetie just cause you are friends dont mean you have to like what she is doing!!!!!
GOOD LUCK
AND GOD BLESS!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-15 13:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by sassy4you 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand you being upset and feeling that it is wrong. I learned the hard way though, you never know someone's true thoughts or reasons or feelings unless you are in their shoes. It is okay to let her know you're not happy about her doing this, but it isn't necessary to DO anything. You are perfectly right for not doing anything with the situation except being her friend. Good luck.
2007-01-15 13:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only normal for you to be upset with the situation....and perhaps...if she is your true friend you should be allowed to tell her you do not approve of the affair...however....you cannot and should not go any further than just that ! What she gets up to really is only her business. I wouldnt let it break up what is cleary a very close friendship with you.
As for her standing at your wedding..i can understand your views...but do not let her very private life interfere with your wonderful day...im sure she will be very proud to stand that day.
2007-01-15 13:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by bgmbgmbgmbgmbgmbgm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. At the very least, you should not have her stand for you at your wedding until she does right. Do you want someone with those sort of morals to support your marriage? It's like building a mansion on rotted wood.
2007-01-15 13:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by Blah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been quiet for three years and it has bothered you?
Do whatever you feel is best. Could it be that since you are now getting married, you are afraid for her to be around YOUR husband since she has no respect for marriage vows?
Be careful of your friends.
2007-01-15 13:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont no someone e-mail me and how old is she
2007-01-15 13:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by mcspeedy:) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋